| WessleWoggle said: Well, if your spouse does not have what you want... Why would they be your spouse in the first place? I really don't get the question. How would experience not help? Yes, there's concepts of anticipation and connection when you're both virgins, but is that really better than being truly satisfied, and knowing your own personal concept of full satisfaction? What you seem to be getting at, is that with sexual unbias comes less reasons to love each other less. But, what I think, is... Degraded love from unsatisfying sex > Better love from sexual ignorance |
Because there's more to a marriage than pure physical attraction? If you abstain from sex from other partners, then your learning about that person exclusively, which has scientifically correlated with lower divorce rates. That's a known fact.
Also, what is personal satisfaction, and how would you not know what that is with one person, fully comitted to what you want?
I think you may not understand the concepts behind waiting for someone, and experiencing sexual intimacy with that partner exclusively. It's a great thing, because you develop your personal system of needs and desires exclusively with that person. Maybe it's that 'ignorance is bliss' thing, but leads to far less disatisfaction when you learn your partner exclusively, rather than dozens of others before you settle down with someone. And again, given the complexities of a relationship - the mental, emotional, physical, and other aspects - why would you degrade your bonding with that person for 'experience'? Are you married, by the way?
Back from the dead, I'm afraid.
