| Dark_Lord_2008 said: I want friends and I want a girlfriend but some people just can't make them. People are different. I really can't engage people in conversations, I have absolutely nothing to talk about. After talking to people, all you want to do is just walk away and be alone and not talk again because it's so embarrassing and awful yet later on you feel lonely again but you can't really do anything about it. It's a special kind of hell. For some people socialising is really difficult/impossible. Some people such as myself never truly fit in, always feel awkward around people and never feel relaxed unless you're alone. Don't take your social skills for granted, people. That's your most important skill. Without it, you aren't even human. I feel it's easier for a girl to get a boyfriend than for a guy to get a girlfriend since guys have to do the approaching and asking out, initiating, etc., I hate how people argue by saying "for every girl that has a boyfriend that guy has a girlfriend" DUH I KNOW THAT!!!!, but the guy had to do all of the god damn work in order to make it happen, since guys are expected to take action by making the first move and asking out, etc. Meanwhile girls have the final say and that doesn't really require much effort socially. Seriously, what is the whole logic behind why going after what you want is a masculine thing? Don't give me bullshit answers saying it's the way it is, I believe there is a logical explanation behind everything in life, a reason for everything. |
Don't give up. TBH your first paragraph reminds me of a guy at work who is in his 60. He would never talk to you. Only would talk to you about work or cycling lol. It was like pulling teeth trying to get him to talk lol. The more I think about it he probably is your mirror image in the future. Other than he worked the same job for 40 years and was really good at it.
After putting up with me for 5 years he stated to open up a little. But I had to basically work out how to get him to stay chatting. I would always tal about work and then move onto cycling with him, then eventually I oudl ask him for advice on bike and what he would recommend and best tracks to ride etc.. Then when he was comfortable I would throw in a curveball question, which he struggles to answer sometimes but he does get it out and now is more open to talk random stuff. When I first met him and started random banter he would just node and you coudl see he wasn't comfortable talking.
What I am getting at, is i think to help you, you need to find that one person who knows your current limitations, start talking topics you are comfortable with then slowly throw in a curveball topic here and there. So talk games, talk running, then maybe throw in a curveball topics you not comfortable with. Just one general question that gets you to talk.
