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johntonsoup on 09 March 2010
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Wildvine53 said:
PhoenixKing said:
Kasz216 said:
PhoenixKing said:
Kasz216 said:
As for the "inhuman specialiness"...

if you don't believe in that... all it means is you haven't expierenced it.

Lots of people actually feel they have though.


Or for that matter... even dated or met more then a couple people. I mean it takes different amounts of time to know different people. There are some people you meet and know in a day. Others you have to feel out for a long time. It's not surprising at all that it might take forever to feel if you REALLY feel that way about somebody... and it's not surprsing it might take no time at all depending.


Love arises out of feeling compassion and similar to someone after a long time, it's not some spontaneous nonsense like Hollywood would have you believe.


Not everyone would agree with you.  There are plenty of people who say they knew they were going to be with the person as soon as they met.

Desperate people, maybe.

You shouldn't down play something you haven't experienced

I don't mean any offense, but this kind of thinking is nonsense. You guys are discussing whether "love at first sight" exists, he said that he doesn't believe in it, and you respond that until he experiences it he has no room to talk. You see where this ends up don't you? If it doesn't exist, he'll never experience it, so he'll never be able to discuss the matter.

As to whether it acutally exists or not, I frankly don't care. I haven't experienced it, I don't know anyone who is married who believes in it, and I am not holding my breath that it will happen for me. Now, I definitely have thought to myself "Hey, she looks/seems cool" from across the room, gone over to chat, and ended up in a relationship with them. I think the people that say the knew they were going to be with the person as soon as they met really mean that they liked them from the first moment and they just never stopped liking them. That's great but it isn't some magical property where two people are perfect for one another. Being in a real relationship means compromise and understanding, not holding out long enough to find someone perfect.

As for the movie itself, I totally agree with the OP. I thought it was a movie that was willing to look at love from an adult perspective, but instead we were getting the classic "off by one" love redemption story.