Send me a link to a job you are applying for and your cover letter and resume and I will tell you why.

Wtf is a management degree? you mean business management?

I'm quite bitter at the fact that everything revolves around money and having life goals for women, while we just usually ask of them to be pretty...and not even THAT pretty...just...desirable. Or the fact that being a man over 30 and not having too much money or a car instantly makes you a loser and not dateable to a lot of girls (I'm aware this statement is pretty unfair also, since women have a lot of social pressure on different aspects). I know this kind of thinking just makes me look even more pathetic so I never talk about it, but I just had to do it now.

I completed a useless Commerce/Business degree that I completed around 10 years ago. I applied for only low level jobs like: call centre, cleaning, factory, fast food and retail. I leave the degree off my resume and I only send letters expressing interest for the job and claim I am the best applicant for the job and that job is my dream job and I live to do that job. I would only produce resume if I had an interview. I never got a single interview.

I am a 24 year old junior in college and I have given up completely on having relationships with women. I want to state that I have female friends and do not hate women, but for someone like me I just cannot get a girlfriend or be in a stable relationship. I Shower everyday, I wear clothes that fit, i'm skinny, I try being myself and confident but most women my age want men who are scumbags. Every girl I know their boyfriend abuses alcohol and or drugs here at my university. I'm strait edge and have never done anything of the sort therefore I cannot attract any women in that aspect. I had a girlfriend this past summer for the first time since I was 19 and we were very close. However I was a jerk a couple of times and it ruined our relationship. I have made up with her since and we are friends but she obviously does not believe in second chances. I even took it upon myself to try and improve as a person in many aspects of my life and it still was not good enough. I worked on myself for months before talking to her again and asking her back out. Also because of #metoo i am deathly afraid to touch women even in a friendly manner like a handshake or a hug. At this point i'd rather be alone until society changes. I also hate rejection. i have been rejected so many times over the years that i'd rather never be rejected again. If I like someone I just make no mention of it and act like theres no possibility at all. I even went to a social gathering that a few of my female friends wanted me to go to and some chick tried hitting on me but she came off as disengenuine. Right of the bat she was flirty and acted like she knew me. She didn't even attempt to ease into it. It just rubbed me the wrong way, eventually I had to get short with her because she reeked of bad intentions.

Comfort is not your friend. In fact it's likely quite the opposite. Once you learn that and embrace that and become unafraid, then things can change.

Well I see one problem. You MUST submit the resume. Without the resume they automatically dismiss you.

Cold Calling isn't a bad idea, however you need to spin it in a way that you wish for them to file your paper work for any future opportunities.

Saying it is your dream job is over the top and sounds corny.

If you are applying for a specific job, formatting and presentation of cove rletter and resume do make all the difference:


Here is something I stole from mine that I been using for years and seems to work well in Victoria anyway:

     Your Name

    Your Address

     Your Email:me@domainname.com.au 

      Your Number: XXXX 

Person - (Find out their name) 

Their Job Title 

Company Name 

DD Month 20XX

Dear Sir/ Madam (ideally their name as it shows you went out of your way to show you are serious)

Re: XXXXXXXXXX

WHAT YOU APPLY FOR

I wish to apply for the advertised XXXXXXXXXXXXXX as advertised on YYYYYY.

 ABOUT YOUR SELF (SKILLS YOU OFFER)

I have over X years of experience in ……. and I have worked in the ………for the past XX year. I have a broad experience in dealing with ………………………..

IF U HAVE A CURRENT JOB AND RESPONSIBILITIES

Currently, I am ……... This includes:

·         Abc

·         Def

·         Xyz

PAST RESPONSIBILITIES IN JOBS

In my previous role with XXXXX, I was responsible for …………..

PERSONAL ATTRIBUTES THAT SUIT THIS ROLE
Personal attributes that I believe make me suitable for this position include:

 ·         Abc

·         Def

·         Xyz

WHY YOU FIT INTO THE COMPANY AND INTERESTED TO HEAR BACK TO TALK MORE

I believe that I have a lot to offer your organisation. I am keen to develop my professional skills and look forward to discussing my application with you at an interview.

RESUME AND THAT YOU ARE CONTACTABLE

I have enclosed a copy of my resume for your consideration and I will provide any further supporting documentation at your request. I can be contacted at all times on the details provided above.

Thanking you in advance for your time.

Yours sincerely

FirstName LastName

https://www.mysanantonio.com/opinion/commentary/article/Aspergers-focused-but-living-in-a-fog-6646768.php

Asperger worked with children who, while bright, exhibited the symptoms we now associate with the syndrome. The youngsters displayed poor communications skills, including a lack of empathy with their peers. And they lived in a different world, as if their environment were a tidy little box that few outsiders could open.

So what is the harm in creating your own box, your own space? We all carve out our little havens, our little sanctuaries, right? The difference is that those with Asperger’s are obsessed with their worlds, sometimes annoyingly so, and they do not understand when others are not as obsessed as they are.

They can be remarkably passionate and eloquent, but passion and eloquence have a shelf life, and when it comes to conversations, they pontificate long after the expiration date. They can go on and on and on, their sentences interrupted by clauses, as if their talks were prepared speeches, complete with colons, semi-colons and, sometimes, periods. This makes bonding with them difficult.

“Some people with ASD have the desire to fit in or want to make friends, while most do not desire to make friends,” said Ramirez, who has guided both me and my loved one. “They prefer to be in their own world and with their own interests and where they can control their environment.”

Wait till your final year or two of your degree. By then all the party girls are a yea ror two behind and only the serious ones are left to pick from.

Also don't give up with that other girl u were an ass with. Be her friend first again. Maybe she wants to see how far you willing to go to get her back in your life, or maybe she wants to see that you have bettered yourself first before giving it another go. You need to earn back that chance without putting pressure on her to give you another chance. If she is worth it, you will do that and not give up (obviously don't try for 2-3 years lol). Essentially you need to convince her that she needs you back in her life without yo telling her she needs you back.

Why not quote the whole article? I read it before your edit. He seemed to put it for what it was and made the best of it.

TBH reading those symptoms I bet a modern doctor would classify me with the condition.  I always say it is better not to know what is broken in you that way you just continue on with life instead of find justifications why you can't do it.

While I certainly don't view my autism in a negative light, I actually think being diagnosed at 19 was one of the best things to happen to me. Not only was it just nice to have an answer as to why I thought and felt so differently to others instead of constantly wondering what was wrong with me, it also put me on the path to finding a career I love in advocacy.

I do appreciate your advice. My ex and I talk 3-4 times a week through text and on the phone still. We go to different Universities and she said she wants to come visit me soon. I am still trying to be a better person. I have backed off on her, at first  I improved over the course of 3 months and asked her out a couple of times. She said no but still wanted to be friends so i just gave up entirely but i still make a point to stay in contact. She does seem to still have affection towards me. One small part of me hopes that soon she changes her mind but i'm not gonna hold my breath. We've been broken up  for 5 months now. Another thing that gives me hope is I rarely message her first. She is usually the one reaching out to me