Well shit, apparently I watched the wrong version. Stay away from the Netflix English Dub people! It's trash, and retranslates several key phrases so that plotpoints are lost to vaguery.
Well there's your problem. I haven't heard anything good about the Netflix translation.
Try to find some of the old ADV & Manga DVD releases if you can, and watch them subtitled, preferably. They've been out of print for a long time and can be pricey, but you'll get a better experience. I bought them when they were first coming out back in the very early 2000s.
There was a Blu-ray box set with the TV series plus Death & Rebirth and End of Evangelion that was released in Japan, but it apparently has no subtitles. Hopefully it makes its way West complete with subtitles at some point, and with Funimation working on the translation and dub, with the same cast used for the Rebuild films. The original is too much of a classic to not get a Blu-ray release this side of the Pacific at some point.