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S.T.A.G.E. on 11 January 2014
Izo said:
I've been in my own head endlessly thinking for so long. I never had that social appeal my brothers/friends had and I always thought, like the OP, it was because I didn't try. There was a period in my life where I had to realize that to myself I was this amazing person who dreamed these amazing dreams and felt the wonders of the world, but I could never get anyone to see it.

People will always see me as a boring person. Although it isn't always fun to watch as people distant themselves from you for it, there is a good part. Let's face it, if you're boring and people don't want to be around you because you don't do what "acceptable" thing is like being a funny guy or w/e then the people doing this are probably shells of uninteresting creatures.

This is just my opinion and I know there are great people who are also funny, but when I see a group of people and the only thing holding them together is a collection of personalities that make everyone laugh I can only think that if you took that generic everyday humor away there wouldn't be anything there. I've tried to engage with many funny people on a 1 on 1 basis and it feels like I can't get anything real from them. It's almost like funny people are uncomfortable when they can't exercise that skill.

To sum up this insanity, you may not be boring OP, your inward process may just be much more interesting than the average laugh it up, don't talk serious, person can handle.If you notice something, the people who are close to you and listen probably think you are one of the interesting characters they've met.

(It should be noted that funny can be interchanged with socially skilled, cool to be around, people want to be around, gatherers of the attention, ect)


Most comedians are the way they are because they can take a look at the world they live in and make light of it while telling you the truth. Theres a truth almost anything a comic says, hence why people laugh. They bring to light the irony in life. I've never met a funny person yet who hasn't said something real to me. Sucks for you, bro. I hope you meet some real ones later on down the road. Theres so many different types of comedians as well these days. Awkward comedians are some of the funniest people as well. I have a teacher who is a rather awkward person and everytime he cracks a joke or makes a sarcastic statement it more often than not comes out funny.



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Izo on 11 January 2014
S.T.A.G.E. said:
Izo said:
I've been in my own head endlessly thinking for so long. I never had that social appeal my brothers/friends had and I always thought, like the OP, it was because I didn't try. There was a period in my life where I had to realize that to myself I was this amazing person who dreamed these amazing dreams and felt the wonders of the world, but I could never get anyone to see it.

People will always see me as a boring person. Although it isn't always fun to watch as people distant themselves from you for it, there is a good part. Let's face it, if you're boring and people don't want to be around you because you don't do what "acceptable" thing is like being a funny guy or w/e then the people doing this are probably shells of uninteresting creatures.

This is just my opinion and I know there are great people who are also funny, but when I see a group of people and the only thing holding them together is a collection of personalities that make everyone laugh I can only think that if you took that generic everyday humor away there wouldn't be anything there. I've tried to engage with many funny people on a 1 on 1 basis and it feels like I can't get anything real from them. It's almost like funny people are uncomfortable when they can't exercise that skill.

To sum up this insanity, you may not be boring OP, your inward process may just be much more interesting than the average laugh it up, don't talk serious, person can handle.If you notice something, the people who are close to you and listen probably think you are one of the interesting characters they've met.

(It should be noted that funny can be interchanged with socially skilled, cool to be around, people want to be around, gatherers of the attention, ect)


Most comedians are the way they are because they can take a look at the world they live in and make light of it while telling you the truth. Theres a truth almost anything a comic says, hence why people laugh. They bring to light the irony in life. I've never met a funny person yet who hasn't said something real to me. Sucks for you, bro. I hope you meet some real ones later on down the road. Theres so many different types of comedians as well these days. 

While I am not directly talking about comedians (just regular guys/gals with normal social skills is what I am referring to mostly) I live in a world where a big majority of the people I've met dislike me. For whatever reason I am just not a likeable guy, I come across creepy to most. In any world where someone who says real things to others but would dismiss me because I am what I am, I automatically lower them on the "real person" scale. A true inward thinker approaches a situation much differently and sadly it's the people with even just a moderatetly decent personality that dissmis me the fastest. 

That stuff really bothered me in 18-21 years as I was forced to accept that I would never be the guy that makes the entire room laugh. Instead I will be the guy that gets a solid small group of friends who unlike the majority ,were for whatever reason, able to accept me. So they are extra special to a boring guy such as myself. 



S.T.A.G.E. on 11 January 2014
Izo said:
S.T.A.G.E. said:
Izo said:
I've been in my own head endlessly thinking for so long. I never had that social appeal my brothers/friends had and I always thought, like the OP, it was because I didn't try. There was a period in my life where I had to realize that to myself I was this amazing person who dreamed these amazing dreams and felt the wonders of the world, but I could never get anyone to see it.

People will always see me as a boring person. Although it isn't always fun to watch as people distant themselves from you for it, there is a good part. Let's face it, if you're boring and people don't want to be around you because you don't do what "acceptable" thing is like being a funny guy or w/e then the people doing this are probably shells of uninteresting creatures.

This is just my opinion and I know there are great people who are also funny, but when I see a group of people and the only thing holding them together is a collection of personalities that make everyone laugh I can only think that if you took that generic everyday humor away there wouldn't be anything there. I've tried to engage with many funny people on a 1 on 1 basis and it feels like I can't get anything real from them. It's almost like funny people are uncomfortable when they can't exercise that skill.

To sum up this insanity, you may not be boring OP, your inward process may just be much more interesting than the average laugh it up, don't talk serious, person can handle.If you notice something, the people who are close to you and listen probably think you are one of the interesting characters they've met.

(It should be noted that funny can be interchanged with socially skilled, cool to be around, people want to be around, gatherers of the attention, ect)


Most comedians are the way they are because they can take a look at the world they live in and make light of it while telling you the truth. Theres a truth almost anything a comic says, hence why people laugh. They bring to light the irony in life. I've never met a funny person yet who hasn't said something real to me. Sucks for you, bro. I hope you meet some real ones later on down the road. Theres so many different types of comedians as well these days. 

While I am not directly talking about comedians (just regular guys/gals with normal social skills is what I am referring to mostly) I live in a world where a big majority of the people I've met dislike me. For whatever reason I am just not a likeable guy, I come across creepy to most. In any world where someone who says real things to others but would dismiss me because I am what I am, I automatically lower them on the "real person" scale. A true inward thinker approaches a situation much differently and sadly it's the people with even just a moderatetly decent personality that dissmis me the fastest. 

That stuff really bothered me in 18-21 years as I was forced to accept that I would never be the guy that makes the entire room laugh. Instead I will be the guy that gets a solid small group of friends who unlike the majority ,were for whatever reason, able to accept me. So they are extra special to a boring guy such as myself. 


Hurts me to read that bro. I've never been in that position. Im sorry.



burninmylight on 11 January 2014

You're not boring, you're just socially awkward. Go out, talk to some people, say whatever the hell you feel like. Some things will be awkward, creepy or unfunny, some will be funny and interesting. Figure out what works and what doesn't.

For some of us, socializing is like training for a sport or profession, or leveling up in an RPG. Building experience through practice is everything.



WIzarDE on 12 January 2014

@ Jay520

Honestly I think you are confusing being interesting and being funny. Unless I have misread your post, which would be unfortunate.

Being funny isn't a easy thing, and if you over think things then it will most certainly back fire. Saying funny things usually comes naturally.
But of course there is always the being funny by making fun of friends, which anyone can do. Now don't get me wrong this isn't the making fun to put them down, this is something you do with close friends and when hanging out with new acquaintances you start to tell funny and embarrassing events you all have been through. This usually lightens the mood and everyone will jump in with stories, ensuring you get to know these people better and get a good laugh out of it.

Now to me being interesting is something you have to put some measure of work into it, it would involve learning skills like cooking, instruments, another language or on the other hand involve the practice of sports like rock climbing, mountain biking, sky diving, skying etc...
I also find people who know a lot about different foods and travel a lot to be interesting.

I might be wrong but I think funny and interesting are two different things for instance I have friends who I find funny but other than that they are pretty average and I have friends who I find interesting but Niagara falls would dry up before they could make me laugh.



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Cleary397 on 12 January 2014

the idea of being "boring" is subjective.
The people you associate with at the moment may consider you "boring" but everyone has their own interests.



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Turkish on 12 January 2014

OP there is nothing wrong with cha, dont try to be funny if you're not, there are many ways to be an interesting person, who says you need to be funny in order to be interesting? lol. So many people try to be something they're not because they want to fit in with a certain audience. If those people dont like you for what you are, you're hanging out with the wrong people.

Seriously, so many people force themselves to be something they are not, they are not true to themselves. The people either accept you for what you are or tell them to GTFO.



fps_d0minat0r on 14 January 2014

check out this thread
http://gamrconnect.vgchartz.com/thread.php?id=176031&page=1#

Apparently im boring because im an INTP:
http://www.16personalities.com/intp-personality

my last post here I said this often described me:

Its because "They may appear dreamy sometimes, but this is not because their mind is resting – quite the opposite."

and it desribes my reluctancy to have a conversation (IRL)....

"One of the few bottlenecks that INTPs impose upon themselves is their restless fear of possible failure"

and the nail in the coffin for me being boring....

"An INTP is unlikely to care much about social expectations" - so true, im not wasting my life meeting expectations, only the weak minded are affected by the dark force that is known as social expectation, I do what I like, if others accept it then fine, but I have no interest in changing my lifestyle or likes and dislikes to fit in with others, that would be degradation.