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Hi friends, folks.

**Disclaimer: This topic is not racist. However, if you are sensitive to the topic of racism towards black people, please leave (for your own benefit)**

There's a topic I've always wanted to talk about, but it is so frowned upon to talk about things that remind people of things that hurt them. But it's a topic that I've wanted to ask questions about for the longest time.

Now I realize we have a decent sized black community in vgchartz, and though I'm afraid to offend, I wanted to ask a few questions that are important for me to deal with my perception of black people, which I personally am not comfortable with.

My first question I have is about youth violence in the american black community.

It's my understanding that a portion of the black community in america grows up in poorer disctricts of the country, in ghettosin the various states of America. I'm Canadian, so I wanted to know if that was real or if it was a false conception I took from tv and/or from movies.

Then, I see a video like this that gives me a different angle on the "reality" that a portion of the black community lives.

https://www.facebook.com/v/265716393467571

Shifting the scope onto Barrack Obama, the most popular african-american today. A well-spoken, well-educated man. It's my understanding that a portion of the black population is from his culture, one that puts a lot of importance on education and higher-learning, and civility.

Moving the lens to Quebec, Canada, where I'm from, where the haitian population is important and many of the people are of a disciplined culture, very adamant about discipline and education.

Then, we have of course the more outdated segregationist sentiment in the earlier part of the 1900s, only fading off in the later parts of the century. There are also the movies that depict racism against black people, I had a very difficult question to ask some of the readers here.

With all that, with everything tv and media has been feeding me, is it weird that I feel more pity for black people? The scene in Terminator 2 always hit me like a spear in my heart, where the engineer at datadyne's family home is attacked by the "crazed" Sara Connor. Is it normal that when I see a black person, all the stigma comes to my face and I have difficulty looking at them as just another human being?

The most complex part of all this, psychologically, is that I've had 2 best friends that were black, one in my kindergarden years, and one in my early adulthood, two people I love dearly. The second one who I met later, I don't see his skin color, but sometimes when we haven't been close for a long time I can't help the stigma.

Can somebody help?

Last question, do you believe that certain rap "stars" are a bad influence on black youth in America?

Thanks for the advice on this. I hate asking this, but I hate what I have to live with, I'd like to help work my way out of it.

I'll add the info to OP. I was born and raised in montreal, and actually had a haitian nanny help raise me up until the age of 4 to help my mum who had 6 kids and raised us mostly alone while my father was away running his business in another city.

I had 3 best friends that were black or part black. 1 in kindergarden (haitian), 1 in primary school (very close friend, half vincentian, half québécois), 1 in my late years of college (haitian).