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wfz on 25 June 2013
theprof00 said:

I did force her to play flower and journey, and journey brought her to tears. It was great.

 


Forced her? Flower? Journey? Bringing her to tears? Is this some sort of sick sexual refence?

:P

Sorry to hear about your loss. You seem like you're handling it well, though, and I get the vibe that you're a pretty cool guy and won't have trouble finding your way through the near future and also in finding a new girl to be with. I hope it all goes for the best.



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sales2099 on 25 June 2013
HesAPooka said:
sales2099 said:
9 years? please enlighten me how you could break up after that long?

Because I have been with my gf for 2.5 years so far and it is scary to think that even long term relationships such as yours are able to fall apart. I see mine going the distance but stories such as yours make me wonder.

Care to explain what exactly made it end?


It's quite simple. Not everyone stays together simply because it's safe and they are doing "pretty good". Some people break up because they want passion again. Some people want more. They feel they can find someone where the passion will last forever.

Huh, from every 20+ year married couple Ive heard from, the passion tends to die off eventually, as the "honeymoon phase" rarely lasts a lifetime. But the love will always remain, and the relationship you build through the tough times will be enough to last well into retirement when your sex drive is all but eliminated. I dunno, everybodies different.



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DeadlyCatalyst on 25 June 2013

I hope so man. My girlfriend and I ended it after 4 years and we tried staying friends but we always crossed the boundaries. Our feelings always got in the way and well it won't be a question of your girlfriend getting in the way, it'll be a quetsion of whether you can handle the thougth of her with another man and vice versa. 

I know I couldn't and once she found another guy I cut contact. 

And to the gentleman critisizing after only two and a half years.. Just stop. 



HesAPooka on 25 June 2013
sales2099 said:
HesAPooka said:
sales2099 said:
9 years? please enlighten me how you could break up after that long?

Because I have been with my gf for 2.5 years so far and it is scary to think that even long term relationships such as yours are able to fall apart. I see mine going the distance but stories such as yours make me wonder.

Care to explain what exactly made it end?


It's quite simple. Not everyone stays together simply because it's safe and they are doing "pretty good". Some people break up because they want passion again. Some people want more. They feel they can find someone where the passion will last forever.

Huh, from every 20+ married couple Ive heard from, the passion tends to die off eventually, as the "honeymoon phase" rarely lasts a lifetime. But the love will always remain, and the relationship you build through the tough times will be enough to last well into retirement when your sex drive is all but eliminated. I dunno, everybodies different.


I'm just telling you how it is. I never said they will find that life long passion. Some people have unrealistic expectations. I think maybe they buy into hollywood and how it depict love and relationships.



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sales2099 on 25 June 2013
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theprof00 on 25 June 2013
sales2099 said:
HesAPooka said:
sales2099 said:
9 years? please enlighten me how you could break up after that long?

Because I have been with my gf for 2.5 years so far and it is scary to think that even long term relationships such as yours are able to fall apart. I see mine going the distance but stories such as yours make me wonder.

Care to explain what exactly made it end?


It's quite simple. Not everyone stays together simply because it's safe and they are doing "pretty good". Some people break up because they want passion again. Some people want more. They feel they can find someone where the passion will last forever.

Huh, from every 20+ married couple Ive heard from, the passion tends to die off eventually, as the "honeymoon phase" rarely lasts a lifetime. But the love will always remain, and the relationship you build through the tough times will be enough to last well into retirement when your sex drive is all but eliminated. I dunno, everybodies different.

Well, the passion lasted a very long time. And the love is still there. What's not there is the maturity. We both need to explore new opportunities. She needs to gain financial stability and emotional independence, and I need to get myself organized and focused. We can't really do that together because, as some people might understand, it's hard to change in the presence of another. Finding a groove with someone just as easily becomes a rut.



theprof00 on 25 June 2013
HesAPooka said:


I'm just telling you how it is. I never said they will find that life long passion. Some people have unrealistic expectations. I think maybe they buy into hollywood and how it depict love and relationships.

It's the opposite actually, I don't expect to ever find love or happiness. I'm just doing what feels right.



ArnoldRimmer on 25 June 2013
theprof00 said:

Well, I'm not a jealous type, so I don't really care who she hangs out with.

Hmmm...so you think I'm prolonging her suffering? Do you think I'm being mean by trying to continue the friendship??

Oops, I was actually under the impression that she was the one who came up with the end to end the relationship... Guess I was wrong about that part. ;)

If you were the one who came up with the idea to split up and suggested staying friends, then yes, I would indeed suggest stepping back from that idea for a while, if you actually care about her, because it's selfish.

About not being jealous... I think that's all relative. If you would see her right now making sex to another guy, I'm sure even the least jealous guy wouldn't really enjoy the sight. On the other hand, it's always much easier to deal with something like that for the person who did the split-up.



HesAPooka on 25 June 2013
theprof00 said:
HesAPooka said:


I'm just telling you how it is. I never said they will find that life long passion. Some people have unrealistic expectations. I think maybe they buy into hollywood and how it depict love and relationships.

It's the opposite actually, I don't expect to ever find love or happiness. I'm just doing what feels right.

It was more of a overall generalization. Doesn't apply to everyone. So long as you're doing what you know in your heart to be right that's all that counts.



I was walking down along the street and I heard this voice saying, "Good evening, Mr. Dowd." Well, I turned around and here was this big six-foot rabbit leaning up against a lamp-post. Well, I thought nothing of that because when you've lived in a town as long as I've lived in this one, you get used to the fact that everybody knows your name.

theprof00 on 25 June 2013
DeadlyCatalyst said:

I hope so man. My girlfriend and I ended it after 4 years and we tried staying friends but we always crossed the boundaries. Our feelings always got in the way and well it won't be a question of your girlfriend getting in the way, it'll be a quetsion of whether you can handle the thougth of her with another man and vice versa. 

I know I couldn't and once she found another guy I cut contact. 

And to the gentleman critisizing after only two and a half years.. Just stop. 

Yeah, I think it would be wise to not hang out around Significant Others.