madskillz said:
Flow said:
Oh, you shy people got a serious problem...
You know you have to "lose the shyness and go and talk to a girl".
I'll use a nice metaphor here, it's like you live in the jungle and there's a freaking big and evil tiger surrounding you and threatening to kill you in you little cave at any moment.
But you fear this tiger, yes! And by fearing the tiger i mean being shy to talk to a woman, fearing rejection.
But you know you've got to lose this fear... and what do you do?
This is the point where most of you think you've got to grab a random boulder and jump in this tiger like you have a S on your chest just because you've lost your fear. And damn, that's wrong. You may probably kill the tiger, but you will be hanging for your life. And probably the tiger will eat you alive.
What you gotta do is craft your weapons, study the tiger, train your fighting skills, and then face the tiger when you know what you are doing.
So, be aware that the direct approach (talking about women now, but that also apply on tigers and most big animals) will probably let you down. You need to make the female like you first, get friendly and intimate with her, tease her, and when you know you're there, go for that mouth, you'll know when she wants it.
THIS is what you need to stop fearing to do. Now drop that damn boulder |
Dude, wouldn't that approach like kill your prey? I would rather lay down and get busy than killing stuff. That's just bloody and nasty. Gimme good lovin', FTW.
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Do you know why i compared the woman to a tiger? It's not because the woman is actually a threat.
It's because platonically loving a woman kills you inside. Doing nothing about this love kills you inside, you need to know if you have a chance with her and go for it or that it's going nowhere and move on and forget her, or else the pain can be unbearable.
Love is irrational, yes. But you need to be rational when going to talk to the girl, try to get her to like you instead of "hey you're hot let's get busy?" or something, like the OP did.
And this is what i was trying to explain with a nice, simple and bloody metaphor to help the OP stop suffering. Of course, maybe it's not love that he is feeling.
