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What should I do?

Apologize and go home. 13 61.90%
 
Tough out and stick to my guns. 0 0.00%
 
Go back to being a whore because love sucks 3 14.29%
 
N64 would have been PS1 if it used CDs 5 23.81%
 
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It's not often that I ask for advice because I feel like I know everything but right now I'm not sure what to do.

Basically, I met a lady a long time ago, fell in love, got engaged and had a child. Unfortunately for us, I hadn't had a lot of relationships at the time. She was probably my third girlfriend ever--roughly six months after my first girlfriend ever! But I digress.

A couple of years later, I became a cop. Awesome job. Lots of responsibility and respect. What I didn't expect was that women would practically throw themselves at me. I cheated. A lot. As a result, I lost her. Lesson learned.

Fast forward to today.

Despite the fact that I pretty much ruined our future, my ex still found reasons to stay in contact with me. Constant contact. I mean, we have a kid so that's going to happen. She calls TOO MUCH, though. Who can blame her? I'm a likeable guy... Well, i quit being a whore, five years ago met a beautiful lady and married her in 2016. She's awesome in every way. Couldn't find a better woman if I tried. My ex keeps calling. Nothing I've said or done can stop her from calling almost every day!

A few days ago, my ex called to tell me about my daughter. My daughter and I are chose and talk all the time but my ex still feels the need to call. This time my wife got pissed off. As a result, I felt attacked (and I deserved to be) so I got pissed off. We had just bought a new house and haven't yet sold our old house. I grabbed some stuff, walked out the front door and haven't been back. I've been staying in the old house.

I am too proud to call. Haven't replied to any texts. I'm pretty much acting like I died. Meanwhile I'm in this house with zero appliances, furniture, etc. I'm on a fucking air mattress watching movies on a tablet for fuck's sake! I'm starving over here! And I'm lonely. I like being in love and right now I don't have that.

Yeah, that's a lot to unpack. Let's begin.



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Apologize and go home. You don't want to look back and realize you decided to stay and lost a lot which you held dear.

Explain what you've done, and talk to your wife and your ex.



Squash that shit with your wife IMMEDIATELY. If your ex is calling every day, she may feel threatened. That's a natural response. I'm sure there are dynamics to the situation that aren't mentioned in the OP, but based on what I'm seeing, your wife may be wanting you to scale waaaay back in your interactions with your ex wife. Which again, based on the limited amount of information I have to work with, seems reasonable. Your wife is trying to contact you, yes? Unless she really said/did some brutal stuff that hurt you, and you need bit of time simmer down, get in touch with her sooner than later.

 

Last edited by COKTOE - on 24 August 2019

Chinese food for breakfast

 

Fuck her right in the pussy

Edit: the ex obviously 

Last edited by kirby007 - on 24 August 2019

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Go home, apologize to your wife, and explain things to her calmly. She clearly loves you and wants to be with you, and by distancing yourself from her you're just making the both of you more miserable. And the two of you need to have a sit-down with your ex to establish some very clear boundaries on what is and isn't considered acceptable behavior on her part, namely that the two of you are divorced, you have a new wife, and that she needs to get over the fact that the two of your are through (regardless of who was at fault) and that it's unacceptable for her to continue to harass you like she's been doing.

Edit: And don't let your ex try to use your daughter as a political football. Get lawyers involved if you need to if she starts that shit.

Last edited by Shadow1980 - on 24 August 2019

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Do whatever shadow just said but I'd call first before going back to new house.



sethnintendo said:
Do whatever shadow just said but I'd call first before going back to new house.

Already home. Nobody here but me. 😢



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d21lewis said:
sethnintendo said:
Do whatever shadow just said but I'd call first before going back to new house.

Already home. Nobody here but me. 😢

You've got us!.. Do we mean nothing to you!?



Go home. Apologize. Work out a long-term solution with your current lady so that your daughter is still in your life but in a way that respects boundaries that your currently lady finds reasonable. Given your history of infidelity, expect to compromise to her expectations more than for her to compromise to yours.

Communicate the agreement to your ex in no ambiguous terms and be damn sure to follow/enforce them. This could be a second chance that you never get again. You can throw away that chance whenever you want, but the configuration of events/circumstance resulting in a third chance may not be as entirely within your control.

In time, you may be able to negotiate a compromise closer to your favour, but that requires good behaviour on your part and trust from your current lady.

No matter how things turn out, I really hope you are happy with the outcome. I just think pride would be a very regrettable determinant for an undesirable outcome.



What you all fail to realise and lewis himself forgot is that he is the biggest player in town, he cant be tied down if he gets settled he will fuck up. So those saying he should work it out with his current lady, doesnt think of the fact what lewis will do next



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