Its pretty harmless.. The dance of love is about teasing and triggering reactions from each other.. Otherwise you are that creepy stalker guy.. Thats the fun in the hunt.. And it definitly speeds things up cause you'll get a glimps about how she thinks about you.. Otherwise you're friendzoned faster then you can imagine..

To be honest, while i'm absolutly happy with my relationship, i still flirt harmlessly from time to time with women.. Just a small talk to make them feel a tiny bit more special at that moment.. And then i get text messages from girls saying sorry cause they forgot to have a drink with me.. I even had a girl saying she was extremly sorry we couldn't go for a drink cause her grandmother was dying.. Which was wierd.. My gf trust me not to cross the line which i never do..

And for discount... Its damn handy if the young girl at the register at my local grocery store lets me get away with not bringing the discount coupons tomthe store but still gives me discount

So?

Today it seems like she definitely isn't showing up to class. We're past the halfway mark, and no-show.

Possibly due to midterms week, or she could be sick, who knows?

Edit: It's a good thing i also brought my lunch today as a just-in-case.

Teehee maybe she didn't show up cause she remembered getting a drink with you.. xD

Probably need to bookmark this thread... Its gonna take forever

Occam's razor suggests she's just ill. Given that we only have one class a week, completely missing a class means you've missed 1/15th of the entire course, so you usually should have a good reason. To seriously think that she was avoiding me would require a lot of paranoia from me (and i am feeling quite collected today), and a very middle-school mindset from her, so i'm not really worried about that being the case.

That or she's studying. I know she has an econ midterm tomorrow. (she told me what her thursday class was, i'm not stalking. Then i saw other students from that class swarming to see the professor about a midterm)

The peculiarity was this one girl, who's possibly her roommate (and whose name i no longer recall. Met them together at the party where i first noticed her). She showed up and then left midway through the class, which is also an oddity, undeclared as it was.

It's a shame, too, sunshine today despite the forecast calling for rain. Oh well. I'll keep an eye out for her tomorrow, might bump into each other. I did use the lunch hour to go pick up a prescription, so there's that

Spotted her, which isolates class number 4, Thursday 3-6 (matching mine, though my Thursday usually lets me out early, which is why i've never spotted her on the way out). Unfortunately she was talking with someone, another guy (not that i'm especially worried. I could have been sniped, but that's the nature of things, c'est la vie)

Helps me pin down another time we could get together, though, since i get out of work on Thursdays at 2, so there's another hour gap there.

You remind me of myself a few years ago. I learned the only safe way to let go of my anxiety actually and move forward on personal relationships was being a cheapass and outright showcasing interest and flirting right off the bat with a LOT of girls. A lot of girls will appreciate the attitude if you manage not to pass as a weirdo. You can leave the friendly talk for later if she responds on a positive fashion.

I'd try to flirt more on your case rather than stand the risk of eating someone's dust. Because if that happens, believe me, even if you get her in the end, the psychological malaise of remembering her past relationships, while you were still asserting the risks, will eat you from the inside out.

I've got a good bead on what I *should* do here, it's just that the chances to do it are relatively scarce. A) i have to do anything in person at this point and B) It would be rude to interrupt another conversation, or creepy to follow her and wait for an opportunity to talk.

If she had showed up to class yesterday, i'd likely be across the Rubicon by now. Instead i sit on the banks, waiting.

(least i've got Smash Bros to pass the time )

yeah about that.. Just don't do that with the same class/group/hangout.. Otherwise you'll get a stamp of being that a-hole who tried to get in the pants of every girl in the class.. Once my teacher said "damn NiKKoM its like you're crossing of a list.." and you'll end up getting a letter, yes an actual letter, from one if the girls about how much of an a-hole you are and she's sick of me pulling on strings of different girls whenever I wanted to, not caring about the feelings of the others, so she wanted to end our friendship or whatever relationship we were having and she was empowered not to be one of the girls anymore who was stringed by me..

Now i was young back then so naturally I charmed my way back in.. Which was absolutly a horrible thing for me to do.. I wonder if she ok nowadays..

lol

But that's why i'm trying to play this cool, it's not that large of a graduate school (only about 500 students, so smaller than even the small high school i went to. It's embedded in a huge, huge university, but the program itself is small)