Long distance relationships never work out. She'd stalk him like a hawk if he told her that. Plus it would still arouse suspicions within his enoturage of friends.

he met someone from out of town during the summer and wants to give it a shot.

While not true that they NEVER work, it is true that they have a very low success rate. (Says the person who's been through 2 of them, but knows someone who's successfully pulled it off.)

I'm not sure how long distant or old his BF is, but yeah, even if true, it gets to the point now of knowing which truth to say. Lying outright is just a bad idea, but certain truths will cause more suspiscion and prodding. Saying that he's seeing someone would cause poking about and draw other questions, moreso than even this meeting and thus, is more of a hassle than it's worth. The flipside truth, which is also true, is that he's not interested in her. Is he gay? No, and he can say that while being technically honest. It's all a case of knowing that each question has at least 2 answers, AND being able to figure out where each of the answers will go. Usually, the hardest ones to be quizzed on are the ones that pull things internally (something about me, not someone else), and concretes to societal norms (confirming what people assume about everyone, not a deviated conclusion). You may have noticed that I do a lot of the former- I would feel bad, I don't have time, etc. The advantage to being bisexual is that it also makes the second category easier to answer in this case. If I weren't out, and someone asked if I was gay, I would have to craft an answer, probably on the spot. (I'd play into the case 5 in an above post, and try to get attention away from sexuality fast.)

But anyway, these are all asides. I don't want to add too much asides that probably won't come up and is only more things racing through a mind. In all honesty, I felt better after coming out, but if he's got that huge jeopardy risk, I can see why he wouldn't- too much to lose. He knows the truth about himself there; that's what matters.

I get you dude, but the ideea is to discourage Pam. If he says he's in a long distance relationship she may still think she has a chance. Plus she could go snooping and make his other friends suspicious.

every time he is around her, talk about how much he "pwns" everyone online at halo (or any associated shooter) online and keep telling her how 'leet' he is, then when she tries to talk keep interrupting her with more inane drivel about somethig similar taht shes bound not to want to know about or ever be interested in, I've had it happen to me and trust me, if shes anything like most girls this will turn her off him so quickly his problem will be gone in a few days

oh, and get her to watch him playing halo online too, and make sure he brags a lot whenever he does something good and very inapprooprately insults other players (using as crass terms as possible) very regularly. Throw a few sexist jokes in there while he does it too...

the final act would be tring to get her to play halo online afterward and totally belittling her and treating her like a not so intelligent child while he does it

there is no perfect way out.

_ you don't want to lie

_ you don't want to tell the truth

_ you don't want to say semi-truths cause she might snoop arround.

really you have no choice in this.... the only solution is for him to avoid meeting her. "sorry i'm not available that day".

Well, he could try to kill her if all else fails. That would certainly solve things. Or he could move to North Korea as another poster said.

Oh yeah the i'm gay secret is so much harder to hide than the I killed the girl secret....