| WessleWoggle said: I hate the word abstinence. When I got sex ed in 5th grade, I never heard the word. All it said was that the only way to prevent any STD was to not have sex at all. But now the word abstinent had all kinds of connotatios tied to it. "I'm abstinent, I'm special, I'm better than you". Abstinence should not be encouraged. I think it's actually better to promote promiscuity before marriage so you can gain experience as to what you like and dislike and, so your marital sex life is even better. I think abstinence is more likely to lead to sexually based marital troubles, though I see how the reverse can be true, because as the say ignorance is bliss. Being abstinent is like waiting untill you're 21 to drink. Lame, and pointless. Learning and Experiencing > Denying and Wondering |
I don't think that being promiscuous before marriage helps experience at all. Only shows what your marriage partner lacks at in the bedroom. If your very experienced in sex, and have a very specific set of desires & wants, and your spouse does not, how is that experience going to help at all?
Studies show that abstenence is the exact opposite of your argument. It leads to less problems, as you don't develop a list of needs & wants by casual sex encounters, only to have your hopes dashed by your partners needs and wants.
From my own personal experiences with abstinence, I can assure you that this is the case. Waiting for the right person, especially your marriage partner, makes for a far better experience, because your anticipating sex together, as a joint act, and learning to exert proper sexual desires, rather than already knowing everything, and hoping that the other attractions you have for that person spill over into the field of sex.
And by your argument that abstenence is like waiting till your 21 to drink, why don't we lower age of consent laws to 12 years old? I mean, if there's nothing bad about it (provided its done safely), then why should it be prohibited at all?
Back from the dead, I'm afraid.
