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Should I have been harsh?

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collint0101 said:

I feel like you overreacted but at the same time that guy sounds super fucking lame, like he sounds like the kind of edge lord that doesn't exist after middle school. I don't think I would have reacted like that but I can understand why and how someone else would

I generally deal with most people's flaws and don't around talking behind their back. I am very open with having people criticizing me. In return, I usually give someone a tip or two if they need it.

 

I suppose I was frustrated from the fact that he isn't a complete imbecile. The dude has his life in check, looks decent, and is managing in school. I would prefer to help him instead of having him stay lonely.

Cloudman said:
I do feel you could have handled it better, but it does sound like this guy also doesn't act appropriate and someone should explain that to him, that way he doesn't cause issues for other people he tries to befriend.

I think the issue is most people just give him the cold shoulder. Granted, I'm not exactly Mother Theresa (as shown from what I said to him), but I believe talking to him and giving a hand will help him significantly.



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It's not your responsibility to mentor this person and teach them about when their jokes might be in poor taste...
You're not being overly sensitive...
If you don't want to be around that, don't subject yourself to it...



Have a nice day...

The guy sounds like a dumbass so he deserved the lashing.



monocle_layton said:
Cloudman said:
I do feel you could have handled it better, but it does sound like this guy also doesn't act appropriate and someone should explain that to him, that way he doesn't cause issues for other people he tries to befriend.

I think the issue is most people just give him the cold shoulder. Granted, I'm not exactly Mother Theresa (as shown from what I said to him), but I believe talking to him and giving a hand will help him significantly.

Yeah, that sounds good. Clearing things up between you 2 and discussing more about him would be helpful.



 

              

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p0isonparadise said:
The guy sounds like a dumbass so he deserved the lashing.

I'm not gonna say he deserved it, but I believe it was necessary for him to wake up and realize he can't bottle up his issues forever

Cloudman said:
monocle_layton said:

I think the issue is most people just give him the cold shoulder. Granted, I'm not exactly Mother Theresa (as shown from what I said to him), but I believe talking to him and giving a hand will help him significantly.

Yeah, that sounds good. Clearing things up between you 2 and discussing more about him would be helpful.

At this point I honestly would prefer to see him not be miserable. Even if he isn't my favorite person in the world, I'm probably gonna stick to it



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IkePoR said:
Aeolus451 said:
That's not really dark humor. That's more anti-pc or edgy type. You're kinda overreacting to this and have this attitude that his sense of humor is lesser than yours or it's the bad kind. There's no bad kind. It's just different than yours. If you don't like his sense of humor, let me know and be done with it. If he doesn't stop with the jokes then stop hanging out with him. His mistake was not reading your reactions correctly.

The Muslim stuff is sure.  But rape and holocaust?  They are the epitome of dark humor.  

You're right about rape and holocaust being dark but the rest sounds edgy or anti-pc.



monocle_layton said:
Aeolus451 said:
That's not really dark humor. That's more anti-pc or edgy type. You're kinda overreacting to this and have this attitude that his sense of humor is lesser than yours or it's the bad kind. There's no bad kind. It's just different than yours. If you don't like his sense of humor, let me know and be done with it. If he doesn't stop with the jokes then stop hanging out with him. His mistake was not reading your reactions correctly.

It's not that i dislike when people have jokes i don't find funny. I don't find Kevin Hart to be hilarious, but I don't mind if I hear his jokes

 

I also don't have a problem with dark humour, but when he forces it in every conversation (even when I try to have a simple conversation), him believing that randomly blurting out 'ni**er' to me on school campus is funny was enough to piss me off.

 

He texted me about twenty minutes ago, and I think people have a point. The dude probably does struggle with finding a friend, and I might just continue to put up with him. We're still talking, and he seems to finally be opening up a bit.

 

I'm not sure if what I did was perfect, but it's allowed me to reach the dude. I'd rather have him be confronted and help him improve than allow him to simply be rejected and see him not change. 

 

Regardless of what I said to him, I don't believe abandoning him is the smart step. I'm gonna move past what we both did and help him get back on track. 

Perhaps he doesn't need help, perhaps he's looking for another a friend who's not judgemental. Honestly, you're looking down at him with this "he doesn't have friends" or "He's the lonely type or loser". Alot of people in this thread are giving you asshole advice over some jokes a guy told. If you accepted that his sense of humour/funny wasn't funny, you wouldn't try to change him or fix him. You would just tell him you don't like his edgy humor and that's that. If you're gonna look down at him or fix, save him the trouble, don't be "friends" with him. If you want to be geniune friends with him, accept him as is.



Aeolus451 said:
IkePoR said:

The Muslim stuff is sure.  But rape and holocaust?  They are the epitome of dark humor.  

You're right about rape and holocause being dark but the rest sounds edgy or anti-pc.

It's his way of going about this "humor."  He's not trying to be funny, he doesn't tell a dark joke.  As AngryLittleAlchemist said, he's trying to use raunch and "edgyness" as a replacement for a personality.  

Back to Layton though, as some have said, you're not this guy's mentor.  You're not there to "save" anyone(lest you are a missionary and chose to withold this fact).  Though it seems with you texting now, the rule has applied that usually applies - you made your mind up before starting this thread and just wanted assurance that you made the right choice.



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monocle_layton said:
Mystro-Sama said:
Is this in real life or online?

Real life. He then texted me recently online.

I gave him my number a few days after meeting him, but we never texted, so it did surprise me when he randomly sent a message

So he just randomly came up to you and knew who you were?