I thought she was 16

[MrBubbles]

Johann said:

Netyaroze said:

Johann said:

Netyaroze said:

Johann said:

Chrizum said:

Oh please, I'm not condescending. You should be miserable for not having sex and not having a way to forget about not having sex. Since you aren't miserable, there is something wrong with you. I'm not looking down on you. If anything, I envy you. Seriously. Although you probably have a genetic defect or you have brain damage. You might want get yourself checked at the hospital. But for now, enjoy your life.

You're not condescending? You just told me I have brain damage because I'm not interested in having sex.

@blkfish92:

Not with another human being, no.

Can have various reasons that you dont want sex. It is clearly unusual but it can have dozends of reasons not all of them are pathologic. Trauma in the past, Hormone imbalance or just lack of them. Latent other sexual preferences. If you are in puberty this is probably just a phase. Its not really usual but it exists.

Let's analyze this, shall we:

Trauma in the past - Hmmm... I was sort of abused as a child. And it did bother me for a while... but ever since I stood on his grave as he was being burried and mumbled "I hope you burn in hell, you piece of shit.", I haven't thought much about it.
 

Hormone inbalance: I don't think there's anything wrong with my hormones. But there is a history of mental illness in my mother's side of the family, so maybe a chemical imbalance is more likely.

Latent other sexual preferences: I've thought about this before. I even tried it once. Didn't do it for me.

Pubery: I'm 23, so it seems highly unlikely I'm still going through puberty.

People have been telling me this is just a phase for the last 3 years (last time I had sex). I've won a couple bets about not lasting a year. Then a couple more about not lasting 2. My next milestone is 5. Wanna get in on the action?

 

Trauma: If you were abused as a child (sort of) it doesnt matter much if the person died and you dont think about it anymore. The damage on your personality is already done. And cant be reversed that easily. Often not at all

 

Hormone imbalance is a chemical imbalance it can cause mental illnesses which can be inherited from parents often dormant in young age. Its not necessarily sexual hormones that cause desinterest in Sex.

 

Other sexual preferences: I am not talking about homosexuality here if you know what I mean. I listed it as a possibility for desinterest in sex not to offend you or something.

 

Puberty: 23 is outside of puberty thats true. But I remember that puberty on a mental level can carry on into early twenties. Especially for males.

 

To rest: I dont want to bet with you. I believe you. But tbh the attitude you showed with this statements somehow point to number 1 of my listings.

 

I dont know you and am no psychologist or something so what I am going yo say is a possibility but could be BS ofcourse:

 

You have been traumatized in the past in some way in what way is not relevant here. This can cause: Connecting physical/emotional intimacy with a weird unpleasent feeling. Maybe very sublime you cant even tell the difference to how its supposed to feel if you were traumatized in your early childhood so you cant even tell that something is wrong. That connection your brain made is nearly indestructible if you dont try to reprogram yourself actively aka going to a good psych doc. You could think of sex later as not important and you wont understand why everyone is making such a fuss about it.Because your brain was actively shutting down your sex drive in early ages since you didnt felt the same enjoyment other people do. So maybe your brain didnt make as many connections in the areas for pleasure. You would eventually be able to see it with a CT.

 

Now you can easily sacrifice sex and because its hard for most people and easy for you. It almost looks like you try to prove to the world you dont need it.

 

Let me say this: This is no achievement if its easy for you to not have sex. Its also no personal achievement to have a strong sex drive this is just biology like beeing tall.

 

Even if everything I just said is wrong. I would go to a doctor. Even if I would be fine with it. It could eventually be a chance to improve your life. And why not take a chance to improve your life ? You have nothing to loose.

Went to a therapist for 2 years. Didn't change anything.

And the whole abuse thing is hardly relevant. I didn't even figure out what happened till years later (was too young to understand it). It's not like it scarred me. Someone threw a rock in my head when I was kid once. I remember that much more vividly. I was so pissed. I never found out who did it, too. Fucking punks.

And I don't feel like my sex drive is different than anyone else's. I still masturbate regularly. Sex just seems.... unnecessary. Involving someone else is just so awkward. And you have to worry about her enjoying it too. Much easier just do it by myself. Much faster too.

And besides, it's fun rejecting confused atractive girls who are used to guys drooling all over them.

You could be asexual of some variety, if youve not looked into something like that before.  dont let these people bother you about this, either way.