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EricHiggin said:
AngryLittleAlchemist said:

I got what you meant, I wasn't correcting you. 

I'm wondering how you can get pregnant from anal? I mean, I am a firm believer that anything can happen, but that sounds just incredible (in the "strange" way not in the "awesome" way)! I've never heard that before, sounds more like a meme in South Park than reality. 

Looks like I'll have to get Henqirue tested .....

Well explaining it I would have to assume isn't something for a thread in this section, so it can be googled if you really want to know, but obviously that's not possible between two naturally physically born males or females, which is exactly why genders exist in humans. However between opposite genders, there is a very real yet minuscule possibility.

That was a joke. 

Anyways, time to go read about freak heterosexual butt pregnancy ...



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AngryLittleAlchemist said:

That was a joke. 

Anyways, time to go read about freak heterosexual butt pregnancy ...

I was completely lost on this subject myself. Had to google it and the answer isn't as crazy as you'd guess (since the orifices are very close, there's a possibility of leakage into the vagina despite the actual sex being anal).

Was thinking there were mutant woman who have their uterus in their butt lmao



We need a constant stream of younger folks to maintain our way of life. Workers who keep the world moving along and paying in to support the older folks who can't work anymore. The US is already in a bit of trouble with this need. In a couple decades, we won't have enough 30 year olds to run the consumer economy we enjoy now. Right at the wrong time for middle agers who will be retiring then. Who is going to change my 75 year old diaper?



My first child is due in 32 days. So, I'm excited to see how this parenthood thing works.

We made the kid on purpose. But, I can't say that there was any deep thought that went into deciding to have a kid. when I was younger, I always assumed I would have a few kids. I just figured it would be a good experience. But, as I got into my mid-thirties and hadn't had any, I started to consider the possibility that it might not happen. That was tough to accept it first, but then I came around. I figured if it happens, it happens.

I got married 4 years ago. My wife also was interested in having kids. So, about 3 years ago we started trying. After two years we had no success, and I again started to consider the possibility that kids would not happen for us. Then, the wife gave me the good news, and the focus change for making a kid to successfully bringing him into the world. It looks like that's pretty much certainly going to happen, so the focus is changing now to keeping this kid healthy, so that we can then focus on making him a success. (My definition of success is extremely broad, so let's not get into that part.)

anyway, my underlying point here is that there doesn't necessarily have to be any big deep reason for it. Sometimes it happens by accident, sometimes it's a thing that people do just because they think they're supposed to do. Other times it's done on a whim, and still other times entails much frustration and heartache. it's a basic biological function, and it's necessary for survival of the human species. And ultimately, whether we consciously think about it or not, that's the purpose.



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Ka-pi96 said:
VAMatt said:
My first child is due in 32 days. So, I'm excited to see how this parenthood thing works.

We made the kid on purpose. But, I can't say that there was any deep thought that went into deciding to have a kid. when I was younger, I always assumed I would have a few kids. I just figured it would be a good experience. But, as I got into my mid-thirties and hadn't had any, I started to consider the possibility that it might not happen. That was tough to accept it first, but then I came around. I figured if it happens, it happens.

I got married 4 years ago. My wife also was interested in having kids. So, about 3 years ago we started trying. After two years we had no success, and I again started to consider the possibility that kids would not happen for us. Then, the wife gave me the good news, and the focus change for making a kid to successfully bringing him into the world. It looks like that's pretty much certainly going to happen, so the focus is changing now to keeping this kid healthy, so that we can then focus on making him a success. (My definition of success is extremely broad, so let's not get into that part.)

anyway, my underlying point here is that there doesn't necessarily have to be any big deep reason for it. Sometimes it happens by accident, sometimes it's a thing that people do just because they think they're supposed to do. Other times it's done on a whim, and still other times entails much frustration and heartache. it's a basic biological function, and it's necessary for survival of the human species. And ultimately, whether we consciously think about it or not, that's the purpose.

32 days? Good luck man!

Any ideas for a name yet?

Middle name will be Harrison.  It is a name associated with a couple of very close relatives that have passed away recently.  As for the first name.....

I'm American and my wife is Croatian.  So, we need a name that people in both places can easily pronounce.  So far, the leaders are Ryan and John (which is also a family name).  We've been using a placeholder name of Kevin.  That started as a joke, but it seems to have really entered into consideration.  Also, I'm pushing for LeBron.  But, were white, and everyone seems to be racist, so they think its not a good name for a white kid.  

 



VAMatt said:
Ka-pi96 said:

32 days? Good luck man!

Any ideas for a name yet?

Middle name will be Harrison.  It is a name associated with a couple of very close relatives that have passed away recently.  As for the first name.....

I'm American and my wife is Croatian.  So, we need a name that people in both places can easily pronounce.  So far, the leaders are Ryan and John (which is also a family name).  We've been using a placeholder name of Kevin.  That started as a joke, but it seems to have really entered into consideration.  Also, I'm pushing for LeBron.  But, were white, and everyone seems to be racist, so they think its not a good name for a white kid.  

 

Sadly name might impact your kid's chances at a job. Good luck, first few weeks / months will be rough, so worth it.



OT - I would say the reasons and rewards for having kids is not logical, but emotional. And as such, it can be really hard to justify it with words. I would liken it a bit to explaining how cool a VR game is in plain text to someone who hasn't tried VR before because of the high price associated with it.

VAMatt - I'm eight month in to this kid thing, and it is something of a rollercoaster. There is so much to learn, and nobody can fully prepare you for it. Every time you think you've "figured this out," something will change (often the very next day) and you'll be back to square one. From what I hear, this trend continues on at least for the first year. You'll have to give up on playing any of the modern-day 40+ hour open world epics, maybe stick to playing quick and simple titles where possible. I even started playing some mobile trash out of sheer desperation - I almost want to say you're better off just not playing video games than messing with that crap.

- Initially the newborn will eat at what I considered an inhuman rate, a little bit every 2 to 2-1/2 hours. Their stomach grows out of this quickly, but your sleep will be super ****ed.
- Babies don't smile until about 6 weeks, and the only way they communicate is crying. May not sound like much, but they can come off as like the most needy and ungrateful boss. When that first smile comes in though, you won't forget it.
- Trimming the baby's finger nails is a bitch, but if you don't they'll scratch their face. Early on your best bet is to use a nail file rather than clippers.
- Sleep is the hardest thing to get for both parent and baby, for many reasons. Baby sleep is interrupted easily by design - hunger will wake them up so they don't go malnourished. Babies practice physical skills at all times, even in their sleep, meaning they can and will roll into the crib sides. Just setting them down to sleep is difficult - instinct says predators can get us if an adult isn't holding them while asleep - so you gotta learn how to put them down in the crib just right so they don't wake up. Oh yeah, the hospital will drill into your head that sleeping on the back is the only safe way for infants to sleep, but if your wife sleeps on her side, the kid probably will too initially, and that's totally fine. Once the kid starts rolling onto his/her stomach, you can ignore the back sleep thing entirely.

This parenting thing is no joke, but seeing your child develop and experience new things is satisfying.



arcaneguyver said:
OT - I would say the reasons and rewards for having kids is not logical, but emotional. And as such, it can be really hard to justify it with words. I would liken it a bit to explaining how cool a VR game is in plain text to someone who hasn't tried VR before because of the high price associated with it.

VAMatt - I'm eight month in to this kid thing, and it is something of a rollercoaster. There is so much to learn, and nobody can fully prepare you for it. Every time you think you've "figured this out," something will change (often the very next day) and you'll be back to square one. From what I hear, this trend continues on at least for the first year. You'll have to give up on playing any of the modern-day 40+ hour open world epics, maybe stick to playing quick and simple titles where possible. I even started playing some mobile trash out of sheer desperation - I almost want to say you're better off just not playing video games than messing with that crap.

- Initially the newborn will eat at what I considered an inhuman rate, a little bit every 2 to 2-1/2 hours. Their stomach grows out of this quickly, but your sleep will be super ****ed.
- Babies don't smile until about 6 weeks, and the only way they communicate is crying. May not sound like much, but they can come off as like the most needy and ungrateful boss. When that first smile comes in though, you won't forget it.
- Trimming the baby's finger nails is a bitch, but if you don't they'll scratch their face. Early on your best bet is to use a nail file rather than clippers.
- Sleep is the hardest thing to get for both parent and baby, for many reasons. Baby sleep is interrupted easily by design - hunger will wake them up so they don't go malnourished. Babies practice physical skills at all times, even in their sleep, meaning they can and will roll into the crib sides. Just setting them down to sleep is difficult - instinct says predators can get us if an adult isn't holding them while asleep - so you gotta learn how to put them down in the crib just right so they don't wake up. Oh yeah, the hospital will drill into your head that sleeping on the back is the only safe way for infants to sleep, but if your wife sleeps on her side, the kid probably will too initially, and that's totally fine. Once the kid starts rolling onto his/her stomach, you can ignore the back sleep thing entirely.

This parenting thing is no joke, but seeing your child develop and experience new things is satisfying.

Oh man, you're describing my life right now.  I'm 2 months into a boy/girl twin situation.  First time parents.  We named them William and Olivia.  The smile thing, though.  Mine smiled right from the get go, but this is almost always because they have gas, or are passing gas.  You've perfectly described night time feedings.  Baby cries, we wake up, and then we change their diapers and then feed and burp them.  And then comes the complicated dance of trying to get them to sleep and to stay asleep. It's easily the most difficult part of this for me. My wife has caved a couple times and has had one of them sleep in her arms for a while.  This is not a habit we want to continue though.  But I'll be damned if it doesn't work every single time.

And ditto on the video game thing.  I haven't got that part figured out, to be honest. My reading and video game time have taken a serious hit just because I never go more than 3 hours without having to interact or care for at least one of them.



Poor guy. Someone named Lonely Dolphin wants to be lonely all through life.

Kids are hard work, but bring far more joy than anything else I've experienced in life.



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