| Flow said: So, here i am, a goddamn atheist, nihilistic, skeptic, in love? There's this girl, and well... When everything is okay between us, it's fucking wonderful, there's nothing better than the two of us together. But man, she can't stand a fight. I mean, fights happen at any relationship and couples are meant to go through it as couples, but instead of talking, she goes about ending the relationship and i have to make an effort to get everything allright. Damn, she talks about how she's not good enough for me because she is too shy to make a lot of things with me and this ruins our relationship. This must have happened a lot of times already, but this time it was a little more serious from her side, from her wanting time and all, something she never asked before. Thing is, is not that i want a girl to wrap my arm around and call mine, it's because i fucking love her, there are other girls i know that are insterested in me and i can have them if i leave this girl behind but i can't see myself happy with anyone else. And now, i don't know if she will come back, damn, probably yes, but i don't know if i should keep taking it... Oh i needed to take this out, sorry people.
So, do you believe in love or you think it's just our brain messing with us and we can move on? |
I'll try to weigh in and give my opinions, too!
Love is real but so is infatuation. There is no clear line between the two, just many different signs that, when combined, can give you and others an adequete picture. Love is something that can't be explained, only described with little clarity.
Infatuation, however, is what people think is love. I believe you are infatuated with this girl. I believe, as opposed to infatuation, love is something both people have to share. Infatuation usually only happens from one side. It sounds like your girl has some issues that she needs to assess.
My first girlfriend was very much the same way. I thought that what we had was love but it was simply infatuation. In our relationship we were making the same mistakes despite vowing to change. It didn't take long to realize that our problems would never go away, and such we decided it was best to part ways.
Now, you might be able to handle the fights, but it is evident that they are burdening her. If this has been going on for a while, you might be able to see a pattern in your relationship. Both of you will have to make a choice to brave the storm or part ways. You will both be stronger people in either case.
The BuShA owns all!
