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My school is being remodeled right now and a month or so ago I had a dream that it wasn’t done when school started (next week, ugh). So, they wouldn’t let us in the building because it was still under construction. So in my dream, I took my students and brought them to my car which was very dirty (it always is). I then proceeded to teach them by drawing in the dirt on my car.

Do you guys think I should follow my dream?



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EricHiggin said:
DonFerrari said:

If I were to choose I would get money that can buy me enough knowledge to have a great life.

Can't disagree with that.

I have no desire to be one of those know genius that died poor in the streets.



duduspace11 "Well, since we are estimating costs, Pokemon Red/Blue did cost Nintendo about $50m to make back in 1996"

http://gamrconnect.vgchartz.com/post.php?id=8808363

Mr Puggsly: "Hehe, I said good profit. You said big profit. Frankly, not losing money is what I meant by good. Don't get hung up on semantics"

http://gamrconnect.vgchartz.com/post.php?id=9008994

gergroy said:
My school is being remodeled right now and a month or so ago I had a dream that it wasn’t done when school started (next week, ugh). So, they wouldn’t let us in the building because it was still under construction. So in my dream, I took my students and brought them to my car which was very dirty (it always is). I then proceeded to teach them by drawing in the dirt on my car.

Do you guys think I should follow my dream?

Definitely. School needs some changes.



duduspace11 "Well, since we are estimating costs, Pokemon Red/Blue did cost Nintendo about $50m to make back in 1996"

http://gamrconnect.vgchartz.com/post.php?id=8808363

Mr Puggsly: "Hehe, I said good profit. You said big profit. Frankly, not losing money is what I meant by good. Don't get hung up on semantics"

http://gamrconnect.vgchartz.com/post.php?id=9008994

bugrimmar said:

When I watch an awards show and an actress delivers a speech saying "follow your dreams", I have to swallow my own vomit.

She ignores the fundamental truth: she is one in a million. She got there through looks, talent, connections, etc. that the other 99.99% don't have. She didn't get there by "following her dreams" or "pursuing her passion". She got there because she had a nice smile/knockers, could cry on command, or her father owns the studio.

For every American Idol winner, there are thousands of people who simply can't sing and are too delusional to accept it. They then go on wasting their time trying to "follow their dreams" fruitlessly while watching other opportunities pass them by.

Why are there so many pansies who keep looking at the 0.1% and accept it as reality? NO, YOUR DREAMS WON'T COME TRUE. THEY'LL ONLY COME TRUE UNDER A VERY SPECIFIC SET OF CIRCUMSTANCES FOR A VERY SPECIFIC SET OF PEOPLE.

You can like something as a hobby, do it with your friends, and be happy. But be realistic. There are things you can do as a career and there are things you simply can't.

How about "follow your abilities" or "follow reality" or "follow opportunities" instead? Or how about get your head out of your ass and work for a living instead of fooling around with something that will never happen?

There is a special name for it.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Survivorship_bias



Or, you know, don't dream random dreams that don't fit who you are, or really outlandish ones. If I dream to become President of the United States, I'll probably fail (though it looks more achievable than ever after 2016...). However if I want to be a politician, I could definitely do that. If I dream to reach the top of the music charts, I'll probably fail, though I have enough music talent that I could start a music career and not starve to death, I just wouldn't be at the top of any charts. If I want to cure blindness, I'll probably fail, because that's really vague and probably would be accomplished by a team of people. If I get the right education, however, I have the intelligence necessary to graduate with a doctorate degree in the right field to join a research team that would help develop a robotic prosthetic eye, and I would be able to say I contributed to a cure for blindness. I used to have that dream, and I could have achieved it, I was just too lazy. Achieving your dreams is a matter of having the right dream and being willing to bust your ass for it. Really incredible things take absurd effort, not just skill. But that said, you can't just dream anything, it has to be a dream that makes good use of your specific skillset. And yes, some people are hopeless cases with insufficient skills to accomplish anything incredible. Doesn't mean they can't live a happy life though.

Point is, the phrase "follow your dreams" is meant for people with sensible dreams that they're willing to work for, not a blanket statement that anyone can do anything because they just want to hard enough.



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"Follow your dreams, but be prepared for reality" is a much better saying, in my opinion.



If it works for someone that someone can be you, even if that is extremely unlikely.
Then again, people win the lottery and I don't play it, but hey, I could be a millionaire if I did, so who knows.



the-pi-guy said:
"Follow your dreams, but be prepared for reality" is a much better saying, in my opinion.

Yep much better, or "be prepared to failure and disappointment"



duduspace11 "Well, since we are estimating costs, Pokemon Red/Blue did cost Nintendo about $50m to make back in 1996"

http://gamrconnect.vgchartz.com/post.php?id=8808363

Mr Puggsly: "Hehe, I said good profit. You said big profit. Frankly, not losing money is what I meant by good. Don't get hung up on semantics"

http://gamrconnect.vgchartz.com/post.php?id=9008994

DonFerrari said:
DélioPT said:

 

I can't think of a down side or exaggeration on expectation of results on stay at school and don't do drugs. Still I don't give the advice like that, I prefer to hear the problem and try to work out a solution with the person.

(bolded) That's something i can agree with. But you can't do that always.
If you are someone who has to talk to a few or more (many more) people, you don't have the chance to go around and talk to everyone.

That's why i said before you can't give such an advice and also cover all the possibilities of a given dream not being possible. It's up to the listener to see if said dream is at it's reach or not.



DélioPT said:
DonFerrari said:

I can't think of a down side or exaggeration on expectation of results on stay at school and don't do drugs. Still I don't give the advice like that, I prefer to hear the problem and try to work out a solution with the person.

(bolded) That's something i can agree with. But you can't do that always.
If you are someone who has to talk to a few or more (many more) people, you don't have the chance to go around and talk to everyone.

That's why i said before you can't give such an advice and also cover all the possibilities of a given dream not being possible. It's up to the listener to see if said dream is at it's reach or not.

Motivational speech is something that I find very shallow and usually don't like much.



duduspace11 "Well, since we are estimating costs, Pokemon Red/Blue did cost Nintendo about $50m to make back in 1996"

http://gamrconnect.vgchartz.com/post.php?id=8808363

Mr Puggsly: "Hehe, I said good profit. You said big profit. Frankly, not losing money is what I meant by good. Don't get hung up on semantics"

http://gamrconnect.vgchartz.com/post.php?id=9008994