Illusion said: The real problem here is that today's society reinforces a certain behavior in men that is biologically unattractive to women. Women are biologically attracted to alpha males: men who are socially dominant and are able to express themselves with confidence in social situations (ie. football team captains, guys who ride motorcycles, guys who are musicians or artists and are good at expressing themselves, guys who are just fun and aren't afraid to crack jokes around a woman). A guy who can confidently have a conversation with a beautiful woman and tell jokes and be well-adjusted without having any fear of rejection to a woman is the equivalent of a stunning blond to a guy. I am not saying that personal interests, chemistry, values, etc... isn't important on an intellectual level to women, but it is a man's confidence that always forms the basis of sexual attraction in women. Even if you are half and half with some alpha and beta qualities, your girlfriend or wife's attraction to you will always be based on the alpha male traits that you do exhibit. |
" They can be as polite and kind as they want"
this goes double for the in my opinion fake feminist men out there that think by pandering the idiotic feminist nonsense that is foisted on them that women will appreciate them
when ironically all it does is repulse women on a deep level subconsciously even though consciously they'll say that's what they want
" alpha males does not equal abuser, it does not mean sexist"
the problem is it can equal abuser and despite their attraction to these traits women also deeply fear them because they can lead to abusive behavior
so that's where the idea of toxic masculinity comes from where these traits are viciously attacked and shamed by women even though they find them attractive
men look at this and get confused because they can clearly see that there is a schism formed when women say they dislike these traits but then end up preferring men with these traits constantly
these men as a result instead of using their common sense and making the judgement that it is what people do, not what they say that shows the driving influence in their behavior take the criticism at face value(despite observing contradictory behavior) and attempt to suppress their masculinity thinking that its the right thing to do to become weak and cowardly... that's where incels are born man
honestly i see no solution to this problem because despite the idiotic feminist nonsense about men and society constantly disregarding the needs of women, the truth is that men in particular have always been to a great extent sensitive to the expressed desires of women
if that was not the case you could not have men going along with this nonsense even though it is clearly nonsense and those men are trapped, because they want to do what women tell them is the right thing to do but it'll only end in them being cast aside and growing resentful as a result
but you better watch yourself, it'll soon become hate speech to make comments like this(if it is not already), since the prevailing narrative that is becoming more and more entrenched in society is the idea that men and women are the exact same psychologically and only diverge due to social pressure