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ugh, I guess I'm the latest poor sap to come here for relationship advice. Woe is me

Anyways... there's a girl that I really like and about 3 weeks ago I told her how I felt and asked her out. She said she just wanted to be friends. Ok, that was pretty devestating but I had fun hanging out with her before I asked her out so I've been trying to be friends since, but it's just different now. I still want to be much more than "just friends" and while I'm still always happy to see her the longer I spend with her the more I think about what could have been and then I just end up really sad. I'd love to hold out hope that one day something will happen between us, but I just find that hard to believe at the moment.

I thought about trying to avoid her to try and stop thinking about her, but firstly we work together and share basically all the same friends so that's difficult and secondly she'd surely realise if I were intentionally avoiding her, so that's not really a viable option either.

So, what should I do?



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Learn to cherish your friendship with that person. Sometimes, a friendship between two people is a better fit than a romance that may end up in a bitter break up or divorce.



You move on. There is no value in maintaining that friendship. Plenty other women out there.



KLAMarine said:
Learn to cherish your friendship with that person. Sometimes, a friendship between two people is a better fit than a romance that may end up in a bitter break up or divorce.

Easier said than done...



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Find another but doesn't mean can't be friends. I tease a few married women at my work almost elementary or high school style. Just having some fun with flirting with them but since they married and most with kids the only thing developed is a playful friendship. 

Also usually when you are getting some or have gf then girls somehow sense it or more confidence in you so they want some of that confidence or pheromones.  Get another girl and maybe current friend might want you more. 

Last edited by sethnintendo - on 06 June 2019

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Move on, especially if its a work relationship. Trust me, ive been in more than enough those to know. Stay friendly just in case situation changes.



Ask her to be friends with benefits?



Try to bring a little bit of distance between you and her, hang out with girls outside of your workspace, if she really likes you as a friend she will understand and once you're more easy with the situation you can go back and be just friends with her if you still want to.

I once had a very similar situation in 11th grade and now 6 years later she is one of the few people from school I'm still friends with.



Move on.



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Drop her and tell her you don't need more friends.