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lestatdark said:

I had to tell my parents, who are mildly Christian based, that I had converted to the Wicca religion. It wasn't nice and pretty at the start, and I had to deal with a load of bad stuff coming from them in the first days.

Eventually they grew to accept it, because that's who I am and what I believe, and they (as I) found that there is no reason why the two beliefs couldn't co-exist.

My grandparents (from my father side) were another whole story. They are fervent religious people, they have a gigantic cross on their backyard and have had priest do mass on their house. I was called child of the devil, witch, Satan himself and threatened by them. 

Since then I haven't talked to them, if they chose not to accept me for what I believe then it's their loss, not mine. I will always respect them and accept them for their choices, even though their attitudes really go against what the Christian religion supposedly represents.


I think being a Wiccan would have a much more profound effect than being an athiest.

Like I'd be much more scared of telling my parents I'm a Wiccan than an athiest, since Wiccans are misconstrued as satan-worshipping crazy people while athiests are viewed as crazy people.



Kimi wa ne tashika ni ano toki watashi no soba ni ita

Itsudatte itsudatte itsudatte

Sugu yoko de waratteita

Nakushitemo torimodosu kimi wo

I will never leave you

dtewi said:
lestatdark said:

I had to tell my parents, who are mildly Christian based, that I had converted to the Wicca religion. It wasn't nice and pretty at the start, and I had to deal with a load of bad stuff coming from them in the first days.

Eventually they grew to accept it, because that's who I am and what I believe, and they (as I) found that there is no reason why the two beliefs couldn't co-exist.

My grandparents (from my father side) were another whole story. They are fervent religious people, they have a gigantic cross on their backyard and have had priest do mass on their house. I was called child of the devil, witch, Satan himself and threatened by them. 

Since then I haven't talked to them, if they chose not to accept me for what I believe then it's their loss, not mine. I will always respect them and accept them for their choices, even though their attitudes really go against what the Christian religion supposedly represents.


I think being a Wiccan would have a much more profound effect than being an athiest.

Like I'd be much more scared of telling my parents I'm a Wiccan than an athiest, since Wiccans are misconstrued as satan-worshipping crazy people while athiests are viewed as crazy people.

You're probably right, but I kinda thought that Wicca being a rather unknown religion here in Europe, especially Portugal, that the reactions wouldn't be as strong as they were. 

As I explained things to my parents further, they began to comprehend slowly why did I convert to Wicca.

 Unfortunately things don't work that way when people already have a close-minded formed misconception, be it for Wicca, Atheism, or pretty much everything else (Buddhists in my country are seen as Yoga bald headed crazies >_>)



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lestatdark said:

You're probably right, but I kinda thought that Wicca being a rather unknown religion here in Europe, especially Portugal, that the reactions wouldn't be as strong as they were. 

As I explained things to my parents further, they began to comprehend slowly why did I convert to Wicca.

 Unfortunately things don't work that way when people already have a close-minded formed misconception, be it for Wicca, Atheism, or pretty much everything else (Buddhists in my country are seen as Yoga bald headed crazies >_>)

Oh hell no. You can't hate on Buddhism.

They love everything. How can people hate them!



Kimi wa ne tashika ni ano toki watashi no soba ni ita

Itsudatte itsudatte itsudatte

Sugu yoko de waratteita

Nakushitemo torimodosu kimi wo

I will never leave you

dtewi said:
lestatdark said:

You're probably right, but I kinda thought that Wicca being a rather unknown religion here in Europe, especially Portugal, that the reactions wouldn't be as strong as they were. 

As I explained things to my parents further, they began to comprehend slowly why did I convert to Wicca.

 Unfortunately things don't work that way when people already have a close-minded formed misconception, be it for Wicca, Atheism, or pretty much everything else (Buddhists in my country are seen as Yoga bald headed crazies >_>)

Oh hell no. You can't hate on Buddhism.

They love everything. How can people hate them!

Sadly here in Portugal, those kind of misconceptions are common, for almost every topic, especially in older people (since Portugal was a closed mentality country until a few decades ago, mostly due to fascism and dictatorship, which ended in 1974).



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Not to sound politically incorrect but I hate the notion that "you're just born with something". People have choices. Gay, straight, Christian, Atheist, whatever, there's a choice. Nature has something to do with it but nurture has just as large an impact, if not more. I think people tend to take the easy route and say "but I was just BORN that way" to avoid any possible conflicts and modern society eats that shit up like a southern baptist at Free Cake For Jesus Day.

With that said, I'm an agnostic libertarian (litte "l") who doesn't give a damn about what other people do or believe so it's a case of "people are what they are and I don't care how they got there".




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lestatdark said:

I had to tell my parents, who are mildly Christian based, that I had converted to the Wicca religion. It wasn't nice and pretty at the start, and I had to deal with a load of bad stuff coming from them in the first days.

Eventually they grew to accept it, because that's who I am and what I believe, and they (as I) found that there is no reason why the two beliefs couldn't co-exist.

My grandparents (from my father side) were another whole story. They are fervent religious people, they have a gigantic cross on their backyard and have had priest do mass on their house. I was called child of the devil, witch, Satan himself and threatened by them. 

Since then I haven't talked to them, if they chose not to accept me for what I believe then it's their loss, not mine. I will always respect them and accept them for their choices, even though their attitudes really go against what the Christian religion supposedly represents.

OMG, glad I'm not a wiccan. It would probably even worse in that case. I hope they'll get over it eventually. You're their daughter. You're not worshiping the devil.



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NiKKoM said:
richardhutnik said:

I am just curious if you had this much trauma when you gave up Santa.

 


Wait... wut.. what do you mean with that? Whats with Santa?

See Richard? See what you've done? You ruined Santa for NiKKoM.



"I don't understand how someone could like Tolstoy and Dostoyevsky, but not like Twilight!!!"

"Last book I read was Brokeback Mountain, I just don't have the patience for them unless it's softcore porn."

                                                                               (The Voice of a Generation and Seece)

"If you cant stand the sound of your own voice than dont become a singer !!!!!"

                                                                               (pizzahut451)

Rhonin the wizard said:

Luckily for me my parents aren't overly religious. My mother follows the various dogmas, but she leaves me alone. I'd say they'd accept you for who you are, however, I've seen people to stupid things, especially in the country we live.

I have to ask what do your parents do that makes it so hard to pretend you are religious?

I don't like pretending. I don't like being dishonest. Plus it's annying whenever they tell me "sapphi_snake, it's beeen so long since you've been to church. Why don't you go this Sunday?" And if I had kids I'd realy like them to tell me something like this.



"I don't understand how someone could like Tolstoy and Dostoyevsky, but not like Twilight!!!"

"Last book I read was Brokeback Mountain, I just don't have the patience for them unless it's softcore porn."

                                                                               (The Voice of a Generation and Seece)

"If you cant stand the sound of your own voice than dont become a singer !!!!!"

                                                                               (pizzahut451)