Vertigo-X said:
Flow said:
Vertigo-X said:
I'll try to weigh in and give my opinions, too!
Love is real but so is infatuation. There is no clear line between the two, just many different signs that, when combined, can give you and others an adequete picture. Love is something that can't be explained, only described with little clarity.
Infatuation, however, is what people think is love. I believe you are infatuated with this girl. I believe, as opposed to infatuation, love is something both people have to share. Infatuation usually only happens from one side. It sounds like your girl has some issues that she needs to assess.
My first girlfriend was very much the same way. I thought that what we had was love but it was simply infatuation. In our relationship we were making the same mistakes despite vowing to change. It didn't take long to realize that our problems would never go away, and such we decided it was best to part ways.
Now, you might be able to handle the fights, but it is evident that they are burdening her. If this has been going on for a while, you might be able to see a pattern in your relationship. Both of you will have to make a choice to brave the storm or part ways. You will both be stronger people in either case.
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Thanks for posting.
Things are getting better, even though we're still on a break, she can't resist me sometimes and kiss me, and says she loves me, and i do the same, i can't bring myself to play those games with her...
But i don't really get the "issues that she needs to assess" and "they are burdening her"...
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Good to hear that things are getting better! Hopefully you two are meant for eachother. 
What I meant, though, is that there are elements of a person's past that can cause them to react a certain way to situations. For my ex, she had issues with her father leaving her, making her feel unimportant and vulnerable. There were times where I wouldn't be feeling very good and she'd misinterpret my sourness as an act like her father's. She clammed up and it took me days and even weeks to get her to open back up to me again.
I meant to simply remark that she might have issues like my ex's. She might not, though, so I could simply have misidentified it. 
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So, you even had the source of her problems and still parted ways? Do you think it was better than going through the storm?
And don't be ashamed to post, as you last emoticon tells :P, it's good to hear opinions.
