What if you met the girl/guy of your dreams

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epsilon72 said:

Rubang B said:
You gotta tell the truth.

I mean, if you don't, you're a liar, right?

If things don't work, it'll got a lot worse before it gets better, but then when it gets better, which it will, you'll be smarter and emotionally stronger for it.

And you can always sic the VGChartz crew on her. We take care of our own.

*readies killer possums*

 

*casually pulls a spiked club from behind his back* Count me in too. :) Seriously though, as everyone said, be direct. And as desperate as you might be for her, don't act or come of as desperate. Try your best to be confident and mature about, but don't act like you're pressuring her to make or break your life. I'd chat her up a few times to re-establish the lines of communication, then when the moment was right put it all on teh table. In your situation I'd tell her the very reason you have been avoiding her. I'd tell her that I was smitten with her, but respect the fact that she has a boyfriend and that I'm not the kind of guy to break a relationship up. Tell her that is why you've been making yourself scarce, but you felt it was wrong and misleading to just ignore her and such. Now, if at this point in the conversation you're not getting any signs that she is liking what she's hearing...calmly turn around, then hit the door like you stole something. Actually, I'm kidding about the running part, but you should get a decent read of how she feels when you're telling her this. Just lay it out there without going overboard and rambling on. Have an exit plan ready, as things could get akward quick(even if she is interested). If she is into you, she still has to make up her mind about what to do with her old man. So it may take time for her to come to a decision. If she isn't interested, you're a better man for the experience. You'll then know that in your future dealing with women, things could never be as painful as they are for you now. I had my heart curb-stomped by a girl I still care for to this day. When she finally took my soul in her hands and snapped it in two, I surprisingly felt much better when I knew where we stood. The really painful part was being jerked around and left in limbo. It sounds odd, but it's the truth. Face it, be ready for the worst, but be confident that life goes on. You'll never have to dread situations like this again; you've handled it once, you can do it again.