Eric, imagine you had cancer. You don't have the money to pay for treatments that would save your life. But you have a friend that does have that money and offers to pay for your treatments because you've helped him in the past when he needed your help. Now imagine that friend is incredibly wealthy. Easily able to afford your treatment. And Imagine all the friends and family of your friend wants your friend to help you. Your friend pays and you fight that cancer as hard as you can. You and your friend know that the treatments are the only thing keeping you from dying of cancer and eventually you'll be in remission. But then....you friend stops paying for treatment. Now you're in relapse and the cancer has returned. And it's spreading.
And everybody is in absolute shock at your friend. Guess you'll just suffer and die then....right?
I'll start by saying not bad. An ok comparison. A few flaws, but I'll respond in a reasonable manner anyway.
I do have to point out the friendship here is crucial. The longer the friendship, the more it matters. If it's a lifelong friend then that certainly would be shocking and I would be extremely disappointed. If it's a more recent friend, who I also would only call a friend, not a really good friend, or best friend, then that would be unfortunate, but the connection isn't all that solid, so it's certainly not seen as an obligation by any means in that case.
Part of what you left out as well, was how everyone else who's tied to me closely plays into it financially. If some of those close people have the capability to pay for my treatment, but won't, even though they want me to live, then that has to be taken into account. Just because they don't want to pay, isn't an excuse, if they truly want me to live. If they don't care enough to help me survive, should any blame be put on them, and does it really matter much if the friend backs out then? If these close people can't pay or don't have connections to help in some way, then I'd be thankful for their prayers, but that's just the way it is in that case.
The question isn't a good one to pose to me in general, because while I obviously value my life, I'm fully aware that I'm not as special or crucial as some people make themselves out to be, and I realize the world is far from a perfect place, and never will be. If that was the situation, and there wasn't anything I could do about it, then that's just the way it would be. Would I hope they would continue to help by paying, sure, but I wouldn't expect it. I don't control them, and they don't control me, which is part of what makes us friends.
There's little reason to legitimately hate or blame that somewhat recent friend, because they didn't give me cancer. They also tried to help, instead of just letting me die much earlier. What about the time I was given due to the initial payments that I wouldn't have had otherwise? Did the help I gave that friend save their life? How much did it cost me? Have they done enough to pay me back even steven? What if I could never pay them back no matter what I did going forward? Is that fair, if they would've paid me back a thousand times over by continuing to pay? What if over time, the cancer keeps returning regardless? When does the friends status change to something else, like an informal caregiver, or my own personal philanthropist?
I seriously could just keep asking relevant questions that need to be taken into account, but I think I've made the point. If you or anyone else can't see any logic in what I've said here, then I can only assume it's because you're basing this mostly off of feelings, and feelings don't outweigh facts in the real world, at least not if you want stability anyway.
Everything that has a beginning has an end, and everything that happens in between is due to either fate, or everyone's choices, neither of which can be controlled, other than the choices we ourselves make, and we, are mere mortals.