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DrDoomz said:

I did. With her best friend.

You see, let me tell you a story: It was a stormy night, my gf at the time (my ex now) and I were spending the weekend in her best friend’s fiance’s cabin up on the hills. It was just the 3 of us as her best friend’s fiance had been called back due to family matters. Always thought her friend was cool as we hung out a lot (even without my gf or her fiance) and liked a lot of the same things. Heck, I would easily say that we were much more alike than me and my gf was. Didn’t really have a lot of female friends at the time but I would say that she was one that could really hang with.

Anyway we were bored so the 3 of us decided to pass the time talking and laughing and drinking wine and playing cards. My gf played as the “bank”. Time passed. We’ve already had quite a bit to drink and things got a little heated. My gf had won almost every game and me and her best friend were down to almost our last chips and my gf, drunk as she was, loved to remind us how badly we were doing. I’m usually used to my gf being a little abrasive when drunk but this time she was downright obnoxious. Likely a tactic to make us do even worse at cards. I would often look to her best friend and nod apologetically and we would both share a smirk. It got to a point where my gf and I almost got into an argument as I was quite drunk myself and I wasn’t really all that able to take the sometimes rather mean jabs she was indiscriminately throwing our way. We were down to our last chips and were just ready to quit so we threw all our chips on the table and bet it all so we could get this game over with and do something else. We lost interest in the game long ago so her best friend and I were actually having our own conversation on the side talking about our shared interests in games and comics. Laughing and getting along so as to shake off my gf’s rude provocations. I’d say in that moment, we actually really clicked more than we usually did as we both had our shared annoyance at my gf. We went thru another bottle of wine.

My gf volunteered to open another bottle, groggily stood up and headed for the kitchen. We knew it would take her some time to get back as she could barely walk straight. At that moment, her friend and I looked at each other knowingly and just knew. We knew what we wanted to do. We didn’t even have to say it, but we did anyway. So I looked her in the eye, gestured for her to be quiet and finally said what we both were thinking: “Let’s switch cards out of the deck so we can finally win!”. So we did. We won that hand, said game over and much gloating commenced. And that is how I cheated on my gf with her best friend. That was many years ago. Til this day, she doesn’t know. And I’ve since lost contact with both of them. True story.

Damn, the ultimate betrayal... 



If you require alcohol to have fun, then you have a problem

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No, and I never will. 



If you require alcohol to have fun, then you have a problem

No. When I’m with a woman, she’s the only one and it’s always been like this. If I start thinking about other women, it means the relationship is on it’s last leg.

Now, could you start giving your take/answer for once in your own threads?

You keep making threads after threads asking questions without ever providing your own stance. That feels kinda cheap.

Last edited by Hynad - on 11 November 2018

Because I was a terrible and selfish person that thought having sex was more important than my fiance and daughter. It's been over nine years, though.



Only once. It had its reasons, but I still deeply regret it, as it broke our trust and I lost the person forever. Should’ve broken up with her first.



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DrDoomz said:

I did. With her best friend.

You see, let me tell you a story: It was a stormy night, my gf at the time (my ex now) and I were spending the weekend in her best friend’s fiance’s cabin up on the hills. It was just the 3 of us as her best friend’s fiance had been called back due to family matters. Always thought her friend was cool as we hung out a lot (even without my gf or her fiance) and liked a lot of the same things. Heck, I would easily say that we were much more alike than me and my gf was. Didn’t really have a lot of female friends at the time but I would say that she was one that could really hang with.

Anyway we were bored so the 3 of us decided to pass the time talking and laughing and drinking wine and playing cards. My gf played as the “bank”. Time passed. We’ve already had quite a bit to drink and things got a little heated. My gf had won almost every game and me and her best friend were down to almost our last chips and my gf, drunk as she was, loved to remind us how badly we were doing. I’m usually used to my gf being a little abrasive when drunk but this time she was downright obnoxious. Likely a tactic to make us do even worse at cards. I would often look to her best friend and nod apologetically and we would both share a smirk. It got to a point where my gf and I almost got into an argument as I was quite drunk myself and I wasn’t really all that able to take the sometimes rather mean jabs she was indiscriminately throwing our way. We were down to our last chips and were just ready to quit so we threw all our chips on the table and bet it all so we could get this game over with and do something else. We lost interest in the game long ago so her best friend and I were actually having our own conversation on the side talking about our shared interests in games and comics. Laughing and getting along so as to shake off my gf’s rude provocations. I’d say in that moment, we actually really clicked more than we usually did as we both had our shared annoyance at my gf. We went thru another bottle of wine.

My gf volunteered to open another bottle, groggily stood up and headed for the kitchen. We knew it would take her some time to get back as she could barely walk straight. At that moment, her friend and I looked at each other knowingly and just knew. We knew what we wanted to do. We didn’t even have to say it, but we did anyway. So I looked her in the eye, gestured for her to be quiet and finally said what we both were thinking: “Let’s switch cards out of the deck so we can finally win!”. So we did. We won that hand, said game over and much gloating commenced. And that is how I cheated on my gf with her best friend. That was many years ago. Til this day, she doesn’t know. And I’ve since lost contact with both of them. True story.

lol. I see what you did there.



omarct said:
Yes, it is just part of life, just make sure to keep it purely carnal and protect yourself. I also thought similarly to many in this forum when I was in my late teens, but life and experience changes you and as you get older you realize that all these little things mean nothing after you die so there is no point in getting hung up on all that nonsense. Enjoy your life and whatever you do just make sure you wont regret doing it, or not doing it, later.

My wife and I have agreed that neither of us wants to hear about it if the other cheats, unless we want the marriage to end.  We were in our 30s when we met, and both of us have had enough experience to understand that shit happens. 

I want her to be satisfied.  If she needs something that I can't or won't give, shess freefto get it elsewhere.  Of course, I'd be hurt if I knew she fucked somebody else, so I don't want to hear about it.  And, our understanding is that if you cheat and feel guilty about it, that's your problem.  We're not allowed to unburden our own conscience by putting that shit on the other person.  

This works in theory.  Hopefully, it works in practice too. I guess if it does, I'll never know.



No because when it will happen to me it will hurt like hell. So I don't want to do that to someone I love.



Hynad said:

No. When I’m with a woman, she’s the only one and it’s always been like this. If I start thinking about other women, it means the relationship is on it’s last leg.

Now, could you start giving your take/answer for once in your own threads?

You keep making threads after threads asking questions without ever providing your own stance. That feels kinda cheap.

I don't like to start a thread like this off with my own two cents as I feel like that influences the direction of the thread and I'd prefer to let it take its own course before weighing in. I usually chime in later or when asked.

So to answer your own question, no, I have never cheated on a partner.



Well if your a 1960's Hippy it's not cheating, it's sharing the love

Last edited by Rab - on 03 December 2018