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chocoloco said:

Its to bad you took so long to tell them. I told my parents when I became one and thought if they can't except that than i can't except them. Stand up for yourself religion shouldn't push people around and make them fell bad about who they are, yet it does and that is crap. 

In my defence I've only really started calling myself an atheist for about a year or two.



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sapphi_snake said:
chocoloco said:

Its to bad you took so long to tell them. I told my parents when I became one and thought if they can't except that than i can't except them. Stand up for yourself religion shouldn't push people around and make them fell bad about who they are, yet it does and that is crap. 

I my defence I've only really started calling myself an atheist for about a year or two.

No problem and you might have a better relationship with them than I did. The one i had with them at the time wasn't good so  didn't care what they thought. Good for you if you have a good one.



Adobo said:

your parents sounds cool and you should not worried about that. But do you have to accept yourself as atheist? You don't have to go to church every Sunday you know (my mother just remind me every Christmas but that is not a big deal)... Usually atheists or whatever you call them, they are people who just dont want to give a damn about going to Sunday massess because they are lazy to go to church. I'd say keep your current religion but find the best way to tell them that you don't have time to go or pray and would rather play video games (which is reasonable hey if they say God is kind and forgiving I bet he understand your situation amIright?)

 

 

I'm an atheist because I find no reason to beleive in the deity that's worshipped by the fallowers of my family's religon (or those of any religion for that matter). I;m not an atheist because I'm too busy to go to church on Sundays 'cause I'm playing video games.



"I don't understand how someone could like Tolstoy and Dostoyevsky, but not like Twilight!!!"

"Last book I read was Brokeback Mountain, I just don't have the patience for them unless it's softcore porn."

                                                                               (The Voice of a Generation and Seece)

"If you cant stand the sound of your own voice than dont become a singer !!!!!"

                                                                               (pizzahut451)

lestatdark said:
AkibaFan said:
lestatdark said:

I had to tell my parents, who are mildly Christian based, that I had converted to the Wicca religion. It wasn't nice and pretty at the start, and I had to deal with a load of bad stuff coming from them in the first days.

Eventually they grew to accept it, because that's who I am and what I believe, and they (as I) found that there is no reason why the two beliefs couldn't co-exist.

My grandparents (from my father side) were another whole story. They are fervent religious people, they have a gigantic cross on their backyard and have had priest do mass on their house. I was called child of the devil, witch, Satan himself and threatened by them. 

Since then I haven't talked to them, if they chose not to accept me for what I believe then it's their loss, not mine. I will always respect them and accept them for their choices, even though their attitudes really go against what the Christian religion supposedly represents.

tht must have been hard for you. hopefully they will supprt u soon

It was harder for my dad, since he was a bit torn in that time. I really don't mind if they don't support me, it's their decision. It just saddens me to personally know people who know little of what is to actually love and comprehend all for what they are, closed in dogmas that have no sense nowadays.

I hope you realize there is no such thing as magic. Lay off the videogames dude.



Teo said:
lestatdark said:
AkibaFan said:
lestatdark said:

I had to tell my parents, who are mildly Christian based, that I had converted to the Wicca religion. It wasn't nice and pretty at the start, and I had to deal with a load of bad stuff coming from them in the first days.

Eventually they grew to accept it, because that's who I am and what I believe, and they (as I) found that there is no reason why the two beliefs couldn't co-exist.

My grandparents (from my father side) were another whole story. They are fervent religious people, they have a gigantic cross on their backyard and have had priest do mass on their house. I was called child of the devil, witch, Satan himself and threatened by them. 

Since then I haven't talked to them, if they chose not to accept me for what I believe then it's their loss, not mine. I will always respect them and accept them for their choices, even though their attitudes really go against what the Christian religion supposedly represents.

tht must have been hard for you. hopefully they will supprt u soon

It was harder for my dad, since he was a bit torn in that time. I really don't mind if they don't support me, it's their decision. It just saddens me to personally know people who know little of what is to actually love and comprehend all for what they are, closed in dogmas that have no sense nowadays.

I hope you realize there is no such thing as magic. Lay off the videogames dude.

I hope you're not insulting his religion. That's just mean dude. Not cool.



"I don't understand how someone could like Tolstoy and Dostoyevsky, but not like Twilight!!!"

"Last book I read was Brokeback Mountain, I just don't have the patience for them unless it's softcore porn."

                                                                               (The Voice of a Generation and Seece)

"If you cant stand the sound of your own voice than dont become a singer !!!!!"

                                                                               (pizzahut451)

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rubido said:

On a related note, I read this week about someone that had to mention she was an atheist to her extreme religious mom. There were other issues involved, but there is a big discussion on the topic. This might help you:

http://www.reddit.com/r/atheism/comments/d216d/my_uncle_steve_is_getting_out_of_jail_and_i_could/

http://www.reddit.com/r/atheism/comments/d2oim/regarding_my_soontobe_exconvict_uncle_steve_a/

http://www.reddit.com/r/atheism/comments/d4jcy/update_about_my_uncle_steve_getting_out_of_prison/

Hope it helps in some way. You could also tell your story on reddit. They would be more helpful than a gaming website.

I read those links. Man, that poor girl's mom is the biggest POS I've ever seen.



"I don't understand how someone could like Tolstoy and Dostoyevsky, but not like Twilight!!!"

"Last book I read was Brokeback Mountain, I just don't have the patience for them unless it's softcore porn."

                                                                               (The Voice of a Generation and Seece)

"If you cant stand the sound of your own voice than dont become a singer !!!!!"

                                                                               (pizzahut451)

if they love you they will except you. i have no experiance in this dapartment not to mention on my mothers side, if i look past my grandmother and family heritage it just might be sin to be an atheist.

looking at the hypocrites from my fathers side which i realy have little contact with cause i don't think about them(to busy). in my op they spend to much time in church.

all i know is that something made all this possible! i don't know what but something did. if you think about it religion and sience both explain everything after the big bang and nothing before it. guse the expanding universe thing fits right in.

just sit down with them and have a real conversation, and help them understand your fellings and maybe even why you fell this way. if they are reasonable they will understand. maybe not except it, but understand.



sapphi_snake said:
Teo said:
lestatdark said:
AkibaFan said:
lestatdark said:

I had to tell my parents, who are mildly Christian based, that I had converted to the Wicca religion. It wasn't nice and pretty at the start, and I had to deal with a load of bad stuff coming from them in the first days.

Eventually they grew to accept it, because that's who I am and what I believe, and they (as I) found that there is no reason why the two beliefs couldn't co-exist.

My grandparents (from my father side) were another whole story. They are fervent religious people, they have a gigantic cross on their backyard and have had priest do mass on their house. I was called child of the devil, witch, Satan himself and threatened by them. 

Since then I haven't talked to them, if they chose not to accept me for what I believe then it's their loss, not mine. I will always respect them and accept them for their choices, even though their attitudes really go against what the Christian religion supposedly represents.

tht must have been hard for you. hopefully they will supprt u soon

It was harder for my dad, since he was a bit torn in that time. I really don't mind if they don't support me, it's their decision. It just saddens me to personally know people who know little of what is to actually love and comprehend all for what they are, closed in dogmas that have no sense nowadays.

I hope you realize there is no such thing as magic. Lay off the videogames dude.

I hope you're not insulting his religion. That's just mean dude. Not cool.

As an atheist, I must defend logic.



Teo said:
sapphi_snake said:
rubido said:

On a related note, I read this week about someone that had to mention she was an atheist to her extreme religious mom. There were other issues involved, but there is a big discussion on the topic. This might help you:

http://www.reddit.com/r/atheism/comments/d216d/my_uncle_steve_is_getting_out_of_jail_and_i_could/

http://www.reddit.com/r/atheism/comments/d2oim/regarding_my_soontobe_exconvict_uncle_steve_a/

http://www.reddit.com/r/atheism/comments/d4jcy/update_about_my_uncle_steve_getting_out_of_prison/

Hope it helps in some way. You could also tell your story on reddit. They would be more helpful than a gaming website.

I read those links. Man, that poor girl's mom is the biggest POS I've ever seen.

As an atheist, I must defend logic.

Quoted the wrong post dude.



"I don't understand how someone could like Tolstoy and Dostoyevsky, but not like Twilight!!!"

"Last book I read was Brokeback Mountain, I just don't have the patience for them unless it's softcore porn."

                                                                               (The Voice of a Generation and Seece)

"If you cant stand the sound of your own voice than dont become a singer !!!!!"

                                                                               (pizzahut451)

sapphi_snake said:

With religion I don't think you can really say "my religion is better than yours, but your's is almost as good as mine". It's more of an all or nothing type of thing. "My religion is right, I'll humour you, and maybe not tell you straight in you face, but your's is definately wrong". At leats that's my parents' attitude, and that of most Romanians I've met that are religious. IThis may be because Romania isn't a very diverse country in terms or religions. Something like 86% are Eastern Orthodox (and 96-99% of the overall population is religious). That could be why the very religious have such a negative attitude towards other religions (including other braches of Christianity). And while this may only be my experience the mandatory religious classes that I took where the teacher would bash Catholicism when we learned about the diffrences between Catholics and Eastern Orthodox probably further illustrates the intolerance of very religous Eastern Orthodox people over here.

Anyhow, thinking on the original poster, I don't think s/he ever had a chance to own any form of religious belief due to the sheer heavy weight of the household.  If you are pressed into walking in the beliefs of others, and never get to make them your own, it is oppressive.  It just isn't you.  I know Catholicism was like that for me.

FTR, I used to be religious myself. I didn't like the intolerant attitude towards other religions that the Estern Orthodox have over here (though I admit I was the same for a while due to my ignorance and the influence of others around me). However my becoming an atheist was simply due to the fact that I simply found no logical reason to believe anymore.

An interesting thing will happen in religion in that people who aren't heavily practicing their faith will sometimes be dogmaticabout it being right and not tolerant.  When I say "heavily practice" I refer to not only the people who don't attend, but those that do heavily, but just do the rituals without getting the point behind the rituals.  It was like a guy who demanded a Bishop bless his strip clubs or he would stop donating.  The point is totally missed.

Anyhow, it is likely best to get out if it doesn't click.  Of course prudence is called for in how one states they aren't part of it.