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danasider said:

think-man said:

Problems 

Low self esteem

Lack of empathy 

Lack of direction, dont really know what i want in life 

Feel as tho iv underachieved

Suicidal thoughts

No motivation 

No goals anymore, all have been crushed or forgotten 

 

Im a programmer working for a huge company in Sydney 

That right there is kind of scary. Mixed with all the other things, it can lead to you hurting people left and right (like you presumably have to your wife and friends by ousting them). Despite my inclination to judge, I will say it takes courage to admit your faults and know that there's something missing in your life which is why you are seeking out help. However, with this kind of honesty (and your dream job salary), I'd guess talking to a professional is the best option. Like others have said. The problems you have seem to go deeper than the typical "I'm sad because life isn't going my way" syndrome people mistake for depression. Get help, dude.

Actually he said he is a programmer I don't think lack of empathy is really an issue. Most people in technical fields have a lack of emphathy because of the way they process information. They use facts to justify their reasoning without an emotional thought on the consequence it may have on people who don't understand them.  

Him outsing his wife and friends is just an escape mechanism he used to cope with the situation at hand, kind of a reset like a computer to see if things will fix themselves without analysiing the error logs. It is a temp fix but the underlaying issue is always there which eventually surfaces and then the cycle begins again.