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(CNN) -- For many families, the school year just started, but for Karen Suffern, it's not too early to start planning for Christmas.

The financially struggling single mother of fraternal twins recently asked her 8-year-olds to write down a list of things they would like from Santa. Suffern, who works part time as an administrative assistant for a home health care company, wanted to start budgeting for the holidays. She knew her twins, who just began third grade, were at the age where they would start asking for electronics and other expensive gifts.

Her son, Ryan's, letter to Santa started off normally:

"Dear Santa ... I wanted a (remote control) car and helicopter, but I don't want that anymor. Kid at school are still picking on Amber and its not fair," he wrote. "I prayed that they will stop but god is bisy and needs your help."

Suffern felt tears fill her eyes as she read her son's letter asking Santa to help stop the bullying his overweight sister was experiencing at school.

Reading the letter was tough for Suffern. "I try to build up my daughter's self-esteem and tell her she is beautiful, but people say hurtful things to me, because I also have a weight problem, and that hurts me," she said. "I can't imagine what she goes through."

She had a vague idea that Amber was teased on the bus, but she didn't know the extent of the bullying. Amber, who has attention-deficit (hyperactivity) disorder and other mental and mood disorders, never mentioned the teasing.

Bully-proofing your kids

Suffern explains that Amber is an emotional eater and weighs 140 pounds, nearly twice the size of her brother, Ryan.

The twins returned to school three weeks ago at Rocky Mount Preparatory in North Carolina. It's the first time Ryan and Amber have been in the same classes.

Ryan would come up to Suffern to tell her in private about classmates bullying Amber -- how the kids in gym class would laugh at her when she could not do the bear crawl on the floor, tease her about her weight in class or tell her that she was adopted because she is multiracial.

"Every day when she goes to school, she says, 'Mommy, can I just stay at home?' and she just doesn't want to go.' And now every time I send her to school, I feel like I am not protecting her and I am letting her down," Suffern said.

After reading her son's letter over the weekend, Suffern shared it online with friends, including Tony Posnanski's Facebook page, where he features stories of inspiration, weight loss and life advice.

Posnanski says he was moved by Ryan's letter because it reminded him of his childhood. "When I was a kid, I was bullied for a bit" because of his weight, he explained. Posnanski posted the story to CNN iReport, where it quickly garnered thousands of page views.

"I wanted to do something to get (the story) out," Posnanki said, adding that bullying is a serious issue that deserves attention.

A study released Monday in the journal Pediatrics says there is an association between being bullied and psychosomatic problems, meaning children who are bullied run the risk of higher mental problems that can cause them physical distress. Study authors Gianluca Gini and Tiziana Pozzoli write, "Given that school bullying is a widespread phenomenon in many countries around the world, the present results indicate that bullying should be considered a significant international public health problem."

Others studies report that as many as one in four children is bullied. There have been several incidents of teens bullied to the point of committing suicide, most recently 12-year-old Rebecca Sedwick, who jumped off a building because of cyberbullying.

Suffern says Ryan's letter to Santa sheds new light on her daughter's situation, and she plans on speaking to Amber's teachers and the parents of the bullies at school.

"If my kids don't call names and pick on others, I would expect other parents to teach their kids to be respectful, too," she said. "There have been times my kids would point at others and say, 'why is her hair so strange' and things like that, and I would say, 'You know, people are different, and that is just the way they are.' "

She says it's important to realize that bullying comes in all sorts of forms. "I understand that sometimes schools try to do as much as they can, but bullying doesn't have to physical; name-calling and putting someone down are considered bullying to me."

And Suffern says she is glad to have a selfless son like Ryan -- plus Santa -- watching out for Amber, too.

 

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Since you say there are no Unicorns, are you going to tell these kids that there is no Santa Claus, ethomaz?







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Being bullied is just awful, but I hope the parents plan on doing something about her eating disorder rather than just feel bad for her. Bullying is honestly probably not her most serious issue at this point in time.



The main problem, I think, is that kids aren't taught morals anymore. TV shows and cartoons these days don't help.







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pbroy said:
Since you say there are no Unicorns, are you going to tell these kids that there is no Santa Claus, ethomaz?


there is no unicorns?........what? WHAT?!!!



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BasilZero said:
pbroy said:
The main problem, I think, is that kids aren't taught morals anymore. TV shows and cartoons these days don't help.


This pretty much. Parents arent strict enough nor care how their children act and they usually provide obstacles such as TV shows/cartoons/games without any limitation or discipline just to get them off their own back - give this mindset to a child and they'll grow up thinking they are above the rules and do things like bullying, theft or worse....

Society doesn't have any common set of morals, just not breaking the law.  The basic idea now is everyone should try to get their own way, and everyone is "special".



That is sad and sweet, man, this kid will have a hard time in this world, all good hearted people have, but this world need people like this. I will pray that he grows up strong and at the same time, good at heart as he is today.



My grammar errors are justified by the fact that I am a brazilian living in Brazil. I am also very stupid.

She needs a mom that doesn't over feed her. But it's a nice f***ing letter.



pbroy said:
The main problem, I think, is that kids aren't taught morals anymore. TV shows and cartoons these days don't help.


I grew up in Brazil with He-man cartoons and Jaspion japanese action series, I was bullied to the death but these shows alway had good messages about being strong and never giving up, it was cool for me and helped me a lot, i outgrew all these hardships and today I have a better life than all the bullies that used to pick on me. It was also cool because I did not had a father around to teach me how to be a man, and these shows were about honor and being good.

This is Jaspion:

 



My grammar errors are justified by the fact that I am a brazilian living in Brazil. I am also very stupid.

Look how cool he was!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=69LKsTflxEw

 



My grammar errors are justified by the fact that I am a brazilian living in Brazil. I am also very stupid.