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Should I have been harsh?

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College has been going fine for me. School has never been issue, and there have only been two major events where I recall being extremely irritated (one I posted on here and excluded details from - oops).

 

Anyway, for the past few years I simply did myself, so I never had any issues beyond the typical grump or two. That all changed however when someone randomly called my name and introduced themselves to me.

 

"Hi Monocle_Layton. I wanted to see if you want to be friends or something".

 

I didn't mind much, as he seemed to be a weird person. I agreed, and told him I wouldn't mind. Unfortunately, that would turn into a terrible mistake.

 

At first, he would simply joke often and include one dark joke here and there. I definitely never found it hilarious, but comedy is subjective. Unfortunately, it only got worse as he continued to believe I enjoyed the edgy shit he kept telling me. From dull Muslim rape jokes to Holocaust jokes, I honestly began to lose my patience slowly. However, I kept my cool since I typically never lose my temper over such things.

 

It was only until he randomly called me a ni**er that I snapped for the first time in over a year. School isn't exactly killing me, but I was tired from work and was not in the mood to have an unfunny prick call me a slur.

 

I called him out directly and told him being edgy isn't funny, and that he'd need to cut it out. I'd understand if someone is 13, but at 18+ you seriously need to get it together.

 

Instead of getting a reasonable response, I get something I didn't anticipate. With an annoyed face, he said "No need to be triggered over a joke".

 

Afterwords, I then yelled at someone with anger for the first time since middle school. I said his humour is shit and that he hides his pathetic sense of comedy behind 'irony' and edge, and that I only pretended to be his only friend because I didn't want anyone ever having to deal with him. By then I'm sure he realized there was nowhere to go after this, so I left him and haven't said a word to him in a few days.

 

I feel rather bad for some of the things I said, but honestly I don't understand how some people live like this. I seriously hate pushing others down, but at that point is telling the truth going to even hurt him? I want to see him improve, but I honesty can't be with someone who shoe-horns muslim, holocaust, and racial jokes (which are probably stolen from Reddit) into any conversation I start.

 

It's painful to sit in class and see Becky be uncomfortable from the 'edgy' joke he's attempting to tell her. By now I'm not sure what he'll do, but I've been wondering if simply moving on is the best thing for me.

 



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It sounds like ye just don't get along, simple as that, he isn't your problem, forget him and move on to other mates.

If more people start to do that when he gets all edgy and "funny" he will either stop doing it or else he will meet people who appreciate that sort of humour and they can hang out together, either way like I said, ye don't get along, he is unlikely to change and same goes for your own sense of humour, you can't mold everyone into a person you will like.



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I legit feel bad for the dude. He is probably a lonely person with no friends who only knows how to communicate with jokes because he doesn't have anything interesting about him aside from that. I love dark humor, there have probably even been times where I've inserted jokes into conversations that didn't need them. I think it's fine to be honest with someone and say that the friendship won't work out. But you probably destroyed him. I guess you have to do what's best for you though, god knows bad jokes are the worst. I could be wrong though, since you probably don't know his personal life much. I just know that in High School, I resorted to being a class clown to get any interaction I could. And if I was in college right now I'd probably do the same.



You're not alone mate. Nothing pisses me off more than some bloke who starts shit and when he's called out, throws his hands up and feigns "just relax, bro!" As if the fuck did nothing to warrant a reaction.

Move on, Layton. You can't be the savior of Becky or any other Becky's out there. Less you like this Becky, then just take her out and stay away from the ringpiece



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I legit feel bad for the dude. He is probably a lonely person with no friends who only knows how to communicate with jokes because he doesn't have anything interesting about him aside from that. I love dark humor, there have probably even been times where I've inserted jokes into conversations that didn't need them. I think it's fine to be honest with someone and say that the friendship won't work out. But you probably destroyed him. I guess you have to do what's best for you though, god knows bad jokes are the worst. I could be wrong though, since you probably don't know his personal life much. I just know that in High School, I resorted to being a class clown to get any interaction I could. And if I was in college right now I'd probably do the same.

Do Americans always take the side of the fire starter or just when they can relate to him?

There's nothing wrong with clowning around and trying to humor your way into social situations.   But there's a point where you're not "just being cheeky" anymore and turn to an actual dick no one wants to be around.  



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The guy clearly needed a friend, and thought your open-minded attitude could accommodate his humor and personality. Unfortunately for him, he misread you and you attacked him in a fashion that he probably felt was unjustified. Maybe instead of snapping, you could have simply let him know "Hey, I don't care for dark humor. If you really want to stay my friend, then don't share dark humor with me."



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The guy sounds like a loser. Taking a step back from him was the right choice imo.



I guess I enjoy some dark humour myself, but the question is whether or not just calling someone a "nigger" is really what constitutes as dark humour. Now, I don't nearly know him or the situation well enough to say much more than that, I'd have to have enough experience with him myself to make a judgment.



IkePoR said:

Do Americans always take the side of the fire starter or just when they can relate to him?

There's nothing wrong with clowning around and trying to humor your way into social situations.   But there's a point where you're not "just being cheeky" anymore and turn to an actual dick no one wants to be around.  

What does me being american have to do with anything? 

And of course the guy was being a dick, a douche, an annoying asshole. But it wasn't intentional. Lacking self awareness is one thing. Intentionally being a dick is another. And if your response to someone who clearly needs some help understanding social interaction is to not just push them away but be mean to them, then I will respect your decision. As I said in my original post, that's fine if that's what Layton wants to do. But I will have sympathy for the other party. And it's not because i'm an american who loves fire starters! It has nothing to do with that. Besides, I would say that I've been in Layton's specific scenario multiple times, and never the other way around.



That's not really dark humor. That's more anti-pc or edgy type. You're kinda overreacting to this and have this attitude that his sense of humor is lesser than yours or it's the bad kind. There's no bad kind. It's just different than yours. If you don't like his sense of humor, let me know and be done with it. If he doesn't stop with the jokes then stop hanging out with him. His mistake was not reading your reactions correctly.