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How to satiate sexual desires while maintaining respect for women?

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VGPolyglot said:
John2290 said:

I didn't say they didn't. Way to put words in my mouth. I'm  not simplifying anyone I just pointing out the reality that is plainly obvious. You speak like we are all robots and we live in a world where everyone must interface on some paired level, the fuck like? too much internet perhaps. Try tinder or some shit and meet real people. 

I'm sorry John, but I don't really put much trust in your views. In any case I'm fairly happy with my life as-is, yeah it could be better but I have other things that I'd much rather do before trying to get a girlfriend.

Then why make this thread. 

And yeah, Aye-aye. 



 

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I know you're not looking for a relationship but you made me think. There's a guy that I work with who's actually pretty charming. We work together so I know he has money. He's never had a girlfriend (why did autocorrect say"guy"? Wtf!?!) and he wants one but he's in his mid 20s and he's starting to hate women because they always turn him down.

We even cosplayed together at the Deadpool premier. I was Green Lantern and he was Spider-Man. Some HOT females were pretty much asking us to come over but he was just too nice and ruined the whole thing (for himself. I had a woman to go home to).

Being respectful and nice is not a bad thing but I think you need a little "edge". Before I became a cop, I couldn't pay a woman to be with me. I was being used all the time hoping that they'd see how nice I was and fall in love. It really doesn't work like that.

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John2290 said:
VGPolyglot said:

I'm sorry John, but I don't really put much trust in your views. In any case I'm fairly happy with my life as-is, yeah it could be better but I have other things that I'd much rather do before trying to get a girlfriend.

Then why make this thread. 

And yeah, Aye-aye. 

Well, multiple reasons:

1. It's a change of pace from what's normal on this site, so I decided to shuffle things up

2. I can learn of different perspectives and see what people think (so I'm not necessarily closed off to new ideas, but I can say that I don't agree with your views)

3. I hadn't made a thread in a while so I decided that it was time to make another one



Dark_Lord_2008 said:
1.)The MeToo Movement claims that approaching women is a crime unless they are interested in you and approach guys first.

2.)MeToo Movement jumps up and down and make lots noise about sexual harassment.

1.)  No it doesn't.  There's a difference between harassing a women and approaching one.  You're fine with approaching a woman.  You're not fine if you tell a stranger to suck your dick.  You're fine with asking a woman out.  You're not fine if you spend the next 15 minutes stalking her and asking her out another 15 times.  You're fine if you ask a woman out.  You're not fine if you call her a s*** just because she didn't say yes.  

2.)  MeToo is a group of people sharing their stories about being raped, about being assaulted, etc.  



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VGPolyglot said:

So, this is a topic that has profoundly troubled me for a while. I do have sexual desires, which I currently relieve through masturbation. However, it's hard to do that through thoughts alone, so I tend to use pornographic material too while doing that. Now, this is where the problem lies. The pornographic industry is not the happiest place at all, far from it in fact. Porn stars have a pretty high suicide rate and lower life-expectancy. This highlights the general unhappiness that porn stars have, and it makes it very hard to consciously watch porn without thinking of the working conditions and relationships, how dehumanizing it must be to have a job like that and the normalization of sex that makes it hard to fully enjoy it.

So, what I tend to do frequently is use fictional media instead, mainly hentai (in the forms of anime and doujinshi), as since they're fictional characters it is impossible for them to be truly hurt/exploited. However, I can understand that for others it's hard to do it, and even for me I tend to shuffle things up in order to be able to stay aroused and avoid desensitization. So, there has to be a happy medium. I myself try very hard to not have pornography affect my views and treatment of women, and I hope that I have maintained that. But I was also curious on your guys' thoughts and perspectives on the matter.

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Watch porn.

EDIT: 'K, I regret that, I wrote before reading the OP.



d21lewis said:
I know you're not looking for a relationship but you made me think. There's a guy that I work with who's actually pretty charming. We work together so I know he has money. He's never had a guy and he wants one but he's in his mid 20s and he's starting to hate women because they always turn him down.

We even cosplayed together at the Deadpool premier. I was Green Lantern and he was Spider-Man. Some HOT females were pretty much asking us to come over but he was just too nice and ruined the whole thing (for himself. I had a woman to go home to).

Being respectful and nice is not a bad thing but I think you need a little "edge". Before I became a cop, I couldn't pay a woman to be with me. I was being used all the time hoping that they'd see how nice I was and fall in love. It really doesn't work like that.

Yeah always the worst advice I get is "Be yourself". Even with full of confidence, kindness, funniness etc. I don't have that special emotional quirk that women desire. Gotta be the most unique person they ever met to really make a difference and that simply hasn't been me yet.



Adopt a winner takes all mentality and become an alpha male. Buy better clothes, wear a gold chain, get face and neck tattoos and work out at the gym to get totally jacked. 

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I disagree with the premise that watching porn is disrespectful to women. Sex work is legitimate work, and nearly everyone in the porn business is there because they have chosen to be. Acting like their work is somehow "disrespectful" is, in itself, disrespectful.

So, if you don't want to be disrespectful, maybe start by not being so judgmental and patronizing.