Quantcast
Locked: Some guys remain single by choice because it is easier!

Forums - NSFW Discussion - Some guys remain single by choice because it is easier!

Men choose to remain single and give up on women?

They do not want to becom... 9 7.69%
 
They do not want to change! 12 10.26%
 
They do not need a woman'... 3 2.56%
 
They do not want to conform to society! 5 4.27%
 
They have busy life and d... 9 7.69%
 
They are a man-child and never grew up! 17 14.53%
 
They are regarded as a lo... 15 12.82%
 
Modern feminism double st... 19 16.24%
 
Other! 27 23.08%
 
They choose sex workers instead! 1 0.85%
 
Total:117

Well, despite finding out she's taken, I caught up for that girl I mentioned a few weeks ago today, for lunch, just as friends. Was actually really nice. We got on really well and she even said at the end "this was great, we should do this again". Pity she has a boyfriend already.

Also signed up for a singles night this Friday; having one last crack at it before my 20s end next week.



Around the Network
curl-6 said:

Well, despite finding out she's taken, I caught up for that girl I mentioned a few weeks ago today, for lunch, just as friends. Was actually really nice. We got on really well and she even said at the end "this was great, we should do this again". Pity she has a boyfriend already.

Also signed up for a singles night this Friday; having one last crack at it before my 20s end next week.

Well if you become good friends, she may have a friend in waiting for you lol. I have a few friends who have married through friend set ups. So this isn't too bad of a situation to be in at all.

Also, eventually if you do get comfortable as friends maybe ask for some tips. say the modern world of social media is confusing and would like to hear what she thinks works.



 

 

It is unfair that most guys have to put in so much effort and settle for what they get. Just being a woman and unlimited attention is enough for most females to succeed at dating/romance and they get to wait for the best offer and they do not have to put in any effort.

I have always been a no effort/low effort and I do not have to try either. I have always had a why me, poor little old me, life not fair view on life!

There are a lot more Autistic males than Autistic females. Most Autistic males are not wanted by non-Autistic females. I would only consider an Autistic female and do not want non-Autistic females. It would never work out if they do not understand me.

How would you go about finding the Autistic females that are interested in you, if they exist? The Autistic females may be asexual, lesbian or only want non-Autistic guys.

It is by numbers near impossible for Autistic males to be dateable  unless they have lots of money and have good looks.

Last edited by Dark_Lord_2008 - on 09 January 2019

Dark_Lord_2008 said:

It is unfair that most guys have to put in so much effort and settle for what they get. Just being a woman and unlimited attention is enough for most females to succeed at dating/romance and they get to wait for the best offer and they do not have to put in any effort.

I have always been a no effort/low effort and I do not have to try either. I have always had a why me, poor little old me, life not fair view on life!

There are a lot more Autistic males than Autistic females. Most Autistic males are not wanted by non-Autistic females. I would only consider an Autistic female and do not like non-Autistic females.

How would you go about finding the Autistic females that are interested in you, if they exist? The Autistic females may be asexual, lesbian or only want non-Autistic guys.

It is by numbers near impossible for Autistic males to be dateable  unless they have lots of money and have good looks.

https://www.facebook.com/Autism-Aspergers-Perth-Western-Australia-294734317306148/

http://www.connectgroups.org.au/directory/listing/pa5-perth-adult-autism-and-aspergers-association

http://autismwest.org.au/social-groups/

https://www.autismspectrum.org.au/adultsocialgroups



 

 

I know life was never meant to be fair, but when you begin to understand the disadvantage having this disorder puts you at it really is depressing. There's a reason why approximately 35 percent of individuals with Asperger's are attending college, but yet people with Asperger's have a 75-85 percent unemployment rate. The average person underestimates how important social skills and being able to interact with others naturally like a "normal" human is, but when you lack that ability you are truly screwed in our society.

The really sad thing is there is hardly any help for adults with Asperger's. It seems like as soon as you turn 18 society forgets you exist and already expects you to be able to be a "normal" person. Unfortunately for many of us this is when our problems begin to get a lot worse. There are some work readiness programs for people with Autism, but many of these problems focus on individuals with medium functioning Autism who want to work for minimum wage and learn basic social skills so they can reach that goal. For people like myself who understand social skills in theory, and know they are capable of doing much more than working for minimum wage, there is nothing.

The problem is employers want to hire people they view as confident, high energy, and in general fun to be around. When you have Asperger's (especially combined with anxiety and depression like I do), this is literally impossible. I can pretend to be the characteristics viewed as positive by potential employers, but I still come across as awkward, not being genuine and in general very low energy and boring thanks to my monotone voice which is out of my control. I feel like next time I should just tell employers at interviews that "to be honest I do have Asperger's syndrome which can make it difficult for me to interact with others at times, but despite this, I truly believe that having Asperger's also will make me a harder worker than the other people applying for this job, as I am eager to prove myself, take pride in my work, and am more than qualified for this position". Unfortunately I believe if I said this I'd immediately be taken off of a company's hiring list as soon as I said that word Asperger's.

I don't really know what else to say other than I'm tired of the same thing over and over. I know that I am intelligent enough and a hard enough worker to be able to have a respectable job. I know that I am attractive and interesting enough to be in a relationship with something. I know that I am adventurous enough and kind enough to be a good friend, but I can't do any of these things because of the expectations that society puts on social skills. The thing about Asperger's is there is literally nothing wrong with many of us, it's just our society that makes a problem out of it. I truly believe that the world would be a much better place if everyone had Asperger's.

Last edited by Dark_Lord_2008 - on 09 January 2019

Around the Network
Dark_Lord_2008 said:

It is unfair that most guys have to put in so much effort and settle for what they get. Just being a woman and unlimited attention is enough for most females to succeed at dating/romance and they get to wait for the best offer and they do not have to put in any effort.

Probably not what you want to hear, but it's biology.  Men are hardwired to want to plant their seed in everything that moves.  Women are hardwired to only want the best possible father for their young.  Thus, women do, and almost always will, have the upper hand.



CladInShadows said:
Dark_Lord_2008 said:

It is unfair that most guys have to put in so much effort and settle for what they get. Just being a woman and unlimited attention is enough for most females to succeed at dating/romance and they get to wait for the best offer and they do not have to put in any effort.

Probably not what you want to hear, but it's biology.  Men are hardwired to want to plant their seed in everything that moves.  Women are hardwired to only want the best possible father for their young.  Thus, women do, and almost always will, have the upper hand.

Not just that but they do have to weed out the bullshit guys that think they owe them sex or something or want to blame all their problems on women.



Massimus - "Trump already has democrat support."

Dark_Lord_2008 said:

I know life was never meant to be fair, but when you begin to understand the disadvantage having this disorder puts you at it really is depressing. There's a reason why approximately 35 percent of individuals with Asperger's are attending college, but yet people with Asperger's have a 75-85 percent unemployment rate. The average person underestimates how important social skills and being able to interact with others naturally like a "normal" human is, but when you lack that ability you are truly screwed in our society.

The really sad thing is there is hardly any help for adults with Asperger's. It seems like as soon as you turn 18 society forgets you exist and already expects you to be able to be a "normal" person. Unfortunately for many of us this is when our problems begin to get a lot worse. There are some work readiness programs for people with Autism, but many of these problems focus on individuals with medium functioning Autism who want to work for minimum wage and learn basic social skills so they can reach that goal. For people like myself who understand social skills in theory, and know they are capable of doing much more than working for minimum wage, there is nothing.

The problem is employers want to hire people they view as confident, high energy, and in general fun to be around. When you have Asperger's (especially combined with anxiety and depression like I do), this is literally impossible. I can pretend to be the characteristics viewed as positive by potential employers, but I still come across as awkward, not being genuine and in general very low energy and boring thanks to my monotone voice which is out of my control. I feel like next time I should just tell employers at interviews that "to be honest I do have Asperger's syndrome which can make it difficult for me to interact with others at times, but despite this, I truly believe that having Asperger's also will make me a harder worker than the other people applying for this job, as I am eager to prove myself, take pride in my work, and am more than qualified for this position". Unfortunately I believe if I said this I'd immediately be taken off of a company's hiring list as soon as I said that word Asperger's.

I don't really know what else to say other than I'm tired of the same thing over and over. I know that I am intelligent enough and a hard enough worker to be able to have a respectable job. I know that I am attractive and interesting enough to be in a relationship with something. I know that I am adventurous enough and kind enough to be a good friend, but I can't do any of these things because of the expectations that society puts on social skills. The thing about Asperger's is there is literally nothing wrong with many of us, it's just our society that makes a problem out of it. I truly believe that the world would be a much better place if everyone had Asperger's.

Wants sympathy for a minority position. 

Yet is a huge Trumper. 

Welp. 



SpokenTruth said:
CladInShadows said:

Probably not what you want to hear, but it's biology.  Men are hardwired to want to plant their seed in everything that moves.  Women are hardwired to only want the best possible father for their young.  Thus, women do, and almost always will, have the upper hand.

Not just that but they do have to weed out the bullshit guys that think they owe them sex or something or want to blame all their problems on women.

That kind of fits into the whole "wants the best possible father for their young" theory.



CladInShadows said:
SpokenTruth said:

Not just that but they do have to weed out the bullshit guys that think they owe them sex or something or want to blame all their problems on women.

That kind of fits into the whole "wants the best possible father for their young" theory.

Oh, I know.  But you have to spell out those things to certain other individuals.  Namely, the exact people I was alluding to.  Otherwise they won't get it. 

Actually, they probably still won't get it.  Let's watch and see.



Massimus - "Trump already has democrat support."