It's kind of a strange notion to hear about rape inside marriage. I mean with the exception of forced marriages, if you don't want to have sex with a certain person then don't marry that person, obviously... But marrying a person then complaining cause that person wants to have sex with you is kind of a non sequitur, well sort of.
"Wanting" to have sex can be VERY different from forcibly having sex with someone. Which can be very violent at times as well. Just because you're married to someone does not give them the right to abuse you.
And I totally agree with you, they do not have that right, if anything I'm amazed that there was a time when laws did not consider rape within marriage.
The point I was making in that post that you quote is very clear: If you don't want to have sex with someone or think you could not want to some time in the future, why marry that person? Marriage is supposed to be for life, if you don't feel like making a life commitment don't marry, just live with that person outside marriage and see how things go. I don't defend rape, I don't condone rapists, I'm ONLY saying it's weird to marry someone then having a problem with the very basic act that is totally specific to marriage: sex.
JUST AS it seems weird someone might want to rape a spouse, why would you want to rape a person you can totally legally have sex with? I'm just pointing the lack of logic from the rapist's mind.
Perhaps I'm too logical for my own good. I don't ever plan to rape anyone but if I had to rape someone, raping my wife is literally the last thing in the entire universe I'd ever think about doing. So the only conclusion I can come to is that rapists that rape their spouse are fundamental morons. It's dumb enough to rape a stranger and go to jail for it but raping someone you can actually have sex with and in a normal marriage, she will agree most of the time, becoming an asshole and going to jail for something you can do most of the time anyway makes no sense to me.