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axumblade said:
Jaicee said:

I have a bit of an update: There doesn't appear to be any such thing as a dating site that's only for women, but I found something fairly close called Her, which is a mostly-female dating site, and it's a little more promising than the other dating services I've tried so far. It's got some issues too though.

Oh trust me. Every dating app/site comes with its own issues. That's awesome you are giving it a go though! I actually met my SO through grindr about 5 and a half years ago and we've been happy since. :) 

:O I swear you were in a long term relationship when I left mid 2015? I also met my OH on Grindr, just had to kiss a lot of good looking frogs to get there.



 

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Seece said:
axumblade said:

Oh trust me. Every dating app/site comes with its own issues. That's awesome you are giving it a go though! I actually met my SO through grindr about 5 and a half years ago and we've been happy since. :) 

:O I swear you were in a long term relationship when I left mid 2015? I also met my OH on Grindr, just had to kiss a lot of good looking frogs to get there.

We broke up in 2014 but I wasn't very active on here at that time. We both had some depression issues. 

I dated a few people before hitting it off with Joel but they were either too emotionally dependant or kept leading me on. 

I always make the joke about finding love in a heless place in regards to grindr. People looking for relationships claim they are usually looking for hookups and those that claim to be looking for hookups are usually looking for relationships.

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axumblade said:
Seece said:

:O I swear you were in a long term relationship when I left mid 2015? I also met my OH on Grindr, just had to kiss a lot of good looking frogs to get there.

We broke up in 2014 but I wasn't very active on here at that time. We both had some depression issues. 

I dated a few people before hitting it off with Joel but they were either too emotionally dependant or kept leading me on. 

I always make the joke about finding love in a homeless place in regards to grindr. People looking for relationships claim they are usually looking for hookups and those that claim to be looking for hookups are usually looking for relationships.

That's pretty much it. All the dates I had amounted to nothing more than a fumble, but then the spontanious meets, on occasion turned out to be something more.

Glad to hear you met Joel and are doing well :)



 

Seece said:
axumblade said:

We broke up in 2014 but I wasn't very active on here at that time. We both had some depression issues. 

I dated a few people before hitting it off with Joel but they were either too emotionally dependant or kept leading me on. 

I always make the joke about finding love in a homeless place in regards to grindr. People looking for relationships claim they are usually looking for hookups and those that claim to be looking for hookups are usually looking for relationships.

That's pretty much it. All the dates I had amounted to nothing more than a fumble, but then the spontanious meets, on occasion turned out to be something more.

Glad to hear you met Joel and are doing well :)

Pretty much think that's the norm.

Grindr is definitely one of the best outlets to 'get yourself out there'.

I met my current partner on it as a once-off hookup, then he never left.



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I can get the appeal of dating apps like Grindr, but I'm really wary of them. It's all cool when the you find someone, until he asks if he could come by, sending me into a frenzy on what should I do or say next, considering my current situation.

I guess I'm not the kind of person who wants that kind of commitment for a hookup that fast, or just wants to wait for a better situation before engaging in something like that.



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Here's a couple topics:

1) Hades! Haven't played it yet, but people keep recommending it to me, telling me it aims for "the queer gaze" a lot in a way that really stands out. What do you (anyone) think? Good game worth getting? What's the quality of representation here in your view?

2) Pete Buttigieg. Now that the 2020 U.S. election is officially over, I figure it's a bit safer now to open that can of worms and that this would be easily the safest place to do so. I'm looking for the opinions of the gay men here on this topic in particular. He was the first openly gay candidate to run for the American presidency on a major party ticket. He even won a couple contests by certain metrics! What did you think of his run for the presidency? Particularly if you're an American gay man, did it mean something to you that he was a gay man or was it a peripheral, unimportant matter in your mind? And did you ever support his candidacy or did you have a different preference?



Jaicee said:

Here's a couple topics:

1) Hades! Haven't played it yet, but people keep recommending it to me, telling me it aims for "the queer gaze" a lot in a way that really stands out. What do you (anyone) think? Good game worth getting? What's the quality of representation here in your view?

Well, I'm neither gay nor is Hades my cup of tea as I'm not into Rogue-likes, but my little brother has it and absolutely loves it, and it does seem like a very well constructed game. For what it's worth, while again my ability to comment here is limited by the fact I'm hetero, it does seem to me to represent LGBT+ characters in a non-tokenistic and non-toxic way.

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Jaicee said:

Here's a couple topics:

1) Hades! Haven't played it yet, but people keep recommending it to me, telling me it aims for "the queer gaze" a lot in a way that really stands out. What do you (anyone) think? Good game worth getting? What's the quality of representation here in your view?

2) Pete Buttigieg. Now that the 2020 U.S. election is officially over, I figure it's a bit safer now to open that can of worms and that this would be easily the safest place to do so. I'm looking for the opinions of the gay men here on this topic in particular. He was the first openly gay candidate to run for the American presidency on a major party ticket. He even won a couple contests by certain metrics! What did you think of his run for the presidency? Particularly if you're an American gay man, did it mean something to you that he was a gay man or was it a peripheral, unimportant matter in your mind? And did you ever support his candidacy or did you have a different preference?

1) I haven't played Hades yet but everybody keeps talking about it so I might have to pick it up. 

2) I like Pete well enough but I don't think he was ready in any sense to become president. If you give him a few years to figure himself out, he might gain enough confidence and perspective to make a good leader. I will say, he doesn't really show much personality and can get a bit robotic at times, which I am not really a fan of but that could be dismissed as nervousness. I do hope that he remains relevant because he is still one of the most visible gay people in the political world at the moment, if only because he actually won a primary