| nordlead said: wow. you are a peice of work. I'm convinced your only view of socializing is if you walk by 1000 random strangers in a single day and then maybe yell at a couple for almost running you over, order a cup of coffee from another, and then hold 1 meaningful conversation with a random guy at the news stand. Oh, and that friend that you know at work and are good budies with, he doesn't count. Oh, I forgot to add that you need to get drunk at a club and chat with another stranger that you'll never meet again. However, if you subscribe to the small town everyone knows everyone with a small number of really good and close meaningful relationships you are "anti-social". Who knew I was anti-social just because I don't live in NYC. |
Answer me this. Do you have to be active in said town? If all you did was just go to work and get food and meet with your buddies, how much would you have socialized with the other people there? You yourself said you were active, what if you weren't? Believe it or not the one or two random guys every few days really adds up to a lot at the end of the year, ad by the end of several years it's a big amount.
The closest thing to being actively social in the US, outside of NYC, are college campuses where I can jsut passively go about my day and meet a wide variety of people without being active in groups or any of those things and evenrtually I meet new friends. In fact, a college campus' social environment is exactly the way cities work in Europe, and you know just how many new people you meet on a college campus in the US.
In the US, 1 out of 4 people have zero people they can confide in. In fact the average number of close friends, and this is for the US but I am sure it's true for Europe as well since it has been getting more Americanized lately, has been steadly dropping over the last 20 years. I dare say, tha of those those random people you meet every day or two, at least one will end up being a friend given enough time.
