i agree but you shouldn't take words as if people really mean them
Just dwell on that bolded bit, though. Facial expressions and other such body language only come through in conversation if the medium of communication allows it, and if the participants choose to use it. There are alternatives - though they are not as honest, instant or functional - and they are apparently not available in this particular internet forum groupfuckspace.
Tthrough the written word we do have the opportunity to elucidate, and through participation, the opportunity to expound on - or concede - talking points. It doesn't hurt to be wrong, and you're not going to lose anything of real value if you are, and there's a chance to develop valuable pragmatism and look at a thing from different angles each time you drop your guard. To place the responsibility on ONE participant for an undesirable tangent to a discussion is retroactive.
But what the fuck do I know, I'm autistic.