Thanks pal. I'm just gona plod along for now. Made it to the boss fog in stonefang. But didnt wana lose my 8000 souls so I went back to the nexus lol coward. I'll go in 2nite. Just got home from work, gona shower then take my 3rd boss soul.

Currently i'm at SL 254, but I haven't played Demon's Souls in quite a bit. 

I agree with you, at mid-high levels it's pretty much impossible to find anyone, because:

a) Everyone who's continued to play this game has reached almost SL 600 and above

b) Most people keep their SL below 80 to do noob-hunting.

I'm pretty much going to get the EU version and start all over again, that way it's guaranteed to have a more lively online. Probably the EU version is going to be region locked as well though. It only makes sense, otherwise, NA version pros could simply SoulSuck themselves to low levels and make a living hell for EU players online. 

Next month, Europeans. Next month will be made of win.

ive de-leveled to soul level 175, its much better now, i can invade peoples games and co-op as a blue phantom, plus if im in soul form theres the odd blue soul sign for me to summon to give me some help,. so i think im going to stay at this soul level now.

Me and my friend were at the fog ready for the spider (we do it twice him as phantom and me too) we saw 2 soul signs waiting i summoned em both and we 4 teamed it!!!!!!!!!! Awesome game.

Heheh, it's pretty awesome when you team up to defeat the bosses. I used to hang around the fog before the Flamelurker (the next boss after the spider) to help a lot of people, and get some nifty number of souls for myself

At NG+++, the Flamelurker is brutal. 

Through my experiance of beating the game around 4 or 5 times, the flamelurker is the hardest boss he's just brutal, there just doesnt seem to be a pattern to his attacks and he jumps around all over the place but i must admit it does make it easier if you get some help with him because he seems to get confused on who to attack.

Yup, except if the group is dumb enough to sit in one place and then Flamelurker does his AoE Nuke attack

I've seen a couple of people dying online on the Flamelurker battle because of that. And I particulary hate how he goes berserk when his HP is in the last 10%. He never let's go >_< 

They need to implement a side-kick system for the online. Leave the black phan part of the equation alone, but open it up for more blue phan teaming.

They could implement a Stat-restriction system for Blue-Phantom pairings, to subsitute the Level caps. That way, even if a higher leveled Blue-Phantom comes to help, they'll have reduced stats, matching up to the summoning player Level. 

That would open up the online pairing a lot