D_Boy said:
Ok...here goes. Now, the stuff I advise you is not 100% fool proof, nor does it guarantee that anything will happen. That is up to you during your time together, and how you handle yourself around her (confident...not a pussy).
Here are some ideas for going out with her alone. Now, since you are 14, here are some activities I suggest for you to do together.
-Mini Golf. Oh boy...this one is very good. It is fun (even at my age I still enjoy it), and you can easily interact with her, maybe flirt with her a bit, see if she "teases" you. This could also be the chance to break the touch barrier (if you haven't already). The touch barrier is physical contact beyond a standard hug (like a slight touch on the arm, shoulder, etc) If you are game, you can offer to be her "golf instructor" (aka stand behind her, hold her arms and help her putt) That would be the perfect situation if that happened.
-Go to a quiet place together and walk, talk, lie on the ground looking at the sky, etc. You are obviously already doing this, but not with her alone. See if you can get her alone in that situation, and really try to get to know her. You will be able to see if she is interested in you if she asks you a lot of questions as well, so it isn't just a one way convo...BUT...don't spill your life story. So that means no broken heart stories, no talking about a really bad point in your life. Keep it positive, make sure she is smiling/laughing. Always try to flirt a little in the convo. Also, if she is wearing a bracelet, slowly move toward her, softly examine the bracelet and say something like "This is a really nice bracelet...where did you get it from?" This kills 2 birds with one stone...physical contact plus you seem genuinely interested in it. Girls buy that stuff to get noticed...
During these times though, you have to be careful not to say or do anything that you will regret. Also, keep and eye out for body language. Is she playing with her hair, biting her bottom lip, fidgeting. Is she checking her phone every second or is she paying attention to you. These are crucial signs.
How to ask her. Well...this one is really easy. You seem to know each other well enough that you can just ask her straight forward....BUT...I would ask like this "I wanted to go play mini golf, go to this nice spot, whatever...but nobody wanted to go with me..." See how she reacts...if she offers to go with you...that is very good. She is interested in spending time with you. If she doesn't offer, she might be testing you...so say something like "Would you like to join me?" If she says yes....you're done. If she says "No, i'm busy then, but I can go (insert day)"..also good. If she says "No, I can't go...i'm busy" but doesn't try to reschedule, you have a long tough road...and if she says "No" straight out...you will never be more than friends.
More to come later.
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