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O/ hurrreaaaah.. At least she agreed to get a coffee with you..
Thats step 1... But now we have to keep the thread alive for another week...



 

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Heh, this thread reminds me all too much of when I first met my girlfriend (coming up to two years now). Fates weren't as kind to me, though. First time we met, I dropped my lunch all over my suit.

Second time, the whole "gun rights" thing came up, and we got into an argument (she's come around after two years thought ).

You're braver than me, though, actually getting to ask her out like that. I had to initially ask her out... via a message... whilst out drunk with some friends. The message was flagged as "seen" within five minutes of asking... she didn't respond for hours. Fortunate for me, she said yes. Unfortunately for me, she picked a pricey Japanese restaurant (I should have known then what this thing would cost me), and doubly-unfortunately for me, I found out the reason why she took so long to respond was because she was contacting mutual people we knew to find out if I was safe to go out with... meaning that, essentially, everybody who knew us, knew that I asked her out, before I even knew the answer.



SamuelRSmith said:
Heh, this thread reminds me all too much of when I first met my girlfriend (coming up to two years now). Fates weren't as kind to me, though. First time we met, I dropped my lunch all over my suit.

Second time, the whole "gun rights" thing came up, and we got into an argument (she's come around after two years thought ).

You're braver than me, though, actually getting to ask her out like that. I had to initially ask her out... via a message... whilst out drunk with some friends. The message was flagged as "seen" within five minutes of asking... she didn't respond for hours. Fortunate for me, she said yes. Unfortunately for me, she picked a pricey Japanese restaurant (I should have known then what this thing would cost me), and doubly-unfortunately for me, I found out the reason why she took so long to respond was because she was contacting mutual people we knew to find out if I was safe to go out with... meaning that, essentially, everybody who knew us, knew that I asked her out, before I even knew the answer.

Precisely the kind of thing i'm hoping to avoid, because i hate people asking questions about stuff like this, unless they're someone i'm really tight with who i know really cares about me (so very close friends, or my parents. That's basically it on that front).

Jobs are in the same category. There were a lot of relatives in my family that you just couldn't talk about job prospects with, because then this or that happens, you don't get the job, then you endure a battery of "you didn't get the job, huh, well why not?" or similar well-meaning questions (they weren't being mean about it) that still made you feel bad about what happened. Relationships would be much the same way, though this is the closest i've come to even the general vicinity of a relationship in the last four years, so i don't  have any experience on that front.

Plus in this case i wanted to avoid putting her on the spot. She left class talking with a group of people, and i hung back (ended up talking to my project partner anyway,) waited until she split with them and got on an elevator, got on the same elevator (though still one more person in there), then was able to get a moment "alone" (still in a very public place, mind, not like i'm trying to corner her or anything) to make the ask. Just for something to drink or lunch, i said, vaguely motioning towards the open-air park outside our grad school building.

She hasn't unfriended me yet on facebook, so i know i haven't freaked her out



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SamuelRSmith said

You're braver than me, though, actually getting to ask her out like that. 

Lol.. His original plan was sit closer to her in class and wait till mid october.. We had to persuade him for 100 posts to get to this point.. But anyway. Its good that Mr. Kahn did it so he can see for himself its ok to ask a girl to go for coffee.. Cause while we can talk about what he should do, its still himself who has to believe in our words and do it himself... Now he just has to learn to drink coffee..



 

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NiKKoM said:
SamuelRSmith said

You're braver than me, though, actually getting to ask her out like that. 

Lol.. His original plan was sit closer to her in class and wait till mid october.. We had to persuade him for 100 posts to get to this point.. But anyway. Its good that Mr. Kahn did it so he can see for himself its ok to ask a girl to go for coffee.. Cause while we can talk about what he should do, its still himself who has to believe in our words and do it himself... Now he just has to learn to drink coffee..

Well, it did work out that way anyway, didn't it? I sat next to her today, and must wait at least until October 8th to go out.

It's probably going to be this tea place, though. It's closer and less likely to be hideously crowded at that time of day (that park i mentioned earlier).



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Mr Khan said:

Well, it did work out that way anyway, didn't it? I sat next to her today, and must wait at least until October 8th to go out.

It's probably going to be this tea place, though. It's closer and less likely to be hideously crowded at that time of day (that park i mentioned earlier).

You lucked out and you know it.. Its better you asked today.. This thread wouldn't lasted that long till mid october..  She could have said no then and it would be month later before any progress.. xD

Keep the tea place in mind but always ask her first where she wants to go, if she doesn't know mention the tea place.. Don't be freaked out if she drags a friend along, it happens, nothing to do with you, its a women thing.. And  remember at the end:  "lets do this again soon" its not hard, it shows confidence



 

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Step 1) Buy a box.
Step 2) Cut a hole in that box.


I can't remember the rest of the steps, but I hear it works...



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She came by during work again, dropping off another form for my boss. Less conversational this time, but she was in the middle of a class (three hour classes, again, so they give us breaks midway). No mention was made of the lunch plans

And now I am prey to a million insecurities.

Edit: This doesn, however, mean that i've isolated one more of her classes, so know 3/4ths of her schedule.

If i had to guess, the 4th class is on Monday when i'm not around. Not that it really matters.



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Mr Khan said:

She came by during work again, dropping off another form for my boss. Less conversational this time, but she was in the middle of a class (three hour classes, again, so they give us breaks midway). No mention was made of the lunch plans

And now I am prey to a million insecurities.

Edit: This doesn, however, mean that i've isolated one more of her classes, so know 3/4ths of her schedule.

If i had to guess, the 4th class is on Monday when i'm not around. Not that it really matters.

lol... I have the feeling we'll get arrested for aiding a stalker...

Anyway.. actually i have nothing to say about the million of insecurities thing.. it happens.. some can get past it easily others not so..
How was her body language? Did she even said hi to you? did she smile when she saw you? Did she acknowledge your existence?





 

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NiKKoM said:
Mr Khan said:

She came by during work again, dropping off another form for my boss. Less conversational this time, but she was in the middle of a class (three hour classes, again, so they give us breaks midway). No mention was made of the lunch plans

And now I am prey to a million insecurities.

Edit: This doesn, however, mean that i've isolated one more of her classes, so know 3/4ths of her schedule.

If i had to guess, the 4th class is on Monday when i'm not around. Not that it really matters.

lol... I have the feeling we'll get arrested for aiding a stalker...

Anyway.. actually i have nothing to say about the million of insecurities thing.. it happens.. some can get past it easily others not so..
How was her body language? Did she even said hi to you? did she smile when she saw you? Did she acknowledge your existence?



She had to acknowledge me: it's my job to take stuff to my boss. She talked a little, but seemed to be in a rush. She was cordial and smiled, though.

Given that her body language matches what it was last time (pre-ask. She just had to get back to class this time), I would suspect that she is a little awkward around me, possibly indicative of mutual attraction? I doubt she would have said yes if i made her uncomfortable, unless she felt that to refuse yesterday would have been too impolite.

Yes, i know. Too much thinking. Smash Bros weekend (plus family wedding), so i'm not going to be consumed by this.



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