Honestly, you sound desperate. Don't offer to help the woman with random legal services, don't mention your profession, and sure as shit don't ever try to drop where you live as bait to a stripper. It not only cheapens you but it also cheapens her. If she's good looking and talented, she probably gets it every day. Maybe not outwardly but there's still a condescension there in the background, as if your social status is somehow relevant to the burgeoning relationship.
If you truly want to get to know this girl better, come out and ask her. Be genuine and throw out "I want to have dinner with you. That's it." if you really have feelings for her. And SURE AS SHIT don't sleep with her right off. These girls are hit on all night, every night. They're physical objects to 99% of their clients (with most of the other 1% falling into the "extremely creepy" category). Don't be one of those guys. Don't try to impress her with money, symphonies, or legal advice. As the sage-like Jay once said, "Go for the heart, yo." Take her someplace nice, talk her up, get to know her, and break that stripper shell. Then take her back home and do it again, slightly stepping up the intimate relationship as things progress. Take the ball away from her and play your own game. She's probably used to guys wooing her with objects; do something different.
Many strippers aren't the typical whores that they inevitably get labeled as by guys. Many use the profession to get through school, pay debts, whatever. Then, when they realize that the money can't be topped in a traditional profession without years of hard work, stay in it as long as they can.
Without prying, how old is this girl? I'm curious. That says a lot about a stripper.
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