You said nothing about your girlfriend situation save for what was in the title. Not to be rude, but is she good with people, good people skills or suddenly religious? Giving sex is the woman's job, just like being a provider is the man's job but sometimes some people just don't fulfill their role very well bc they have one problem or another. Or is she frequently manipulative? That's not a good sign either. I'm surprised you would stand for a platonic relationship, I mean a sexless relationship unless you're both foot washing baptists, isn't going to last bc sex and intimacy brings you closer, it's important dude.

Still not friend ingredients but good luck with this regardless.

Moderated - VXIII

So she's trying to manipulate you with sex...

Something like this happened to me once. I acted shocked, as one should, because it's an obvious attempt of manipulation and really doesn't help with trust. She never did it again. We broke up 1 month after tho as she became increasingly bothered by something. She couldn't explain why but I bet it was because she had no control over me whatsoever.

IMO:

- You need to have a really good talk on trust because of how blatantly she's trying to manipulate you.
- If it doesn't work and you still want to be with her so you'll get married, then get a prenup or be potentially R.I.P (should get a prenup always anyways).
- Leave her and find someone that atleast tries to hide her manipulation attempts. Someone decent that doesn't try to manipulate you like that would be optimal.

I don't know why you would have kids without being married.  I know people do it, I just think kids deserve married parents with a good nest, who are ready for them before they get created.  And like others have said, a marriage can be as cheap as just getting a legal document signed.

But the real issue the ultimatum and the blackmail.  Not sure it's if they are joking or if they are the kind of person that punishes others if they don't get their way.  If it's the second, my advice, run, run as fast as you can.  First to your lawyer and file for some custody arrangement, then to your own place away from someone who thinks its appropriate to punish and adult in a relationship with another adult.

Marry her

Actually, that Adam and Eve romanticism was tacked on later.  (Plus, the whole thing with their kids inbreeding.)

Marriage started in the State (a long time ago, not the USA ones.) as a contract, and later adopted by religions as they saw a way to make money and do more.  Things change over time.  Even the Roman Cathothlics were not against birth control till the Plague wiped out so many people and they feared civilization would collapse.

Much of what we think about religious marriage has been adopted and incorporated from other traditions or invented after they started adding the practice.

Like the Christians and Christmas. Christmas was a pagan holiday they incorporated, and nothing to do with the time of the year they even think Jesus was born.  Things often get rewritten to fit how they want it to fit.

Thank you!

I'm so saddened and offended by the 'wait until marriage' thing about sex.  I think it is actually immoral.  In my opinion, marriage is to imporant to make it about the permission to have sex.

You should be an adult and how if you are compatable, and sex is often a good part of that relationship.

They will pay for everything and even give you a house as a wedding gift. 

Lol took me 5 years to get engaged then 4 years to get married.

captain obvious here? to get divorced one must first get married lol

What country do you live in that has no women are not the provider? Prety much feminism destroyed the concept of men being the provider.