I hate to be the one to say this... but i will. Abort.

You haven't said much about her, but im gonna assume that unlike you shes not chasing any further education and whatnot. So it's possible that this "child" may be the single biggest and best thing she's got to show for herself.

A lot of people get swooned away by having a child. That's the easy part. Raising it is the hard part. (I don't have kids yet but I know). Make her understand this, but if she refuses... pls try and find a way to accomplish what you have set out to do while still being there for the child.

I do agree that there is never a "perfect" time to have a child (in most instances when the pregnancy is not planned), and sometimes it works out. But in all honesty I do not think this is one of those cases... So yeah, my decision would probably be to try and end the pregnancy, otherwise this could easily destroy your and in the long run your own child's life.

Never the less, I hope for the best m8. This can be one hell of a hard decision.

What is her current status ? is she studying ? does she have a job ?Does she feel ready to spend the rest of her life with a person that considers her as a friend (and probably feels the same for you) ?
Ask yourself/her this questions and then decide accordingly, sometimes abortion is for the better...

Congratulations (on not using a condom)!

There is no easy choice to be made here, and whatever you choose, you will wonder if it was the right thing to do for a long time. Watever you decide, I wish you the best.

The key thing here is, will you love the child? It may be a no-brainer to some people, but as someone who works for a living with special needs children and adults -I can tell you right now that not everyone does. Or, perhaps they did, but were unprepared for the trials and tribulations of parenthood. Basically, as long as you know you'll love the child despite its inconvenience, keep it. If not, don't. Because there's nothing more heartbreaking than an unloved child.

Not saying it'll be easy being a parent either XD I, myself, am not a parent. But you're probably aware of how important it is to give them the love and attention they deserve and the variables that come with them. Sickness, injury, and a child's naive nature lead to other issues which may emotionally hurt you, your significant other, or them. Keep in mind a child (keeping till 18, US data btw) is about $250,000-300,000 dollars. So they've a pretty hefty investment. Being a parent is a hard job, but damn well worth it in the end... unless they become a serial killer. Or serial rapist. Or both. Or something else awful.

If it is such a big dream, there are still ways to make it work. It's not impossible to do both and I know many people who have managed to do both. 

The most important thing right now is to decide whether you wish to stay with this girl. If not the next question would be if she is willing to raise the child on her own if you can't be there for her. 

I've known her for a few years, she's had some battles with mental issues and is currently on anti-depressants. But that is meaningless to me, I don't trust any 20 year old (being 21 myself I know we can be irresponsible) to raise a child. And it's even worse when it's your own child. 

Unfortunately you are right, but we were using contraception. She just forgot to take it, hence my apprehensions to her raising a child as seen above.

I wouldn't be in a relationship with her, we'd just be friends raising a baby, which I have let her know. Although we wouldn't be friends as I would always hold resentment and apprehension toward her for what could've been.

It just sucks that my gender leaves me powerless to this situation.

If I wanted to keep it and she didn't, there's no way on this planet I would advocate for her to have a child she didn't want. But we're not all the same I guess.