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I am average height and average weight and my point here is that it seems impossible for me to attract any women regardless of what she looks like.
I never said that I was only after attractive women.
My only requirement in a woman is just be a woman. I do not care about ethnicity, religion or height or body type.

I have rarely spoken to a woman before unless it was a family member. I have had minimal interactions with non-family women through out my years on this Earth unless it is interactions with check out chicks, nurse, doctors, etc just doing their job that are not a social situations.
Maybe a scripted responses or questions may help with interact with women but I do not have the courage to even do that because I do not want to be labeled a creep or a weirdo in MeToo society that regards men as a threat.



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Hit the gym bro. Pray at the temple of iron, as they say.

Do you think this fellow has an attractive face? Of course not. But zero chance there's literally no woman interested in him.

That, or install Tinder and go for the, erm, chubby ones. There are really thirsty women out there.



 

 

 

 

 

Dark_Lord_2008 said:
I love it how people deny reality and hold onto their blue pill fairy tale ending that rarely happens to unattractive males that wait, wait and still wait. Don't hold your breath on a woman that may change her mind if you act nice or in the friend zone. Friend zone is the dead zone that is a bad situation that she knows she can use you and give nothing back in return.

The cold hard reality is you must be attractive in order to attract women and the attraction is immediate through her accepting you from the start or not interested, through rejection or ignored. You can not fake confidence to gain attraction nor can you act nice for her to be attracted to you. The truth will set you free and there is no point wasting time on a dead end situation that will led to nothing.

A men not attracted to a woman will also hardly change his mind just because she is nice to him.

There are more woman than men on this planet and enough possible partnerships for every guy.

But you just use excuses because you tried it with specific woman which just didn't want you (yes, maybe because you weren't attractive but they probably were)

You just can't tell me that you don't care about the look of a woman and still have 0 chance with them (if you are a normal guy and not a freak)

So stop complaining about those woman who don't want you when you only look for those.

Don't be a 2/10 in attractiveness searching for a minimum 5/10 while complainig about the 5/10 just looking for a minimum 4/10 guy.

If you really don't care about how pretty someone is you will find enough possible partners. If you care about it then stop asking woman not to care about it.



I have always expected the women to approach me but those situations have never happened. I would not know what to say because my father did not teach me how to handle situations and I have no older brothers or cousins to learn from or provide advice. Video gaming addiction helped me waste away my youth and use up the endless free time of being alone again.

I wish there was an app that said: Look it is a woman is she interested in you or wish you were not there or wants to get away. An app that could generate conversations and read body language to see if she interested or giving subtle hints. I can not read body language but the vibes always seems they are not interested in me and no conversations ever happen. Awkward silence and I just walked away and never look back. I do not know if a woman has ever been interested in me. More than likely never interested because they would be obvious and express interest like they do to attractive guys on TV/Hollywood films.



kinda true but definitely disagree 6-8

yes appearance can help with confidence and attracting others in the short term, but it is the inside that counts in the long term

seriously there is nothing one can gain from one's appearance other than sex, but it is one's personality that you can gain a lot from

attractive people get ugly the moment they open their mouth if what comes out is shit, and the opposite, like really, many famous and successful people are not attractive at all

a beautiful heart can make an average face look brighter than a generically good face, and people have different tastes, many pretty girls are with ugly boys, it is unreal, not everyone finds Bieber attractive...

I hate it when people compliment on appearance, instead of "you got such beautiful eyes" or body, one values much more compliments like "I like the way you think", "I love the way you look at things" etc

if you feel your existence is a good thing for the world that can give you more than enough confidence to bring out your shine

*comes from a person who has been told repetitively that was ugly during teen years, yes life can be a bit more challenging but it also help you figure out the true people and what really matters :D

Last edited by dark_gh0st_b0y - on 15 June 2019

don't mind my username, that was more than 10 years ago, I'm a different person now, amazing how people change ^_^

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Maybe you need a psychologist to help you. You seem to be as low as it gets with your confidence and that is absolutely something a possible partner doesn't want.

I'm sure there are woman who would be interested in you but you have to get away from this “it's not possible for me“ thinking



Eh. Sounds like your problem isn't that you're not good enough. I'm not sure what it is, but one guess that comes to mind is desperation and overal attitude.

How attractive you are probably has very little to do with how successful you are in life in general. It definitely has something to do with your romantic/sexual life but then again, unless you're really ugly (which doesn't sound to be your case), the chances are that you wouldn't even want to be with a person who can't appreciate you for who you are. Also, stop worrying about things. You don't try to end up together with someone, you meet people and see what comes out of it. If you end up together, good, and if not, so what.



It's no wonder you can't find the right woman for you with THAT attitude!



Dark_Lord_2008 said:
I have always expected the women to approach me but those situations have never happened. I would not know what to say because my father did not teach me how to handle situations and I have no older brothers or cousins to learn from or provide advice. Video gaming addiction helped me waste away my youth and use up the endless free time of being alone again.

Yeah, unless you're really attractive somehow, you probably shouldn't expect that. Just live your life, and if you encounter enough people, eventually you'll probably find someone everything clicks with. If you want to increase your chances, start internet dating. My experience is that success rate is horrible but you'll probably get some action sooner or (probably) later. Just... stop expecting things and take whatever life throws at you. If you act like you want to end up together with someone, that someone will probably see it and find it unattractive (unless they're already really interested in you, which probably is almost never the case).



Wow that's a lot of self-pity going on there. Taking a shower and working on your attitude aren't useless advice, they're literally the bare essentials to being a viable dating prospect. Would you want to be with someone who rarely showers and has a negative demeanor? Odds are you wouldn't and if you did it wouldn't last long because you'd get tired of the other person really quickly.

Anybody has the capacity to be ugly or beautiful to anyone else, it's all subjective. You can't control what you find ugly or beautiful and neither can others. But what you can control is how you deal with it. I think you need to start by finding your inner self-worth, but you can't find it in the eyes or appraisal of other people, it will NEVER happen that way. You'll end up just hating yourself even more if you go down that path. Find your self-respect on your own by dealing with your insecurities and overcoming them. It might be difficult but when you overcome them you'll come out a better person and you'll have the self-esteem and confidence to not care about what others think of your looks. It's all about self love, don't be too hard on yourself and give yourself some TLC.

Last edited by tsogud - on 15 June 2019