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| Dark_Lord_2008 said: I have lived a life of loneliness, isolation and misery. I have never had the opportunities in life and endured endless bad luck. I have quit on many things and tried for a new start but it never seemed to work out because of endless bad luck. Life does not change by reading self help books, thinking positive or praying. I do not like failure or rejection so I do not bother trying. I do not accept failure, I take it all personally and I get upset. I never had the mental maturity to cope with dating mind games so I gave up at 16. I have no brothers and no friends to back me up in fights at a bar/club so I stay at home at play my video games and watch TV. One less guy in the dating game makes it easier for the competition and it is better to give up when you have no hope of success. It takes self-awareness to understand you have no hope at dating and your time and effort is better used doing other things. |
You are not meant to have the mental maturity to date before you were 16. This is why you are classified as a child lol. At that age half the girls are so shy or scared of what their dads will say they will traumatically say no to dating. Those relationships never last anyway (well maybe like 5% do).
As for failure I already said all I can. No one likes failure, everyone gets upset, hell grown men cry when they loose a final in sport after all year trying to get to the top. The more you fail the easier it gets to cope with it.
Why do you need back up in a bar for fights? Why does fighting even cross your mind lol? Go there to have a few drinks and relax. talk to some blokes make friends.
You say you have all this spare time, including for fitness then get fit if that is what you want. cut your hair different, smile more that will instantly improve yourself image.
You talk about endless bad luck? Everyone has bad luck. Here is some of mine:
- Born 3 month premature, was just over the size of a coke can and needed a blood transfusion and was in one of those incubator things for a few months.
- I was born legs out first and because it was premature they had no time for cesarean as they worried i was going to die and essentially pulled my leg out of my hip. was lucky they did not rip my leg off.
- I had eye surgery when I was young to remove something that was covering it, the doctor slipped and cut my eye leaving a scare where it impacted my vision.
- My brother through a huge rock in front of me when I was riding my bike down a dirt track in a forest. Went flying over the handle bars and smashed my face into a tree.
- I had a gun pointed at my head by a Russian solider when I was 5 because he thought it was funny.
- I got hit by a car crossing a pedestrian crossing. road was wet so car slid to the wrong side.
- I was in two car accidents two days in a row, in two different cars.
- Injured my other eye and now it plays up all the time where I need antibiotics and steroids to heal it, then it goes away for a while and comes back when my body is warn out form lack of sleep.
- Back injury for 2 years where I could barely walk (6 months into a new job I just started). I was a prisoner in my own house looking at the same walls.
- I was told daily by my maths teacher i'd never been an engineer because i didn't take my classes seriously, yet here I am telling him fuck you.
- I lost a great job because someone from South Africa decided we needed to cut 60% of the workforce without seeing what value you added and instead create more management layers and hired all his mates to manage.
At the end of the day all that shit impacted me mentally but we all get hit hard and it is how much you get get back up from those hits that will make you strong. It would have been easy to dwell for me on the above and say fuck i am unlucky. Don't get me wrong I did but eventually I moved on, as you have to at some point to move forward.
