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curl-6 said:
bananaking21 said:

It's easy. All you have to do is appreciate women, be honest, be upfront, be yourself and be direct, and of course the a few hundreds to pay for the night. 

Hehe, yeah there is that. XD

On a serious note though, prostitution is still illegal and therefore dangerous in a lot of countries, and even where it's not, sex with a prostitute may not be helpful, as it doesn't feel earned and has no intimacy. Kinda like eating cardboard won't be much help to a starving man.

I keep bringing up solutions... Ya'll keep bringing up new problems. But I got this shit. Just you watch.

 

See what you gotta do is find yourself a girl online. Have a long distance relationship of the sort. You tell her that since there is distance she can go get some with other people, on the one condition that you watch. 

 

That solves the OPs problem of watching porn, since the conditions of said spank material is not bad and and does not raise her desire to commit suicide, nor decrease her life expectancy.

 

It also solves the problem of the intimacy, since after she does the dead you both can be nice and caring to each other. You will also feel as if you earned it because you worked hard to arrange all this happening (and earned her trust and all that yada yada yada)

 

It also solves the problem of respecting women since she is your girlfriend and you respect her. 

 

And it's all LEGAL (depending on the age of your gf, you filthy filthy man)



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VGPolyglot said:
bananaking21 said:

Are you saying that having sex with a woman is a "hassle?"

In my current situation, yes. In any case that's not a priority for me, I'd much rather befriend people at the moment instead of trying to get into sexual relationships.

Wrong attitude dude and bad priorities. You don't have to actually be a dick head to get women you just need to put up the front and learn where the balance is, jokes will get ya there most of the time but whatever you do, don't be the overly friendly type who white knights, avoid that or at least don't show it. Befriend women in a more indirect way casually and you have options. If you wanna fuck someone always catch their eye a few time when you first meet, smile repeat that a few times as it opens up a world of options and closes no doors. Anyway, You should be going clubbing at your age, or partying in crowds where you can just get drunk and end up bumping into someone or being grabbed with little effort socially. Not sure how things go in America but here it's frowned upon to go clubbing in your late 20's so that window of opportunities and easy shags is only open for so long, make prime use of it because it takes a lot more effort a decade down the road and you'll need those basic social skills it you're going to be in for a rough ride. You talk about Porn actresses health and safety but what about your own health and mental well being? Sorting that out for the sake of yourself and those around you might be where you want to start instead of worrying about porn actresses. 



 

John2290 said:
VGPolyglot said:

In my current situation, yes. In any case that's not a priority for me, I'd much rather befriend people at the moment instead of trying to get into sexual relationships.

Wrong attitude dude and bad priorities. You don't have to actually be a dick head to get women you just need to put up the front and learn where the balance is, jokes will get ya there most of the time but whatever you do, don't be the overly friendly type who white knights, avoid that or at least don't show it. Befriend women in a more indirect way casually and you have options. If you wanna fuck someone always catch their eye a few time when you first meet, smile repeat that a few times as it opens up a world of options and closes no doors. Anyway, You should be going clubbing at your age, or partying in crowds where you can just get drunk and end up bumping into someone or being grabbed with little effort socially. Not sure how things go in America but here it's frowned upon to go clubbing in your late 20's so that window of opportunities and easy shags is only open for so long, make prime use of it because it takes a lot more effort a decade down the road and you'll need those basic social skills it you're going to be in for a rough ride. You talk about Porn actresses health and safety but what about your own health and mental well being? Sorting that out for the sake of yourself and those around you might be where you want to start instead of worrying about porn actresses. 

Well, I don't just view women as games in which I'll eventually have sex with them though, there  are many things that are more important to me than having sex, I'm not a party person and I don't drink anyway though.



VGPolyglot said:
bananaking21 said:

Are you saying that having sex with a woman is a "hassle?"

In my current situation, yes. In any case that's not a priority for me, I'd much rather befriend people at the moment instead of trying to get into sexual relationships.

Alright. I'm going to be real with you and not respond with another joke post so you dont think i am mocking you personally. 

 

Of course this is just an assumption based on what you wrote and your wording of things. I could be totally wrong, or I could be spot on. 

 

It seems your using the "hassle" of entering a relationship as an excuse. Either

1- you are afraid of rejection and scared to try or

2- you are trying but can't seem to get into a relationship. 

 

Thus you created the excuse of the hassle in order to justify your decision to not pursue a relationship. 

 

The other thing that reaffirms this to me is that you said you'd rather befriend people than enter relationships. A relationship is also a friendship and it seems a bit nonsensical to not want to get close to a woman you enjoy being with and hanging around with. Of course there are women who you want to just be friends with and don't want to date. But putting that label on everyone by default is what makes it seem like there is a confidence problem. Because if you were in the situation to have a FWB I doubt you would have made this thread. 

 

This isn't a personal attack or trying to make you look bad. This is just an attempt (based on just two comments and my mind boggling perception) to identify the true problem here. You basically made a thread asking people what to beat your meat too, that doesn't seem like a great question to ask and one that shows that there is an underlying problem. 



bananaking21 said:
VGPolyglot said:

In my current situation, yes. In any case that's not a priority for me, I'd much rather befriend people at the moment instead of trying to get into sexual relationships.

Alright. I'm going to be real with you and not respond with another joke post so you dont think i am mocking you personally. 

 

Of course this is just an assumption based on what you wrote and your wording of things. I could be totally wrong, or I could be spot on. 

 

It seems your using the "hassle" of entering a relationship as an excuse. Either

1- you are afraid of rejection and scared to try or

2- you are trying but can't seem to get into a relationship. 

 

Thus you created the excuse of the hassle in order to justify your decision to not pursue a relationship. 

 

The other thing that reaffirms this to me is that you said you'd rather befriend people than enter relationships. A relationship is also a friendship and it seems a bit nonsensical to not want to get close to a woman you enjoy being with and hanging around with. Of course there are women who you want to just be friends with and don't want to date. But putting that label on everyone by default is what makes it seem like there is a confidence problem. Because if you were in the situation to have a FWB I doubt you would have made this thread. 

 

This isn't a personal attack or trying to make you look bad. This is just an attempt (based on just two comments and my mind boggling perception) to identify the true problem here. You basically made a thread asking people what to beat your meat too, that doesn't seem like a great question to ask and one that shows that there is an underlying problem. 

I've never tried to get into a relationship myself personally, yeah there were times when I did desire someone but the thing is that I am a very anxious person and very particular with my time, and getting into a relationship is a huge commitment, and it's just not something that I'm willing or able to commit to at the moment. What I said by friendship was that I don't even have any friends at the moment, so I think that having friends is kind of an important jump-start before trying to get a girlfriend, because otherwise I'd be way too dependant on her which could be potentially catastrophic.



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John2290 said:
d21lewis said:
Jerk off to whatever you like. It's your time and your penis.

Just know that it's not real. Also know that some women LOVE being treated...dirty. You have to get to know them first, though.

I'd say the vast majority of women if not every woman and I'd use the word, eh.. vulnerable. If there is one thing every man will learn in his life it's this fact. Befriending women and whiteknighting is a mistake too many young lads are making these days, it's like they don't have male groups to tell them to stop that shit. I'd reckon it's causing many problems in society too, both apparent and not so apparent.

I've had so many women tell me I was "too nice". If only I knew then what I know now. I'm married now, though. 



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VGPolyglot said:
John2290 said:

Wrong attitude dude and bad priorities. You don't have to actually be a dick head to get women you just need to put up the front and learn where the balance is, jokes will get ya there most of the time but whatever you do, don't be the overly friendly type who white knights, avoid that or at least don't show it. Befriend women in a more indirect way casually and you have options. If you wanna fuck someone always catch their eye a few time when you first meet, smile repeat that a few times as it opens up a world of options and closes no doors. Anyway, You should be going clubbing at your age, or partying in crowds where you can just get drunk and end up bumping into someone or being grabbed with little effort socially. Not sure how things go in America but here it's frowned upon to go clubbing in your late 20's so that window of opportunities and easy shags is only open for so long, make prime use of it because it takes a lot more effort a decade down the road and you'll need those basic social skills it you're going to be in for a rough ride. You talk about Porn actresses health and safety but what about your own health and mental well being? Sorting that out for the sake of yourself and those around you might be where you want to start instead of worrying about porn actresses. 

Well, I don't just view women as games in which I'll eventually have sex with them though, there  are many things that are more important to me than having sex, I'm not a party person and I don't drink anyway though.

Well arent you the right saint. Regardless, if that is your attitude I hope you can wheather the misery it'll bring to you and those around you. You can't do anything good for people or the world around you if you don't take care of yourself first. Mental castrating yourself yourself is a fucked up way to respect women and fact is, you may not see it and women don't show it but they want to be game, regardless if you play or not. Chasing women isn't going to hurt anyone for fuck sake...I mean ...ah im so confused here, I'm pretty sure you're just afraid and making excuses. Perhaps this thread is a cry for help because you certainly seem npt to have a male friend to push you on or if you do they are doing a piss poor job.

However, your life, your health and your mental state. I'll say no more besides you're batshit in not chasing women.



 

what you need is some Kellogg Corn Flakes to clear your mind from sinful thoughts.



d21lewis said:
John2290 said:

I'd say the vast majority of women if not every woman and I'd use the word, eh.. vulnerable. If there is one thing every man will learn in his life it's this fact. Befriending women and whiteknighting is a mistake too many young lads are making these days, it's like they don't have male groups to tell them to stop that shit. I'd reckon it's causing many problems in society too, both apparent and not so apparent.

I've had so many women tell me I was "too nice". If only I knew then what I know now. I'm married now, though. 

Married, ah, my condolences.

Indeed, Gotta find that balance, can't be too nice and ya can't be too much of an asshole if ya don't have the looks to sidestep that. The comedic route is the path best taken, just gotta be prepared to fail.