Well i think there needs to be physical attraction because otherwise you are just best friends...you have to be sexually attracted to...wtether its her smells or her build...and if your blind well then it woudnt matter so much but you can still touch/smell...

Ok. This post may come off as callous, but I would be remiss if I didn't share my opinion. First off all, you are not shallow. There is no such thing as being shallow. The reason why attractive people date attractive people is from a process known as sexual selection ( http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sexual_selection )

Basically, in a situation where natural selection is not taking effect (read: The species is thriving) a new force comes to shape the species. Organisms notice what is more visually appealing, and will try to find someone with features they find appealing. Many things that humans find "ugly" are usually things show health weakness (obesity being the most common form).

This may be hard to hear, but there is no such thing as being shallow. "Shallow" is a term that we as humans have devised to make the attractive feel sorry for being able to have attractive mates. We created it because of the fact that we can see the negative effects of sexual selection.

So don't feel bad about dating attractive people. It isn't your fault if you are attractive.

/textbook

Lol, thanks for making my day.

It does to a point. Unless you look like brad pit are some other pretty boy name,you can't really afford to be to picky,because your just going to set yourself up for failure everytime. The only exception to this is,if you have a bunch of money. If your an ugly like me you just have to settle for anybody that will talk to you. You may think that I'm wrong,but that's just the reality of it. Even an ugly likes beatiful and attractive people,but you have to be realistic about it.

yes there is such a thing as being shallow. How about being with someone just because they make alot of money and buy you stuff. If your an attractive person,of course you have an easier chance of dating attractive people,so I don't see how that has anything to do with being shallow. What if the attractive person you were dating was a complete ahole and you were still dating such person,just because they were attractive. Would'nt that make you shallow? What if you dating someone just because of they were a powerful person and had a high status. So I agree with some of your post,but I disagree that there is no such thing as being shallow. That's just not true.

No. I would never date anyone who lacked self respect like that.

How do you know she lacks self respect. Not everybody can weigh 120 pounds. Some people are just naturally big and some people are just naturally skinny. Someone people have a hard time with weight and someone can eat anything and not gain a pound. Being big does'nt automatically mean you lack self respect.Some people just don't care. It all depends man. lol

Hah, exactly what I was going to say.

A woman you aren't atracted to is really no different then a man.

that's just not true. read my previous post in this thread. Unless your brad pit are Johnny depp,your just going to have to settle.

I'm not looking for an argument, but I am somewhat passionate about this topic, so I will respond (please note I'm not trying to change your mind or make it seem like your thoughts are wrong, I am just defending mine :). )

The idea behind sexual selection is that couples are equally matched, that there are no "reachers" or "settlers" in a relationship. Sexual selection is used to preserve a few things:

• The well being of each person (in the animal kingdom, big animals = sexy animals (generally), and In our world, rich people = valuable people.)
• The ability to produce an attractive offspring, one that is favored by sexual selection (see: sexy son syndrome)

Obviously there are situations in which one of these can't be preserved, but generally they can be.

Personality is one of the monkey wrenches in the idea of sexual selection I will admit, but the process has been happening for hundreds of millions of years, and I believe that it will continue to happen for a long while.