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Why do some men choose to remain single and give up on women?

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Men choose to remain single and give up on women?

They do not want to becom... 7 9.86%
 
They do not want to change! 8 11.27%
 
They do not need a woman'... 1 1.41%
 
They do not want to conform to society! 3 4.23%
 
They have busy life and d... 6 8.45%
 
They are a man-child and ... 9 12.68%
 
They are regarded as a lo... 9 12.68%
 
Modern feminism double st... 11 15.49%
 
Other! 17 23.94%
 
Total:71
Dark_Lord_2008 said:
https://www.quora.com/Why-is-dating-so-hard-for-young-men-today
There are so many single mothers who have broken up with men they’ve already had baby’s with. And they expect you to accept the responsibility of being a step-father and raising someone else’s child. As you get older, finding quality women is difficult. Life keeps throwing you bad eggs, women who are in their mid to late twenties and they’re still not ready to settle down and get married. Women who just want to focus on partying and having lots of fun. Women who have little to no professional skills.

At my age, many women already have kids with other guys and that causes problems in relationships. Their children and their baby-daddies are going to require too much attention and your stuck not being their top priority. You’re going to have deal with kids that are not yours and crazy ex boyfriends. In a relationship, as a man, you want to find a woman who doesn’t have baggage in her life and is able to give you the kind of attention and affection that you can give to her.

It gets harder to find quality women who are available and hoping you can get their interest. The older you get, the more drama and baggage you’re going to have to deal with when dating.

This is why you're still single.  You need to look long and hard in the mirror. You are throwing blame on everyone else when it's quite clear you don't have a personality that makes for a good relationship.

Last edited by SpokenTruth - on 05 December 2018

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Dark_Lord_2008 said:
https://www.quora.com/Why-is-dating-so-hard-for-young-men-today
There are so many single mothers who have broken up with men they’ve already had baby’s with. And they expect you to accept the responsibility of being a step-father and raising someone else’s child. As you get older, finding quality women is difficult. Life keeps throwing you bad eggs, women who are in their mid to late twenties and they’re still not ready to settle down and get married. Women who just want to focus on partying and having lots of fun. Women who have little to no professional skills.

At my age, many women already have kids with other guys and that causes problems in relationships. Their children and their baby-daddies are going to require too much attention and your stuck not being their top priority. You’re going to have deal with kids that are not yours and crazy ex boyfriends. In a relationship, as a man, you want to find a woman who doesn’t have baggage in her life and is able to give you the kind of attention and affection that you can give to her.

It gets harder to find quality women who are available and hoping you can get their interest. The older you get, the more drama and baggage you’re going to have to deal with when dating.

Maybe the problem isn't that it's hard to "find quality woman" as you put it.

It's just that no one sees you as a quality man.



 

 

 

 

 

CuCabeludo said:

Finance. Today it is much more expensive to get married and raise children, it is not hard to see more and more people are choosing to be single when you have to work more and get paid in a fiat currencies that ALWAYS lose value/purchasing power as time passes.

Two incomes vs one income means that, no, it's not more expensive to be in a relationship.  And marriage is as simple as going to the courthouse or whatever and getting a license.

Kids, though.  Hoo boy, are they expensive.    /father_of_newborn_twins



When I reached 30 it was all over, I spent my 20s dateless and my 30s and beyond are unlikely to change. I can not increase my height and my face is getting worse as the years pass me by. After a dozen rejections on a dating site only there a week enough to project that I had absolutely no hope. So many empty profiles and profiles just with a picture, so only tried with profiles that were filled in and made an effort but no response. I got bored within a week on a dating site and did not bother again. Online dating is only for the most attractive guys that succeed in real life. Life was better in the good old days when it was more reliant upon face to face interactions instead of the superficial online world. I do not even have any social media accounts and have no interest in Snapchat, Instagram or Facebook. 

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Dark_Lord_2008 said:
When I reached 30 it was all over, I spent my 20s dateless and my 30s and beyond are unlikely to change. I can not increase my height and my face is getting worse as the years pass me by. After a dozen rejections on a dating site only there a week enough to project that I had absolutely no hope. So many empty profiles and profiles just with a picture, so only tried with profiles that were filled in and made an effort but no response. I got bored within a week on a dating site and did not bother again. Online dating is only for the most attractive guys that succeed in real life.

I'm 5' 2" (1.57m) and married for the past 21 years.   Your height isn't the problem.  The moment you stop the pity party and blaming your lack of success on women, the sooner things will get better for you. 

It's your attitude.   You sound bitter, resentful and even entitled.   Let me ask you.  Would you date a very tall girl with a facial problem? 



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Dark_Lord_2008 said:

When I reached 30 it was all over, I spent my 20s dateless and my 30s and beyond are unlikely to change. I can not increase my height and my face is getting worse as the years pass me by. After a dozen rejections on a dating site only there a week enough to project that I had absolutely no hope. So many empty profiles and profiles just with a picture, so only tried with profiles that were filled in and made an effort but no response. I got bored within a week on a dating site and did not bother again. Online dating is only for the most attractive guys that succeed in real life. Life was better in the good old days when it was more reliant upon face to face interactions instead of the superficial online world. I do not even have any social media accounts and have no interest in Snapchat, Instagram or Facebook. 

Instead of focusing on what you don't have and what you can't change, tell me what are your qualities. What personality traits do you think would make you a good match for someone?



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I have nothing to offer a future partner and I am not a value guy. I have a negative personality and I am not capable of faking it until I make it. I have been stuck with the poor me mentality for a very long time. I tried therapy and have been on medication for mental health issues but it did not change my attitude or personality. I have no expectations in regards to dating, because the past is a good indicator of how the future will unfold.

Any rejection or failure I take very personally and get depressed for a very long time. Failed a college unit, failed a driving test or rejected from jobs that I wanted I was so depressed. I did not have the mental maturity to cope with facing endless rejection in dating, so I opted not to bother after a few rejections in my younger. Now being an older guy I reflect on my life and wonder what could have been if I was born with a different personality. I always found it very hard to deal with failure, rejection and set backs in life. I never learned the coping skills to deal with life when things do not go my way I quit. 

Last edited by Dark_Lord_2008 - on 05 December 2018

Plenty of single 30+ year old women in Australia without kids. Surely England be similar? Most women here (who work) don't have a baby till like mid to late 30s now.



 

 

Dark_Lord_2008 said:

I have nothing to offer a future partner and I am not a value guy. I have a negative personality and I am not capable of faking it until I make it. I have been stuck with the poor me mentality for a very long time. I tried therapy and have been on medication for mental health issues but it did not change my attitude or personality. I have no expectations in regards to dating, because the past is a good indicator of how the future will unfold.

Any rejection or failure I take very personally and get depressed for a very long time. Failed a college unit, failed a driving test or rejected from jobs that I wanted I was so depressed. I did not have the mental maturity to cope with facing endless rejection in dating, so I opted not to bother after a few rejections in my younger. Now being an older guy I reflect on my life and wonder what could have been if I was born with a different personality. I always found it very hard to deal with failure, rejection and set backs in life. I never learned the coping skills to deal with life when things do not go my way I quit. 

I already told you my failures and yet you keep going back to the same old.

Hell I will add to it. My eyes are somewhat fucked so I don't have a license either. It hasn't stopped me from finding a wife. She understands. I am even double her weight and she still don't care (even before we got married). If i went on a dating app i wouldn't get any hits based on looks lol. I went out in the real world and mingled. Also women to a degree like to play hard to get. you can't just give up after one chat, unless they call you a creep or something then you know they are totally not into you.

As I mentioned before you need to fail before you succeeded. That is how we learn. Failure hits everyone hard, but the more you fail the better you get at moving on with it. 



 

 

I have lived a life of loneliness, isolation and misery. I have never had the opportunities in life and endured endless bad luck. I have quit on many things and tried for a new start but it never seemed to work out because of endless bad luck. Life does not change by reading self help books, thinking positive or praying. I do not like failure or rejection so I do not bother trying. I do not accept failure, I take it all personally and I get upset. I never had the mental maturity to cope with dating mind games so I gave up at 16. I have no brothers and no friends to back me up in fights at a bar/club so I stay at home at play my video games and watch TV. One less guy in the dating game makes it easier for the competition and it is better to give up when you have no hope of success. It takes self-awareness to understand you have no hope at dating and your time and effort is better used doing other things.

I have spoke the truth on here and admitted I have no hope in regards to dating and accepted it was better to give up and focus on living out my life.  I have so much time to watch all the TV shows I want to watch, listen to music, read more  books, fitness and play all the video games I want to play.  When there is no pressure it is time to relax and enjoy life doing things I want to do. When you are single for life and you have more time to do what you want with your life. No responsibilities and no pressure of trying to make other people happy. I will pursue interests and hobbies that add value and make me feel happy. 

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