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Embrace your friendship but move on. Dont change how it is between the two of you and still hang out with her like you would normally.

One day you might be glad you stayed friends cause either she might end up developing feelings for you later or she might end up meeting a new girlfriend to hook you up with that would be even more perfect for you. Like a lot of things in life, dont cut your opportunities short.

But.......if hanging out with her is just going to be toxic for you then it's best to cut her out and try to recover asap. You need to do what makes yourself staying happy.



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Not really much you can do other than move on, and don't be an asshole about it

edit: Hm, probably should consider taking my own advice

Last edited by melbye - on 06 June 2019

When I woman only wants to be your friend it means that you aren’t attractive enough for her.
So you decide you wAnt to spend your time with someone who doesn’t find you attractive or you want to find a girl who actually finds you attractive?
Lonely women usually use the just friends tactic until they find someone they actually like, so don’t be surprised if she eventually finds a boyfriend and tells you that you can’t spend more time with her.
My advice is be polite but just move on, being friends with someone you really like is a recipe for disaster.



KLAMarine said:
Learn to cherish your friendship with that person. Sometimes, a friendship between two people is a better fit than a romance that may end up in a bitter break up or divorce.

I feel like thats bad advice.

If your romantically intrested in someone, you shouldnt "try being their friend" when they reject you.
Esp if he's saying their friendship isnt the same anymore.

Best would probably be to just cut her out of his life, and move on.
Sticking around is only gonna result in the friendship falling apart anyways.... and hurting him, sametime.

V-r0cK said:
Embrace your friendship but move on. Dont change how it is between the two of you and still hang out with her like you would normally.

The Op already said "things just arnt the same anymore", when talking about their friendship and hanging out.
Bad advice to say stick it out, imo.

gamingsoul said:
My advice is be polite but just move on, being friends with someone you really like is a recipe for disaster.

^ this.

Last edited by JRPGfan - on 06 June 2019

I was worried to see "oh you can try this or this" kind of things but gladly everyone seem to agree that the best thing to do is to move on

Last edited by AJNShelton - on 07 June 2019

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You probably have to stay away from her, the more time you sepnd with her the harder it will be to get over her.



Nothing. Be friends with her and value that kind of relationship. If its just a crush in a short time you'd be over it. it shouldnt be a long or hard process.
If you cant because of a "deeper emotional connection" of some sort (tho it doesnt sound like thats the case) distance yourself and try new activities to keep your brain busy.
Either way its a matter of time (and maturity I guess)

Alternatively, work hard on your job/company and keep yourself fit and healthy so that you become rich and handsome and she regrets not dating you. Just be petty about it always, all the time, because life is short to be humble and nice.



Deal with it. It'll probably involve doing what you feel is right, although it might be hard. Obviously keeping her as a friend sounds like a good plan, but it's up to you to decide if it works for you or not. The other option I can imagine is distancing yourself from her, which doesn't sound too nice but it you feel like it's the solution that works for you, go for it.



OP is missing the point he just wanted to be her friend to get in her pants.
Abort any contact asap otherwise the feelings will linger.
Best case scenario : less contact but do not totally avoid she will start with that anyway and look for someone else to pork

Last edited by kirby007 - on 06 June 2019

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I've been there before. Just swallow your pride and move on. It's hard in the beginning, but it all passes.