I've never thought of video game women as sexy. Sure, I can look at them and deduct that the character is suppose to be sexy, but there isn't any emotional 'sexiness' to them.
As for playing females in RPGs, I just tend to mix it up. I don't play the same class every time, so why the same gender? (Note: I don't play online, so I don't really know how playing a different gender affects other players reactions).







