Are you a virgin?

[mrstickball]

highwaystar101 said:

mrstickball said:
Yes. I am unsure if I've ever posted on this thread.

I've been with my fiancee for 6 years, 1 month and 2 weeks and am still abstinent. I thoroughly believe its led to a much stronger relationship and suggest that everyone stay abstinent to strengthen their relationship.

Of course, if your married, screw as much as you can with your spouse :-p

If it's not a personal question, there's something I've often wandered about abstinence. Can you do *shifts eyes away*, y'know, other stuff?

Thats really up to the couple, I guess. In our situation some....Things....Go on that aren't sex. Of course, we try to avoid it as much as possible, as it does make staying abstinence more difficult.

YES

& I'm proud

@mrstickball

BUT HOWWWWWWWWW?

how can you resist?

I could cite a few things:

• God. Having a moral basis for staying abstinent helps. Also, having a focus on that set of morals helps avoid lust and other things that make resisting much easier.
• The actual relationship. I know a lot of people argue that sex brings people closer together, and I am sure it does if your wholly committed (ie married), however, I think that being abstinent makes a relationship much, much stronger. When your not focusing on the physical aspects, then you are focusing on the mental, emotional and spiritual aspects of the relationship. If your not learning about being good in bed, then you are (or at least should be) learning about how to handle having a strong relationship with that person. The thing is, my relationship with my fiancee is so strong that I don't need sex to define the relationship - she is my best friend so there is far more to what we do as a couple than to make sex a priority.
• The fear of pregnancy always helps :-p