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SpokenTruth said:
o_O.Q said:

"And I have no idea what you're trying to say in your last paragraph."

ok lets take incels as an example, they feel for various reasons like all women are "whores" and as a result they have great disdain for women

but to reasonable people this is not reality we understand that they have warped perceptions and as a result their emotions do not reflect material reality

the fact that someone feels a certain way does not have any bearing on what reality actually is, its wholly irrelevant to this discussion

Good night, everybody.  We've come to the point that even the word 'feel' has been twisted in this debate.

When I said, "Gender identity is the psychological gender that they feel", I mean it as a subconscious function of the psyche.

When you say, "incels feel...like all women are whores."  You are referring to a conscious belief, a presumption, conjecture, supposition....

I'm done.

"

Gender identity is the psychological gender that they feel", I mean it as a subconscious function of the psyche."

and what about those who detransition and regret their transition? if its a subconscious operation that's embedded in them why are some wrong about their transition? 

furthermore if its a social construct as you have been arguing then it can't really be an embedded subconscious operation can it? because it should be in flux depending on the social pressures the person is experiencing

for clarification are you claiming this "subconscious function of the psyche" is an aspect that is there from birth and is innate and unchanging? or is it a social construct that the person develops through interacting with their environment?

"When you say, "incels feel...like all women are whores.""

its a social construct, they come to perceive reality that way because of social pressures that mould their minds leading them to a certain conclusion

and if you were actually consistent you would acknowledge that you've said the same about gender before(well you've said that its a social construct but you may disagree with how i've defined it)

"I'm done."

i would've been done when people started implying that clothing determines gender but its morbid curiosity that is driving me, i seriously want to see if i'm missing something here and this really isn't as stupid as i think it is

when the other guy from earlier in the thread criticised me for calling unicorn a gender but then basically said that gender could be infinite i had to come back and seek clarification on that because i don't understand how someone can seriously hold both beliefs in their head at the same time



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vivster said:

I use the current interpretation that divorces gender from biological sex. Biological differences exist and should be respected, but they don't define you.

A woman is nothing more than a human that has certain biological characteristics and certain needs. Those needs are different from other humans, but they are in no way more or less important. The thing here is that humans are extremely diverse. There is no point in arbitrarily drawing a line between two groups if the biological differences within 1 group are as big as the differences between the groups. There are women that look and act like men and vice versa, so why even divide the groups then?

There are special needs people who have to regularly go to special physicians to get themselves checked for their own biological issues. Be it a woman going to a gynecologist or a wheelchair bound person going to the orthopedist. I don't think we'll have to assign a gender to differently abled people just because they're physically different, so why would we do that to biological sexes?

Genders are a social construct, created from the human need to categorize everything. From the earliest societies women were labeled the weaker gender, partly because of necessity and partly because male power fantasies. But that isn't really a natural state or a default state seeing how there have been matriarchal societies since the beginning of time. Biological sexes looked differently so of course they have to be separated. Animals and humans are wired to form groups and see members outside our group with skepticism. These things can be overcome however. Humans are intelligent enough to see past difference. We did it with races and we can do it with gender as well.

If we look at infants we can see universal acceptance and respect of all genders and races, which means they're only later indoctrinated. This indoctrination is not malicious in most cases but it's just very stupid and causes more problems than it's trying to fix. It all starts with gendered clothing, colors and even toys. One of the most egregious things are gendered bathrooms. Children are taught to keep to their own gender. Having homogeneous gendered groups in childhood and especially youth creates a very toxic circlejerk within these groups who will then define the other group and creating a false picture, further dividing them. At the end of adolescence all the damage is done.

To change people's perception of gender we need to start in the early childhood. The current generation is already lost but change can come in the future. At some point people have to stop caring about genders. Sadly we're currently going in the opposite direction. Ironically it's fueled by people who fight for gender equality. We're currently regressing in our acceptance of genders and races because people put emphasis on things that should not be emphasized.

I think I made my point here. Now I'm trying to think of a way to fix the issue with gendered changing rooms.

The situation isn't necessarily as hopeless as it may at first appear. It really depends on the extent to which a given country's feminist movement is influenced by the American women's movement because it's the American women's movement from whence intersectionality theory derives; intersectionality theory being the glue that connects feminist politics to queer theory in the contemporary imagination. In Spain, for example, the women's movement is more powerful and led instead by the lesbian feminists, as you can tell by their slogans and choices of imagery and attire (e.g. only lesbian feminists use the term "hetero-patriarchy" and the March 8th Movement organizers march in lesbian pride purple emblazoned with the second wave woman power symbol) and the March 8th Movement is having a real impact and influence across Europe. Likewise, , South Korea's Ditch the Corset movement is significantly influenced by the literature of lesbian feminist scholar, author, and activist Dr. Sheila Jeffreys.

Radical feminists, including the lesbians, are also a major faction of the movement in the United Kingdom, where there never really was a proper "third wave" or "fourth wave" like happened here in the U.S., and, unlike here in the U.S., over there they lead the movement against transgender politics. I think that helps because many if not most people who embrace transgenderism wind up doing so by way of introduction thereto by the intersectional feminists today. If feminist politics form a path in, they can therefore also form a path out for many of the same people. It's probably no coincidence that many ideas of the transgender movement are highly unpopular in the UK at present. (For example, a recent survey of Scottish women found that 79% want to retain single-sex facilities ranging from restrooms to locker rooms and sports teams.)



MrWayne said:
RaptorChrist said:
All of the recent gender debates really bother me for some reason. It almost seems like in recent years if a man wants to be a woman or vice versa, they can just say that that's what they are, and everyone is expected to address them as such. It's kind of selfish, and it seems like an excuse to start an argument.

I don't think you have to believe everything people are saying. I handle it this way, If someone is brave enough to dress like a woman in public he deserves to be called what ever the hell he wants.

I guess so. But he's still a male, even if he wants to be called a woman. Does he get to use the women's bathroom, too, then?



the-pi-guy said:

o_O.Q said:

Do you seriously not understand the difference between these two statements?

>Most transgender persons I've seen or met dress very cliche masculin or cliche feminine, so yes this rule of thumb will probably cover 90%.

>gender is derived from clothing"

his answer in response to me asking how he differentiates between men and women was to talk about clothing

what about you? how do you differentiate between men and women?

Alright here's where I had a misunderstanding.  The bolded is exactly what I'm talking about.  

Gender isn't derived from clothing, but clothing is one way to tell genders apart.  Because people that identify as male tend to dress a certain way, and people that identify as female tend to dress another certain way.  

How do I differentiate between the two?  By appearance, unless the person says otherwise.  

o_O.Q said:

"What gender would you say a hermaphrodite is?"

an exception since no classification is 100 percent perfect... not even yours if you can actually define a new one

That's exactly the point.  No classification is perfect.  

I'm not trying to make a perfect classification.  It's about understanding there are exceptions, and trying to make laws that harm people who are exceptions is wrong.

o_O.Q said:

i'm talking about gender identity not physical reality... the exact same thing you are doing to have me accept the bullshit that because a man wears a dress that this makes him a woman

that's all in their head right? so why can't the same occur with the unicorn identity?

names and pronouns are completely different, one differentiates individuals and the other differentiates between men and women

>why can't the same occur with the unicorn identity?

I never said it couldn't happen.  There are people attracted to buildings, people who have multiple personalities, and so many other things.  You keep trying to pose this as some kind of gotcha, when if you actually read anything I've said, you'd understand that I admit that such a thing could happen.

>names and pronouns are completely different, one differentiates individuals and the other differentiates between men and women

That's not true.  There are plenty of pronouns that don't differentiate between men and women.  In fact, most pronouns don't differentiate between the two.  In fact some languages have three sets of pronouns, with a third one that is gender-neutral.  

o_O.Q said:

"What?  You identify who people are, subconsciously? "

everyone does, most of our perception in case you did not know occurs subconsciously through techniques like pattern recognition

"Asking questions that make light of issues that are serious to some people on the other hand...  "

like what? the unicorn question? can you not see that if you claim that its all in someone's head that it then becomes reasonable that someone can identify as anything?

i posted a link of someone identifying as a cat, why is that wrong from your perspective? 

>everyone does, most of our perception in case you did not know occurs subconsciously through techniques like pattern recognition

That doesn't mean it's subconscious.  You conciously train your brain on pattern recognition.  

If I write down a brand new shape, your brain doesn't subconsciously know what it is.  You have to consciously learn what it is. 

Even then you still have to make conscious decisions about what things are.  Just because something has a subconscious element doesn't mean it's beyond your control.  

> can you not see that if you claim that its all in someone's head that it then becomes reasonable that someone can identify as anything?

Can you not see that there are biological complexities that make gender disphoria a possible thing?

o_O.Q said:

"Because people deserve respect."

this is a dubious claimi don't respect white supremacists, i do not respect incels, i do not respect communists etc etc etc... i think all of these groups are mentally ill and unworthy of respect

"People that are transgender are not trying to lie to themselves"

what about those who detransition and regret their transition?

Let me clarify.  People that are not harming others don't deserve disrespect for their actions that don't harm others.  

>what about those who detransition and regret their transition?

There are plenty of reasons why people could feel regret for transitioning.  

-It doesn't bring the relief they thought it would.  Everyone is different.  Everyone responds differently to transitioning.  This is literally pointed out in the video that you posted.  

-They get harrassed by family and friends.

That doesn't mean they are lying to themselves.  It just means that particular treatment didn't work.  

For example just because a certain type of anti-depression medicine doesn't work for someone, that doesn't mean they are lying to themselves about being depressed.  That's literally the argument you are trying to make here.  

o_O.Q said:

"They often have irregularities such as-Brain structures-Hormones"

from what i've seen more research has to be done on this with regards to brain structure because there's a lot of research that's pointing the other claiming that men and women are equal since their brains are relatively similar

with regards to hormones how could that be the case when the main component of transitioning is hormone therapy?

>from what i've seen more research has to be done on this with regards to brain structure because there's a lot of research that's pointing the other claiming that men and women are equal since their brains are relatively similar

There are still differences in brain structures.

>with regards to hormones how could that be the case when the main component of transitioning is hormone therapy?

There are all kinds of different hormones.  

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Causes_of_transsexuality#Prenatal_androgen_exposure

o_O.Q said:

so its brain structure that determines gender and brain structure is binary? if that's the case why have you argued for acknowledgement of at least 3 genders?

"People aren't choosing to be transgender."

they are choosing to identify as something other than what their appearance indicates them to be, is that better?

>so its brain structure that determines gender and brain structure is binary?

I never said brain structure is binary.  There are differences in brain structures, and there are variations between those brain structures. Clearly non-binary.

>they are choosing to identify as something other than what their appearance indicates them to be, is that better?

Just like people with depression choose to take anti-depression medicine.  

o_O.Q said:

"How do they compare to the laws that are being made to restrict this fellow into using the female bathroom?"

what does that person identify as?

Male, but they were born female.

"Gender isn't derived from clothing"

ok what is gender derived from?

here you appear to conclude that its what a person chooses to identify as

"How do I differentiate between the two?  By appearance, unless the person says otherwise. "

you are saying here that your ultimate decision is based on what the person claims to identify as

" It's about understanding there are exceptions, and trying to make laws that harm people who are exceptions is wrong."

aren't you arguing that the classic understanding of what a man is and what a woman is need to be expanded to include those who identify as such?

you aren't treating them as if they are exceptions but instead rendering the classification meaningless to ensure there are no exceptions

which laws are you referring to? you mean stopping male assigned at birth people from accessing women's washrooms? to me that's for women to decide, if they are ok with it then let it happen, even put in urinals if it comes to that

"when if you actually read anything I've said, you'd understand that I admit that such a thing could happen."

you instead of dealing with what i was saying tried to twist it to make it seem like i was talking about different species when i was clearly talking about identity

its ironic though that you and the others pushing this idea tried to fall back onto biology to try to invalidate my argument, to me it indicates that on some level you don't really have conviction in this idea but that's my opinion

"There are plenty of pronouns that don't differentiate between men and women."

in the context we are speaking in we are referring to people transitioning between man and woman, obviously meaning that the relevant pronouns in this discussion are he and she which are used to differentiate between the two

"That doesn't mean it's subconscious."

its subconscious and embedded from around the age of 2 or so from childhood and i'm unsure but i'd expect there may even be biological instincts from birth that facilitate the differentiation

a young kid knows to suck on its mother's breasts for sustenance for example

"If I write down a brand new shape, your brain doesn't subconsciously know what it is.  You have to consciously learn what it is."

again certain aspects of our perception are instinctual and exist from birth, this probably isn't entirely the case with differentiation between men and women but it sure develops pretty damn quickly

"Even then you still have to make conscious decisions about what things are. "

when you recoil after touching a hot pan do you have to think about whether it was hot or not or do you just recoil instinctively?

what about if someone throws something at you?

what about when a dog barks?

i find it hard to believe that you are trying to get me to believe that you have to stop and think in order to recognise people you know or whether someone is a woman or a man

"Just because something has a subconscious element doesn't mean it's beyond your control.  "

in this case it clearly is, i want you to go outside, go to the nearest town and walk around and every time you see someone that is clearly a woman try to convince yourself that its really barack obama

try doing that for a month or so then send me your results

"Can you not see that there are biological complexities that make gender disphoria a possible thing?"

never denied that it was a thing and that sucks for those people, but that doesn't mean that we should completely upend how society works 

blind people are inconvenienced by how towns are organised, do we restructure towns entirely to make things perfect for them or do they have to accept to some degree that things will be a little harder for them?

well in reality we've settled on the latter

this is besides the fact that as i've said the differentiation process is subconscious anyway, people may lie to themselves and say that a man in a dress is a woman but their perception will tell them otherwise 

"That doesn't mean they are lying to themselves."

but come on, in some cases its clearly delusion or a phase and that's why they detransition

 "I never said brain structure is binary.  There are differences in brain structures, and there are variations between those brain structures. Clearly non-binary."

fair enough, ok so brains exist on a spectrum is that it? and each type should have a gender? this is a question i'm not saying this is your claim, i'm asking because it seems like that's where this is heading

"Male, but they were born female."

their appearance is what you'd expect from a man and obviously no one would hassle them for using a male restroom

but that's not what this discussion is about, if this was just about appearance then i wouldn't have an issue

"

"How do I differentiate between the two?  By appearance, unless the person says otherwise. "

you are saying here that your ultimate decision is based on what the person claims to identify as"

that is my problem



RaptorChrist said:
MrWayne said:

I don't think you have to believe everything people are saying. I handle it this way, If someone is brave enough to dress like a woman in public he deserves to be called what ever the hell he wants.

I guess so. But he's still a male, even if he wants to be called a woman. Does he get to use the women's bathroom, too, then?

Sure if he wants to go to the women's bathroom. I witnessed many occassions were women(the ones with the real pussies and who weren't dressed like men) wanted to go to the men's bathroom, everyone was ok with that.

btw just because someone dresses like a woman doesn't force you to date this person. That probably does not apply to you RaptorChris but I think some people are worried that if we treat trans women/men like biological women/men they also have to get attracted by transgender women/men, which is obviously bullshit. 

Nobody is attracted to every single individual from the opposite(or same) sex.



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MrWayne said:
RaptorChrist said:

I guess so. But he's still a male, even if he wants to be called a woman. Does he get to use the women's bathroom, too, then?

Sure if he wants to go to the women's bathroom. I witnessed many occassions were women(the ones with the real pussies and who weren't dressed like men) wanted to go to the men's bathroom, everyone was ok with that.

btw just because someone dresses like a woman doesn't force you to date this person. That probably does not apply to you RaptorChris but I think some people are worried that if we treat trans women/men like biological women/men they also have to get attracted by transgender women/men, which is obviously bullshit. 

Nobody is attracted to every single individual from the opposite(or same) sex.

"but I think some people are worried that if we treat trans women/men like biological women/men they also have to get attracted by transgender women/men, which is obviously bullshit. "

no, no one has ever said that's their problem with this, the problem is that its delusional nonsense that cannot be rationally justified

i honestly feel like if i'm sitting in a church with some of the nonsense i've seen with regards to this topic and that's putting it mildly

but for clarification were you implying earlier that you determine gender through clothing? if not how do you determine gender?



o_O.Q said:
MrWayne said:

Sure if he wants to go to the women's bathroom. I witnessed many occassions were women(the ones with the real pussies and who weren't dressed like men) wanted to go to the men's bathroom, everyone was ok with that.

btw just because someone dresses like a woman doesn't force you to date this person. That probably does not apply to you RaptorChris but I think some people are worried that if we treat trans women/men like biological women/men they also have to get attracted by transgender women/men, which is obviously bullshit. 

Nobody is attracted to every single individual from the opposite(or same) sex.

"but I think some people are worried that if we treat trans women/men like biological women/men they also have to get attracted by transgender women/men, which is obviously bullshit. "

no, no one has ever said that's their problem with this, the problem is that its delusional nonsense that cannot be rationally justified

i honestly feel like if i'm sitting in a church with some of the nonsense i've seen with regards to this topic and that's putting it mildly

but for clarification were you implying earlier that you determine gender through clothing? if not how do you determine gender?

Sorry I didn't know that you asked every single person on this planet about this topic. Can you show me your notes about that?

Not only clothing but appearance, how do you determine what gender a random person you just meet has? Do you ask them to show their primary sex organs? or a DNA test?



only777 said:
My five year old knows the difference between a man and a woman, I'm not sure why people find it so hard to work out.

And at the point one of the 0.5% of the population that's transgender suddenly pops up i'll tell my five you old about gender dysphoria in a way they can understand.

Bingo.



the-pi-guy said:

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What does your subconscious tell you this is?  Old woman or young woman? 

I forreal thought it was an old macau nomming on a blackberry.



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Snesboy said:
only777 said:
My five year old knows the difference between a man and a woman, I'm not sure why people find it so hard to work out.

And at the point one of the 0.5% of the population that's transgender suddenly pops up i'll tell my five you old about gender dysphoria in a way they can understand.

Bingo.

Yeah that's good.

Why is there even such a big discussion about it if most of the new generated genders come from gender politics that are seperated from the science on the subject?